"When are you going to divorce?" What would you say if your friend asks this?
By tutor19us
@tutor19us (455)
India
August 31, 2009 9:25am CST
I have a friend who keeps asking me in no uncertain terms this statement. I am not surprised because she is undergoing a very traumatic phas ein her life. I do not judge her based on these but I do get irritated sometimes. I feel she is being prophetic and pray that her words should not ring true.
Does anybody have a friend like this? If so, what do you do when they traumatise you? What should anyone do in such a situation?
Happy mylotting :)
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3 responses
@shantha_45 (332)
• India
31 Aug 09
Hi Tutor, May be your friend wishes
in her inner mind what she says comes true.
As far as possible keep away from her.
Even you happen to listen to her tell her in a polished way
what you think about marriage and you will certainly
inform her when you decide to diverse and she only
should accompany you.What do you say?
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@tutor19us (455)
• India
1 Sep 09
Well maybe. I am not sure. But yes, she certainly feels not so positive about my marriage. Let us see. I wish she would have a nice life so that her woes end and she becomes happier. :)
@sblossom (2168)
•
31 Aug 09
Your friend is too strange. I have never a friend like that to ask me so odd question. As you said it’s a big insult. I wonder how you tolerant with this question. If I were you I think I would say my feeling directly. Mostly I would be very angry with it.
I know many people in the world don’t respect marriage any more. However I’m still the traditional one. I would not think any question about like that on myself and on my friends.
Mind you better to keep a distance with this friend. It maybe affect your way to think marriage.
@tutor19us (455)
• India
1 Sep 09
Yes, my mother would vehemently agree with you. But you know what, we have had great times together. I got married late and its not even a year now. Till the time I got married my friend was great and always used to be happy and talk nice things, but after my marriage she has changed. :)
@daliaj (5674)
• India
31 Aug 09
It is a very irritating question. Your friend should nto judger other based on her situation. I will tell her that I will inform her once I think about divocrce and request her not to repeat the question. I have come across people like your friend who create problems in others relationships becaue they judge people based on their experience.
@tutor19us (455)
• India
1 Sep 09
Hi
Yes Daliaj, my friend has had a very bad relation. But you know what, I feel that she has brought it onto herself. She was never happy with the relation and had always been cribbing about it. I felt she should have surely got a divorce long back. Atleast her husband would have had a chance to marry someone who would be happy with him. :)
I feel irritated and sad too that I have to hear such negative things about my marriage. I am not even a year old into it and I hate when people simply pass judgements as they please. I am also slightly superstitious so I feel scared... :)
