Cheating in a Relationship/Marriage

@xtinelee (3371)
Singapore
November 13, 2006 6:48pm CST
What if your partner cheated in a relationship/marriage? Would you divorce him? Would you break up with him? (in the case of a relationship) Why, and why not?
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17 responses
@suzieque (2334)
• Canada
14 Nov 06
I would break up with him. If he done it once, he would probably do it again! But if I was married and had kids, I'm not to sure about it. I would have to talk it out with him because their are children to consider.
@xtinelee (3371)
• Singapore
14 Nov 06
Yeah, I totally agree. Children are quite an impt factor in a marriage to consider.
• India
22 Nov 06
I do agree with her !!!!
@missinghim (1339)
• United States
14 Nov 06
There was a time where in my relationship I got cheated on and stayed with him because I thought that I loved him so much that I couldn't be without him. Then I woke up one day and realized that if he couldn't respect & love me the way that I respected & loved him, and if he couldn't take our relationship as seriously as I took it, then what was the point of me staying? To get disrespected, lied to... as if my feelings & emotions weren't relevant? Well least to say I left him after that and never looked back. So I said all of that to say that no, I don't think that I would stay in a relationship where my partner was cheating on me, however, I may have second thoughts about it if we were actually married with children. Just because there are vows that we took in front of God and there are children to consider. I think that we would have to really get some serious counseling though for me to stay.
@xtinelee (3371)
• Singapore
16 Nov 06
Yup, I agree with both of you. When you are in a relationship, it's easier to walk out. But when kids are involved, things get more complicated, because your decision don't only affect yourself.
• United States
17 Apr 07
There are different people with different relationships. I personally would forgive my husband one time only. I would try to figure out why it happened and work at it from there.
@pendragon (3349)
• United States
28 Nov 06
They would be history.That's the worst betrayal, you ruin someones trust and life.
• Singapore
14 Nov 06
i always believe that 'a cheater will always be a cheater' im not very lenient when it comes to any betrayal of love/relationship. it doesnt matter whether i am single/married, children/without children, i will choose to walk out
@xtinelee (3371)
• Singapore
14 Nov 06
a woman with her own stand. :)
• Philippines
28 Nov 06
smile - just want to be happy even for a while
i'll give him a chance, anyway we're just human and anybody can make mistake but if he cheats on me again I guess it's if we go on separate ways
@vipul20044 (5793)
• India
14 Nov 06
yes i would probably breakup Relations are all about committment If she can cheat once she can do that again!
• India
28 Nov 06
first i be herted by this.. but at last i ll do same..
@sunita64 (6469)
• India
28 Nov 06
Because of kids one stays in such relationship otherwise there is no respect for the other.
@Karma71 (175)
• United States
14 Nov 06
I would break up with him. I have been cheated on and in my experience if they cheat once they will do it again.
• Philippines
26 Nov 06
yes i will devorce or break up if i found my partner is cheating oin me..
@jettacos (63)
• Philippines
24 Nov 06
break up with her...
@rash219 (808)
• United States
28 Nov 06
ofcourse i would breakup...i mean when u put your faith into some1 some1 who you think loves you back you actually end up sharing a very delicate part of you ....n if that faith is broken it equal to being stabbed on the back....i would never forgive such a woman.....specially if it was some1 i know who told me abt the affair....but jus b4 leaving i would like to know wat was it tat i did wrong for her to cheat on me....
@arlena040 (252)
• United States
25 Nov 06
I would divorce my husband if he cheats on me. i honestly don't think a cheater loves there partner if they cheat , and they certainly have no respect for there partner or they would not be cheating . i could not forgive him .
@hcprasad (1012)
• India
14 Nov 06
Yes it is a good subject. In my case also the so called partners who were relatives cheated me and I had to be on street. But I kept cool having faith in my skill and ability. With the blessings of god and motivation by my wife, I started business of my own and succeeded. I kept the cheaters away as far as possible. Never I scolded them and stood for myself. Now they are trying their utmost to have my relation again but I am not giving them any room. HENCE MY ADVICE IS TO KEEP THEM AWAY AND NEGLECT. NEGLIGENCE IS THE BEST MEDICINE.
@bodomgirl (1614)
• Italy
14 Nov 06
i could leave him and divorce
@vinodamz (21)
• India
14 Nov 06
i WOULD BREAK UP WITH HIM IF YOU ASK WHY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!THEN I REPLY SHE HAD CHEATED MEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE