Can Two People Be Friends Again After A Fight Or Misunderstadning?
By preethaanju
@preethaanju (3000)
India
September 3, 2009 2:01am CST
They say character,friends and glass can never be mended once it is broken. It cant be the original same again. This is more true about human relationships than non living things. Suspicion, doubts, fear, lack of trust and faith and other negative emotions infilterate, making it difficult for either of the two or both to have the same understanding and acceptance as before.Is it possible for relationships to regain its orginality once broken?
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@preethaanju (3000)
• India
3 Sep 09
yes thanks for ur response. Am on my way to start anew thx
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@dipteevaidya123 (21)
• India
5 Sep 09
YES,it is possible for relationships to regain its originality.all negative emotions are part of life and this emotions come in every relationship but we should understand that our friendship is more important for us than this.no person is perfect,so we should learn to forgive and if we do any fault then its our responsibility to accept it.in this case the most important thing is to talk with the friend keeping our egos aside..and try our best to keep the relationship the way it was earlier...
@bitoffun (203)
• United States
5 Sep 09
My best friend and I had a falling out a few years ago. It all started with our kis who are the same ages. We bot said things we didn`t mean and things that were true. It took a few months for us to speak again and then to get back to where we were in our friendship. But we are now best friends again. We don`t talk about what happened. Only once did we discuss it and then we let it go. We have been friends for over 30 years and it was a silly argument. So in my opinion if your friendship was strong to begin with you can overcome any problems.
@pratyushtamhankar (859)
• India
5 Sep 09
Yup its possible alright. Misunderstandings are always part of any relationship. And it is our job to clear the misunderstandings. There are loads of times when I have misunderstandings with my friends and we often end up not talking. I remember having a friend. We were walking down a road one day and I said something to her. She felt very bad that day because of it and I had no clue cause I'm so stupid 
I say anything without thinking twice 
. So what happened was that this girl didn't talk with me for 2 days. And no exaggeration but those 2 days were like 2 years. I tried to talk with her, ask her the reason of her anger or sadness, but no reply for 2 days. Then on the 2nd day in the evening we had a talk with each other. It was a rainy evening, we talked about that evening's events and the outcome was oh so lovely...
Maybe you can guess what happened next diptee... 
Take care...
I say anything without thinking twice . So what happened was that this girl didn't talk with me for 2 days. And no exaggeration but those 2 days were like 2 years. I tried to talk with her, ask her the reason of her anger or sadness, but no reply for 2 days. Then on the 2nd day in the evening we had a talk with each other. It was a rainy evening, we talked about that evening's events and the outcome was oh so lovely...
Maybe you can guess what happened next diptee...
Take care...@preethaanju (3000)
• India
6 Sep 09
Yes i can guess, a hug and a kiss? wow its nice to have friends like that thx
@derek_a (10873)
•
3 Sep 09
Yes, I fully believe this. I have fallen out of friendship with people many times in the past, but noticed that the only person who was losing out by holding a grudge was myself. It was much better when we became friends again. Now I tend to share with my loved ones and friends, and not stop talking to them.. 
- Derek
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@preethaanju (3000)
• India
3 Sep 09
My heart too says that it is possible to reunite thx
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@srganesh (6340)
• India
3 Sep 09
If the misunderstanding can be cleared and both are ready to shake hands,then it is possible.But the scar will be there reminding all the bad things they throw at each other in the mean time of their fight.Best thing is to ignore each other for a little time and time will heal all wounds.Cheers!
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@preethaanju (3000)
• India
3 Sep 09
May not be practically possible to shake hands with someone in chennai and the other in mysore. But think i will seek her friendship again, because she was the first one to respond to my topic. How can i leave someone who was the earliest on mylot? thx
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@madugulagopi (1093)
• India
3 Sep 09
Two friends can be friends again after a fight or a quarrel but after a misunderstanding I think its difficult because fights often occur between friends and they become normal afterwards but if misunderstandings arise they should be stopped immediately otherwise they can never be normal again.
The best way to avoid misunderstandings is to be open to each other
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@preethaanju (3000)
• India
3 Sep 09
Yes i respect the opinion of mylotters who have all said that frdship can be restored. I will do it with someone i have behaved improperly
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@tarundrebellian (186)
• India
3 Sep 09
Whenever there is any confusion, always listen to your heart and not to any third person because your heart is certainly your best friend as well as your biggest enemy.I haven't fought with my friends yet.There is no chance for me to leave them.
@preethaanju (3000)
• India
3 Sep 09
yes ur right i have consulted my heart and it was my ego that caused so much trouble.. am on my way to make that person friend again
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@mansha (6298)
• India
5 Sep 09
Best friends do fight and make up its the back stabbing that hurtrs a relationship more. I have lot of friends who I know I can count on any time. Only those who have gssiped abotu me or backl stabbed me , I haebecome vary of and are no longer in my friends list. There is a differenc between friends and acquaintences. If you can judge that, then youa re set for great relationships through out life.
@preethaanju (3000)
• India
5 Sep 09
Yes a true friend wont mind speaking the truth. A fake friend will spk lies and sing praises even when he find mistakes...thx
@sugarlen (138)
• Philippines
5 Sep 09
it all depends, you can regain it if you are sincere in mending the relationship. tho its really a tough one but love will still win if you are serious in regaining it and not simply lip-service.
@jpso138 (7851)
• Philippines
4 Sep 09
You certainly have a point there. I have heard of many situations like these. But I have also encountered a situation wherein after a fight and serious misunderstanding, two friends became friends again and in fact their friendship was more stronger the second time around. But this kind of situation does not happen often. Most of the time, it happens the way you describe it.
@martinnez (2)
• Mexico
5 Sep 09
friend are friends, no matter what. friendship i think of as tree that i planted many years ago some of them dont make it but those that stand, make it thru any kind of trouble, and last forever, i mean longer than our lives, and flower and give fruit....
maybe you just have to evaluate is it a real friend??
then its OK and go get together!!
one think my grandpa told me is: in your life you'll get to know many people, but few of them will be your friends. here we say you get to know your friends when you're in jail or sick.... or get poor.
@preethaanju (3000)
• India
5 Sep 09
u have drawn a nice a anology. Tree and friends. Yes some stay for ever and some fal in between thx
@jugsjugs (12967)
•
5 Sep 09
It would be nice if two people could be friends after a fight or a break up as i think life would be so much better for all concerned.I think that when you break up it is hard enough but if you are married and end up getting a divorce i think that the solicetors stir things up soo much that it is hard to be friends let alone get back together.
@preethaanju (3000)
• India
6 Sep 09
fights and misunderstandings sometimes firms a relationship. We are frds again thx
@kevchua (1004)
• Malaysia
3 Sep 09
Yes, it can because I've just experienced this. It actually takes two to tango. If one party is willing to ask for forgiveness, and the other party is willing to accept, then the relationship will be back to normal. Once things are normal again, make sure it doesn't recur or else there's no third chance.
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@suesan35 (478)
• Sri Lanka
6 Sep 09
You can mend a broken friendship preethaanju provided you are sincere in wanting to do so. If the fault was yours, you have to be big minded enough to apologize and admit that you were too hasty or whatever you did that caused the misunderstanding. If the fault was with the other party and if he or she apologises, don't keep harping back to it ever again even as a joke.
@rlliam71 (34)
• United Arab Emirates
4 Sep 09
The wound of a fight or misunderstanding may heal but it will definitely leave a scar. However, some scars do disappear as time goes by. These scars of a fight or misunderstanding are brought about by petty things only and can easily be neglected in the future. So becoming friends again after this incident really depends on the nature of the scar incurred.
@preethaanju (3000)
• India
6 Sep 09
yes the seriousness depends on what issues the misunderstanding started.. if its trivial then it can be mended thx
@whiteheather39 (24403)
• United States
4 Sep 09
I think it also depends on the reason for the break up and just how it impacted you. I have patched broken friendships up but must admit it is never quite the same as before the break.
@preethaanju (3000)
• India
6 Sep 09
Yes even though i have mended with my estranged frd still i feel there is not tat same confidence and belief anymore. We are frds just for the sake of being frd thx
@weasel81 (2496)
• Australia
3 Sep 09
yes people can be friends after a fight. i had a massive fight (big in my view) with my work mate we both said things we shouldn't. it was rather quite at work for a few days after, but slowly we started talking like before. i think he relised he was in the wrong to. we don't mention what happened, just get over it and move on.
unlike when i had fight with someone who was supossed to be a close friend she hit below the belt about my son, i won't even bother with her now and haven't for 3/4 yrs.
but it will fall back to what the fight was about int he first place.
@preethaanju (3000)
• India
3 Sep 09
yes true friends fight and then reunite. Its better to have no friendship which is so fragile thx
@vinslounge (1295)
• India
3 Sep 09
Yes two people can be friends again once their fight or misunderstanding is being resolved. Afterall Fight is a common thing between friends and fight is inevitable within friends and they become good buddies only if they have a fight. Hence two people can be friends again after a fight or misunderstanding. Thanks for posting this discussion and have a great day. Happy Mylotting. Cheers:-)
@preethaanju (3000)
• India
3 Sep 09
Yes ur right . fighting sometimes strengthens the relationship. will try and settle the matter thx
@meapas (2436)
• India
3 Sep 09
First of all believe in your self. Every thing else is secondary. Don't believe always what others say. Look at East Germany and West Germany. Are they not one again? Look at England's relation with India. Are they not cordial?
Come on friend let us forget the past and shake hands with love and better understanding. Life is too short to waste it this way.
Even if we cannot become like Jesus Christ, Mahatma Gandhi, Nelson Mandela or Mother Therasa; at least follow their foot prints.
@preethaanju (3000)
• India
3 Sep 09
yes if nations can reunite and become friendly why cant two individuals? thx
@LetranKnight25 (33121)
• Philippines
3 Sep 09
Doesn't mean that you two are friend that does mean you don't have to argue or fight each other. 
it's natural part of friendship but it depends if either parties would want to reconcile because of their differences. remember, we are all different from each other but we should always have respect .
@archana83 (57)
• India
3 Sep 09
A simple friend thinks the friendship over when you have an argument or fight.
But A real friend knows that it's not a friendship until after you've had a fight.
@preethaanju (3000)
• India
3 Sep 09
yes good and appropriate thoughts. Fighting is one way of testing the sincerity of a friend..thx
