Why is staying committed such a challenging task?

Me and my girlfriend have had issuses also with staying committed. with diets and exercise programs and such. the problem for us is we can be going good at something for a few weeks and then decide to take a day of and be lazy, then 1 day turn into 2 then 3 and so on. I guess it's just finding a way to keep yourself motivated to complete such task. I think that's one of the reasons I don't do New Years resalutions..lol. One thing that has been helping us lately is just motivating each other. If I see she is starting to slack then I try to give her that little push she needs because once she starts slacking then so do I. =( I guess that's part of being in a relationship. Not only to have a shoulder to cry on but to be eachothers support systems and motivation.

Don't we all tend to do only that what we really want to do? Don't like to clean house? Earn extra at work then pay a maid. Can't stay on diets?? Find a nutritionist who can give you tasty meals. Don't like to exercise? Do something fun like go dancing, or swimming. You have to package it to where you want to do it.

Some people are just naturally lazy and there really isn't much that will change them. I've met a few people that are quite messy and no amount of telling them to change has helped. My solution is just to buy less junk so you have less to clean.

I'm exactly the same way as you are to a degree. I like to keep a completely clean house but when it comes to my bedroom after a couple of weeks things start to pile up. Such as papers from the mail, plus books and magazines. Exercising is the same thing. I will get into for about a week and then fall short and just get bored with it. I think we just get bored of the same thing and need a change. To be that disciplined its really hard I think. There are only two thing I see myself disciplined in and that is when I'm working. I'm quite dedicated worker and my eating habits. I'm diciplined in eating good food and small portions. Since you started this discussion starting tomorrow I'm going to see about making sure to keep my bedroom clear of the mail/magazines/books. You say after two weeks you start to fail. Once that two weeks is coming don't let yourself fail just keep up the good work. Make it to a month and keep on going. I'm going to do it. Maybe starting Monday I will start to exercise for 30 minutes every other day. This could be a good motivation for both of us.

lol, I am a procrastinator by heart. That is where my problem lies. For example, I know i am supposed to prepare for a coming test next week, but i will keep on putting it off until only 1 day is left. This, makes me somewhat not too committed as I simply keep putting off things I am supposed to do. Anyway, as far as the question is concerned, I know what you are talking about there as well. Even if we are determined to keep up with something sooner or later we slip somewhere and somehow give up. I think it is more of a boredom issue with me. I cannot stand routine for too long, so to make sure i stay committed in doing something i am supposed to do, i look ways to make it more fun for me. Like, putting on music at high volume and dancing/singing across my room while I clean it. Maybe, you might wanna try the 'make things fun' part. Let me know how it works.

It is because human mind is never satisfied with what it gets. We always want more from our partners, which is not possible.. So, we find it from others.. this has a fatal result in our commitment..

That is because human is ugly and never happy with what they have currently and look for something better or there is a change of heart.

I guess most people are like that. :) Most of us don't like to exercise and diet; and, of course, cleaning is a boring chore. Why on earth do you want to be committed to such things? Just take life as it comes. Clean the room when you feel like. Diet when the number on the weighing machine horrifies you. I guess these are the wrong things to say, eh? Cheers and happy Mylotting

phoenix hi I also flunk out on my exercise programs and on walking a certain distance every day. i could do the exercise for a week then just quit samewith dieting but I can stick to cutting back a bit on'calories and stick to this pretty well until we get a superduper dessert and I am off the wagon again. I guess this is one of lifes'little mysteries why we start to do something good for us'and then we fizzle out,I think if i had someone doing dieting and exercise with me I could stick to it.

It is such a challenging task as some promises are meant to be broken. It is better not to keep promises but stays with a smooth flow along with your partner in good terms and live to a day with a trust and respect. it is better that way and relationship are tested through thick and thin. only the tough and loyal survives with true love..

I think getting and staying committed is ofcourse a challeging thing especially for the people who have a wavry mind the one who cannot and havent stayed committed for seriously.Because committment is something when we love and decide to be with that one person forever, and promise never to break a relation with her/him.and i think it gets sometimes difficult because we sometimes tend to fall in love many times and in a short time span too.

I think staying committed is not such a hard work when you give preference to that particular thing in life. If you like reading more than playing , more likely, you will stay committed to reading even though you may not be that much committed to playing. The same case applies to boyfriends & girlfriends also. If you like a girl/ boy more, you are more likely to stay with him/her & incase you like some one else more or if you don't like your GF/BF, then there are chances that you find it hard to stay committed. So I think your liking & interest plays a good part in the challenge of being committed

Hi, phoenix! It seems my auntie and you are of the same type. She often makes decisions and always does a good job at the begining but leaves a mass in the end. But do you know that is the reason why my uncle loves her:) Since broken order can always give him some new crazy ideas, he called her damning angel even from long ago. As far as I know, my autie is more committed to a feeling than to an activity, I think. When she decides to clean rooms, her real mind still focuses on my uncle's opinions. She enjoys the feeling to be praised by her lover. I don't know whether you act the same way. If the answer is yes, you are of some most fortunate women. You have a true lover who is deserved to be committed to. If the answer is no, you maybe of some other kind damning angels. Anyway, let things pass as natural as they could be. Best wishes!

I think staying committed is directly proportional to your interest in the activity to which you want to be committed to. There are other factors like: 1. What you expect out of that activity and if you have already achieved it which could possibly be the reason to deviate from it. 2. The activty is taking too much of your valuable time and you feel that its worth abandoning it. 3. The activity takes too long to give you the result you are looking for. This could be one of the most possible causes.