What are the reasons for not having a child?

Hi Krupesh, Oftentimes, if you make the choice not to have children, people think that there must be something wrong with you. It is ingrained in us, from a young age, that the sole purpose of life is to get married and have kids. When you're single, people won't stop asking you when you're going to settle down - then, as soon as you get hitched, they start asking you when you're going to have a baby. People rarely consider the fact that you might not desire to have any children yet, or get married for that matter! I think having a child is a sole decision of the couples. If they want a kid they will definitely plan for it. I think a couple must plan when there ready to take care there kid . when both understand their responsible. Thanks..

I feel that it is great to have children when you are still strong and young so that the family setup grows together, as you achieve your career goals and climb the corporate ladder, your children should be there. At least they should be the reason for your achievement. What will you be feeling if therez no one close to you to celebrate your achievements with you? Still having children at retirement according to me is not good since it will be already hard for you to handle child welfare properly, you will be tired and not energetic enough to take up the challenges well. I suggest that if possible consider having children at an early age and then settle down to making a fortune for them.

I don't there will be a reason for not having a child. But, I can understand that if there is a reason for not having a child soon after marraige. I am doing the same. It is not only a matter of career. Before having a child, you should make sure that you have enough moeny to take care of the child. If not, it is good to have a child after sometime for the future of the child.

It is also the other way round, we as parents can fulfill our duties towards our children when we are healthy and our responsibilities are less when we have children early.

not having a child is a choice like if couples still want to spend more time to each other first or will going to earn first and be stable so they can give good life to their kids. having child not really means that you will have someone to look after you once you get old coz they have their life too. i guess its a wrong thinking... having child is your way to show how the two of you will looks like when looking upon your child. your child will give your life meaning, will give you inspiration that you need to do and work hard for them. and that they are your offspring that will continue your bloodline up to the coming generations... of course as a child they will look and take care of their parents once they get old coz its part of life and its one way of thanking for giving them life and good life.

Sometimes people will assume that you are choosing your career over children when there may actually be many reasons for not having them at a particular time - my husband and I after only 5 years have marriage have had advice from all sides and many have expected us to get on with procreating...lol And many have assumed that I am some 'career girl' putting my own life first, but this is not the case. My own mother gave me up for adoption because she couldn't provide for three of us. My husband and I are in a position right now where we are struggling to buy food and pay the rent, and I just think it would unwise to put a child in that situation. I also have medical issues which would make it hard to cope right now, and I don't believe I could be the mother I would want to be. So often the reasons are not that simple and as someone else said, its very individual to the couple.

Krupesh, in India, most of the parents stay with their children, in their old age. They think the children will take care of all their needs in their old age, and that is why they are having the child at the early age. But if you look, at the westerners, they first make some money for themselves, and then only they have children, that is because, the child itself takes care of its education, once he/she grows up and goes to the University. As time passes the same thing will happen in India also, and I think that is one of the reason, the couples are having children at a late stage. The only problem is the Indian womans constitution is different from her western counterparts and she may have difficulty in her delivery if she is above 35 years.

Hi krupesh, having child early on, and not having enough to give the child proper future does not really make sense, does it? If, on the other hand, the couple have a nice home to their liking, and can think of saving comfortably for retirement in foreseeable future, and still have enough on their hands for child, then of course, ur contention would hold some water. In general, however, most people do not have homes, and can barely spare for their retirement. Homes have become ridiculously expensive. If people have children before they can afford one, they feel burdened by them, and often try to pass them on to other happy go lucky beings, or are often seeking financial help. I dont think that is fair. If others have to sacrifice some of their pleasures for the sake of my child, I think it would be very selfish, rather gross, on my part to bring that child into the world. And ur suggestion that children might look after the parents in old age is equally horrible. A child should be wanted for the sake of a child, and not because there is something to be gained at a future date as if the child were some investment! U r an Indian, and I am presuming Hindu, so u know what Gita says. Dont expect fruits for what u do. Just do ur duty.

I have to disagree on this. I think having a children is a very special and important decision and shouldn't be made on a time schedule due age, financial, career, or any other decisions- but made because you feel that the time is right. My husband and I were married for 11 years before we had a our first son. In a lot of peoples opinion we were older, I was 31 he was 36. We waited out of choice because we were building our careers and our home first- again this was our choice. We have no regrets at all and are glad that we had years to build our marriage and have a strong foundation before we had kids. So I really feel that people should have their children when they feel they can raise them in their time.