Is It Right Or Wrong For Women To Smoke Or Drink In Public?
By preethaanju
@preethaanju (3000)
India
September 9, 2009 2:30am CST
I know people will say that both men and women are equal. That both come under the same set of rules, whether legal or moral. Men over the years have smoked and drunk in public. It is wrong. But women indulging in these vices, especially in public is a recent trend. What we must remember is that a women has much more to lose than man. A women heavily drunk in public, stands to lose her character and chastity. It could destroy her life for good,in a conservative societies. Is it proper for women to drink and smoke in public?
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@daliaj (5674)
• India
9 Sep 09
I don't think you should descriminate betweem men and women. Why can't a woman do it if a man can do it in public? It depends on personal prefernces and the culture of the person. I am a woman who doesn't like to do it, which doesn't mean that no women should do. Men and women should be given equal rights.
@daliaj (5674)
• India
9 Sep 09
Drinking in public doesn't mean that 'get drunk' and 'lay unconsiously in public'. What I mean drinking by public is that drinking in bars or pubs. I have seen women coming with family and having drinks from resturants. I don't say that she should do it or it is right to do. I only say that she has all right to do that like men. Hope you got it.
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@preethaanju (3000)
• India
9 Sep 09
As a women u must think twice before indulging in vices like this... Imagine a women who is fully drunk and not in her senses. Imagine how much she is at risk of being physically abused. I have seen economically poor women, lie on the streets, un aware of her clothes and men feasting at the sight.. do u think this is good? Yes i have no objection about women drinking in private or at home... but to do it in public is dangerous... I knew this right of equality will be raised, so i mentioned it in my posting itself thx
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@jugsjugs (12967)
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9 Sep 09
I think that a man when drunk is the same asa a woman so other than a woman is more at risk of rape etc when she is drunk why should it be any different.A woman has to do the same as a man so if she wants to smoke and drink people should not put her down for her own choice in life.Each to their own is what i say.Happy Mylotting.
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@ladyhope (377)
• Canada
10 Sep 09
The reality is that it is a MAN's fault if a woman is raped. Women who drink should not be scared. People who think otherwise are part of the problem. Why are men never taught not to rape but woman are taught not to be raped? Because people think like that...
@preethaanju (3000)
• India
10 Sep 09
We must accept reality...women stand more chances of being abused than men. Will she be the same after that? think over thx
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@coolcat123 (4387)
• India
9 Sep 09
first of all it is wrong for a women to even smoke. It does not suit them and does not look good either.
i agree that men and women are equal but their are certain limits for the females which holds good for them. men are more strenghful while women comes in beauty but beauty can not be beauty when she uses wrong things, smoking is a bad habit and should not be done by men and women both.
@ladyhope (377)
• Canada
10 Sep 09
I cannot believe that for one second, woman are on this earth solely to be beautiful. I am sorry, but I am much better at other things like hockey and soccer and drinking with my friends, and have a lot more fun doing them than sitting prim and proper looking pretty.
@preethaanju (3000)
• India
10 Sep 09
yes there are certain qualities in women which makes her attrative... smoking and drinking in public are not amongst those qualities thx
@spicysweetie21 (2573)
• United States
9 Sep 09
I see it as equal between men and women, I don't like smokers in general so when I see a woman or a man doing it, i just think to myself "yuck". But I am a woman and I do go out to restaurants or a bar and have a few drinks, and I have never stopped and thought about my reputation because I don't get "drunk". I think men and women are equally as bad when they get drunk in public, but I see nothing wrong or immoral with a woman or anyone having a drink or two in public.
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@spicysweetie21 (2573)
• United States
9 Sep 09
A man has to protect his image too, I don't know what you mean by "chastity" but a man can look just as stupid, ridiculous, reckless, and irresponsible when he's drunk as a woman can, then have equal to lose to me.
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@preethaanju (3000)
• India
9 Sep 09
i know both are equal. But the issue here is who stand to lose more in terms of character and abuse. women have to protect her chastity, with men its ok hx
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@don_naces (464)
• Philippines
9 Sep 09
Drinking or smoking in public for women, I think, is not wrong. Both men and women are equal. If men drink and smoke in public, why can't women. As long as they know how to carry themselves, then there is nothing wrong. Maybe there are still places wherein this kind of behavior for women is not acceptable.
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@preethaanju (3000)
• India
10 Sep 09
This might sound unrelated to the main topic.But still. If equality is the moot point, may i ask a question. I have see men peeing in public places in some countries, because of lack of toilet facilities, but very rarely, if at all, have i seen women do that. Why? My friend, there are certain, unwritten norms of behaviour for both men and women.This norms only help in making look more georgeous and beauityful thx
@preethaanju (3000)
• India
10 Sep 09
yes the best solution to this problem is to ban smoking and drinking... thx
@Angelwriter (1954)
• United States
9 Sep 09
I wouldn't judge a woman any more harshly for drinking or smoking in public than I'd judge a man, and why should I? So, I can't speak for anyone else, but as far as I'm concerned, if a woman's character would be destroyed by doing so, a man doing the same thing would have his character equally destroyed. And, couldn't a woman move away from any judgmental, double standard misogynistic societies (which is what I call any society that would judge a woman more harshly and cause her to lose more than a man for the same actions) and go somewhere her life wouldn't be "destroyed"?
As far as losing chastity, I have a few thoughts. First, any society that deems a woman destroyed because she loses it isn't worth having the good opinion of. And, I'm speaking as a pretty prudish person. But, those are my morals for how I live, not judgments I place on other people. Second, the opinion of those societies are worth even less if that judgment doesn't extend equally to any man who loses his chastity.
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@Angelwriter (1954)
• United States
9 Sep 09
If this was about whether it's smart for a woman to get drunk in public, rather than right or wrong, I would answer differently. (I'm also speaking as an American, so I'm answering from my cultural bias)
I'm also getting the idea that this is about women being raped, and if so, I'm horribly disturbed by the views about that.
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@preethaanju (3000)
• India
10 Sep 09
yes both men and women are on same level when they drink. But my view that women need to be careful and stand to lose more still holds thx
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@flagella08 (5065)
• Philippines
9 Sep 09
i absolutey agree with you. i am concern with mothers who smoke and drink a lot. they should be models to their children. we know for a fact that mothers are being loked up by their siblings so it's a must that these women should be conscious or for good get rid of these unhealthy activities. i also don't like to se women drinking and smoking.you're right that women had lots of things to lose when being seen to be involved especially in these kinds of vices.
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@preethaanju (3000)
• India
9 Sep 09
Yes women must be role models for her kids and others... we look upto women for inspiration and guidance.... to indulge in vices is not acceptable thx
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@jambi462 (4576)
• United States
10 Sep 09
I don't understand why not. Men drink and smoke in public all the time and make complete idiots out of themselves. They get really drunk and beligerent and talk about banging chicks and are yelling and just being really obnoxious. I think that women probably won't embarass themselves quite as much but the thing is that if you are an obnoxious drunk you are going to look like an idiot regardless of your gender.
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@preethaanju (3000)
• India
10 Sep 09
Yes the world knows men are like that. But do women want to follow a bad example? thx
@krupesh (2608)
• India
9 Sep 09
Hello preethaanju,
Its left to the individuals.We think that its a shameful act & so on , but what do the women who do it think? They just think like any other man who drinks & smokes in public.I have a friend of mine who smokes in public.She doesn't seem to get bothered about all these kinds of things.
One more thing is we are just beginning to cultivate the habits , cultures , traditions of the westerners.Its not long our daughters & grand daughters will be seen in public smoking & drinking just like men.
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@krupesh (2608)
• India
10 Sep 09
Hello englishteaduck,
...wait ...wait...wait...I am not talking about all here.There are many who smoke & drink in public in your place & these easterners just copy what you people do.Now a days nobody cares for others & even dont show respect to elders ,so defenitely the women smokers & drinkers will increase gradually.
Please dont take as if I am saying to all women there.
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@preethaanju (3000)
• India
10 Sep 09
Yes ur right...we are seeing the beginning of the end of the eastern culture... very soon we wil have plenty of scenes being enacted on the streets, in the name of equality...thx
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@EnglishTeaDuck (862)
• United States
9 Sep 09
You know what, I find that quite offensive. Yes, ok there is a difference between cultures in that women and men are not seen in the same way, and if a culture is saying a man can get drunk and smoke in public and a woman can't then it is obviously one where women are seen as subordinate to men, which is not the case where I come from.
But to say 'we are going to be like westerners so our women will be seen smoking and drinking' is quite insulting - you imply western women are all doing this. I don't smoke, I hate men OR women smoking, and I don't drink to excess ever - maybe one or two at most if I'm out. Don't imply we have some sort of loose morals because your culture is different!
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@Ingkingderders (3832)
• Philippines
10 Sep 09
Hmmm.. I don't think it's okay to smoke in public. Period. you're not only destroying your health, but those who are around you also.. whether it's a man or a woman. It's just not plain right... About drinking though, I think a woman can drink, just as long as she doesn't go overboard and come to a point where she does not know what's she's doing already.. that also goes for men, who when drunk, can do really gruesome and bad things...
@koalapenguin (2707)
• Philippines
9 Sep 09
There are so many women who smoke today and i am lucky that i don't belong to one of them as it is very hard to quit once you get addicted to it.
I think we all have the right to do whatever we want in any place. Though if there would be a sign that says "No Smoking" then that is the time to follow the sign and quit for a while. There's a right place for this vice so we must follow it.
Men and women are equal so it's not a problem if women smoke in public. The only problem that smokers will have is the danger to their health and the danger they put to other people's health.
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@preethaanju (3000)
• India
9 Sep 09
what about women who drink and sleep on the streets with no concern for her clothes and safety? do u talk of equality ? thx
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@koalapenguin (2707)
• Philippines
9 Sep 09
No, definitely not. Men and women are different in terms of those things as they have different capabilities. I branded them equal as to the jobs that women have been doing a lot of men's work. And a man's respect comes in with this situation.
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@kevchua (1004)
• Malaysia
9 Sep 09
What is morally right for one person is not morally right for another. Smoking falls in this category too. If you think it's morally wrong, then it's your choice; take note that smoking is never a crime, so many find this act acceptable regardless of gender. I wouldn't want to segregate men who smoke and women who do the same. Your argument that women may lose their character is quite agreeable because in some cultures, women who smoke are considered "bad". This is a stereotypical perception that is difficult to change.
To answer your question: Is it proper for women to drink and smoke in public? The answer is NO, it isn't, and I'd like to add that neither is it proper for men too as the consequences of smoking are negative for both genders.
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@Angelwriter (1954)
• United States
9 Sep 09
"To answer your question: Is it proper for women to drink and smoke in public? The answer is NO, it isn't, and I'd like to add that neither is it proper for men too as the consequences of smoking are negative for both genders."
THANK YOU. For holding men to the same standard. I am so glad that someone who feels it's wrong for women feels it's also wrong for men as well.
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@preethaanju (3000)
• India
10 Sep 09
Yes i never discriminate on the basis of gender. To have two set of rules for men and women is unfair and unacceptable for me... but u have agreed to one important point and that is drinking for women in public is bad.. thx
@mrshughes (352)
• Philippines
9 Sep 09
I would say, its wrong if the woman has too much to drink and its in a public place. Reason is..she will loose respect from people...it will make her look small and cheap. Not so much in smoking but together is a disaster.
I drink but i don't smoke...i got drunk in several occasions but only around close friends and private places. As a woman..i think its good to save some respect for ourself.
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@preethaanju (3000)
• India
10 Sep 09
yes u have hit the nail of the head... she looks small and cheap.. thx
@stealthy (8181)
• United States
9 Sep 09
No one, man or woman, should smoke in public or private. It is very bad on ones health and shows a great lack of intelligence. Also, not one should be heavily drunk in public or private since being really drunk is unhealthy and dangerous.
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@preethaanju (3000)
• India
10 Sep 09
yes smoking and drinking is bad, for both. But women stand to lose more in society than men thx
@jules67 (2788)
• Philippines
9 Sep 09
I think that it is not even nice to do that in private. For one it is bad for one's health. I have known a mother who still continues to smoke even if she has asthma. And worse , her three kids have asthma too and she continues to smoke. Imagine what kind of kids she is taking care of, they are not healthy. Drinking is not a good thing as well for women more so for mothers. At times, women get to be out of control. They think sometimes, that they would be in, or be accepted by their peers if they join them to drink. I hope that women will be a lot more responsible.
@preethaanju (3000)
• India
10 Sep 09
yes its wrng for both.. but more wrong for women, who nature created with all tenderness and soft thx
@bearound (132)
• China
10 Sep 09
I think it is ideal that both men and women are equal,especially in some conservative societies.In my opinion,it is not against the legal or moral if women smoke or drink in public.However,when women do that,it may leave a negative image to the people nearby.It is not agree to the expected character of women.When you are not expected,you may lost many opportunities,such as job,marriage,etc.
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@preethaanju (3000)
• India
10 Sep 09
yes men and women hve equal right, i dont deny that.. but dont u think women have more to lose than men? thx
@magickat (381)
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9 Sep 09
It is difficult to address such issues from very different cultures. In the UK it is quite usual for women to drink and smoke in public and no one thinks anything of it. obviously there are still some risks but generally it is not unusual behaviour. I understand in some countries it is not acceptable but this should apply toboth sexes, women should not be singled out for discrimination.
@preethaanju (3000)
• India
10 Sep 09
Yes in the West, this is more acceptable... but not in conservative societies thx
@moneymakingtoday (4061)
• Philippines
10 Sep 09
of course, there are women who do that here despite most of us being still conservative. women who drink or smoke in public are looked at differently, that is my personal observation. personally, i don't like seeing women smoking and drinking in public because they seem to look cheap to me.
but, on second thought, we have to accept that people differ in their cultural practice and acceptance. we are all entitled to our own way of things.
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@preethaanju (3000)
• India
10 Sep 09
no doubt, we are entitled to our way of living.. nut what scares me is the thought, how much a women, who is fully drunk is at risk, mostly physical thx
@dedon4christ5 (6)
• Nigeria
9 Sep 09
Damn it, it's a very very bad habit, smoking in a public place and a lady for that matter, it's totally improper. I don't hate it I detest it.
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@preethaanju (3000)
• India
10 Sep 09
yes u have a direct answer and u have made ur point clear,,, u like me hate women drinking thx