Is it bad to let your children see you drinking with your friends?

There is a difference between drinking and getting drunk. I've seen my parents have a drink with friends on occasion, but no one ever got drunk. Its one or two drinks at the most. If you can't control the amount you drink, then you have a problem. It's not good for kids to see or have parents who cant control their drinking.

If it obviously upset them to the point where they were crying, why did you do it again? No offense, but that was very selfish of you. I understand that you want to enjoy yourself but keep that away from your children. One, it is a bad influence and two, they just don't need to see their mother intoxicated. If you want to drink with your friends, either take your children away from your home for their night (to grandparents, friends houses, etc.) or don't drink at your home while you know they are there. Especially if they already confronted you and told you how they felt about it. I'm sure they feel very betrayed by you right now and if I were you, I would be sure to drink at times you know they will not be present. I'm sorry, but you are a parent now and with that comes responsibiliy and if that means not drinking with your friends while they are home then that is what you need to do.

kinda..in a way they somehow adopt what they saw,what they heard.. dont know much,,,haven't done it

That is a tough one. I don't think it is bad for our children to see us drinking. With that said, I do wonder what the impact is if we let them watch us loose total control. I think it is important for us to model the behavior we want our children to have. We, as parents, are obligated to teach our children right and wrong. I am certainly not saying I have not been "too drunk" since I had children. That would be a lie. However, my children have not seen this side of me. I only allow myself two drinks when my children are present at a function. This not only allows me to loosen up with friends, but it also teaches my children socially acceptable ways to drink. I am sure your children were not scared for life by this, however it obviously impacted them pretty deeply. I would suggest respecting there emotions and not allowing yourself to get wasted. Find your line and don't cross it when they are around. Remember to have fun with life!

You should not hurt their feelings. Children always have esteemed respect for their parents.Whatever you are doing it should not be at the cost of their good feelings about their loved one.

Drinking is really a addiction and not easy to quit all of sudden. But good thing is there are many rehabilition center for helping to get rid of these habits. Try them and make a great change in your life.

Enjoying oneself through drinking is fun and not bad but whenthe act of getting drunk and acting weird in front of the children is bad. Children are minors and sensitive to the happenings of the environment which will affect their lives. The mere fact that they cried and confronted you are signs that they know what's happening. If they see it over and over again and promises are broken chances are thay have high percentage of doing it themselves when they reach adult life.

It depends on what you want them to be. Sometimes children will do exactly what you do. We feel ashamed when children start doing the very things we did before so great care is needed in upbringing our children.