do you think my friend is making the right choice to have an abortion?

no of course not! well tell her to give the baby into a foster house. i have a lot of not-married-pregnant friends, and non of them doing that abortion, most of them put their baby into a foster house. I also have a friend that let her parents to raise the baby, so technically she has a sister that born from her womb. You may think of every way but abortion. Let set aside the religion or value aspect, let's think first that what your friend deals with is a human being. Hope the best for her

on moral ground i always stick with this: abortion is never a right choice. of course my religion and culture explains that, but i also read tons of articles related to abortion (medical, confessions and stuff) abortion of course saves you as a quick solution (especially if pre-marital pregnancy is discriminated by the society). abortion is a risky process even if it is done 'properly' and 'safely' (depends on where you live) and even if your friend comes out alive from the hospital there's always emotional complication to deal with. some people feel guilty afterward and that leads to more problem. and some people can't get pregnant when they want to long after they had the abortion. get a doctor's help (for counselling and stuff) and to your friend: 3 months dating and you're already pregnant? isn't that a bit too soon?

That is such a personal choice that no one here can make it for her and most especially 3rd party as in here. I do think she should talk with someone that she trusts about this before deciding. It is a huge decision that will affect the rest of her life regardless of which way she chooses to go.

Is abortion even allowed there? Based on the situation well It is really hard to decide what should be done. If I were your friend I would feel a lot of pain right now since a lot of unexpected things had happened. I could not probably think properly by then. Still I think it is not good to have an abortion cause you're killing a life and another thing that life is pretty much helpless. I mean don't kill the baby because you just made mistake. It may sound simple but if you understand it deeply it is rather complicated. Just think that it's a life we're talking about here. On the other hand, She's still young and a lot of people really consider abortion as an option since having a baby at a very young age could be a lot of trouble and adjustment. It could really change your whole life. But sometimes you just have no choice but to face the consequences especially here where abortion isn't allowed.

Hi accountingcpa, well i do agree that accidents like that can happen. On the second thought, actually it's not an accident at all. When they did what they did, they were fully aware of what the consequences might be for their action, maybe just a bit in denial or something. And I know your friend might have been through a lot of pain might really be confused as of now, considering the father of the baby is a real jerk, that's for sure. But reasons such as these, will never be enough to give her the right to abort a helpless baby on her womb. She might find this impossible right now with her situation, but having a baby is just the most rewarding thing a woman could ever felt and experience.

She/You know what is the right thing to do, right? You should stop her from doing that. If not, its the same as your tolerating it. She would commit a sin to her baby and most especially to God. Your friend should not escape the problem, she should be brave enough to face it. Encourage her, be with her, and pray for her. To abort the baby was and will never be the solution to her problem. Yes, she will be free from the responsibilities as a mom if she does that BUT believe me she will carry the guilt and she will be bothered by her conscience all through her life.

Your friend had a relationship with a man that was totally wrong for her. Now she is pregnant she might be emotional and upset. Her baby is an innocent one and he or she doesn't deserve to be killed in an abortion. If your friend had an abortion she might regret it and years later she might get depressed. Your friend could become a single mother or adopt her baby. Good luck to her.

With all due respect it is her decision. There are people who can help, but if she is not emotionally and finacially ready to have a child it will be a hard row to hoe. It is hard enough when you are prepared to have a child. Of course there are people who will adopt and would love to have a baby, but that is not an easy course of action either.

Hi accountingcpa, I think that the only person capable of making this decision is your friend. If she is not ready mentally, financially,or otherwise, having a baby will be very difficult and painful, both for mommy and baby. If your friend has decided on the abortion, the best thing for you to do is support her with her decision. You have to remember, an abortion probably wasn't an easy choice for her. She probably feels very scared and alone and questioning her decision will not make her feel any better.

I think that the best thing for you to do as a friend and sit down and discuss every option with her. She may not be ready to be a mother now, but she may want children later on in life. Alot of women live with regret after having an abortion, some emotional and others physical. Look up the risks associated with abortion and give them to her. There is always a chance that if something goes wrong, she may never be able to have a child. Look up some information about adoption agencies in your area. She isn't very far along, so she may be able to find parents for her child and get to know them. Look up all the information you can and have a real conversation and not try to push her either way. Just let her know the risks and what other options are available.

I don't think making decision to abort is correct but who am I to judge your friend. I am not in her shoes and I probably freak out if I find out that I am pregnant now. She probably don't know what to do. As a friend, you can advise her. But in the end, it still her decision to make. Just support her no matter what. She'll need it right now.

Doing "it" without considering the consequences is not an accident, it's negligence. Getting pregnant could have been avoided if your friend was careful enough, but she chose to enjoy it and disregard the consequences. And now you call this an accident? I call it being irresponsible. Now that she got pregnant she wants to have an abortion because the guy doesn't want the baby? A mistake cannot be rectified by doing another mistake. If I was her friend I'd tell her to grow up and be responsible.

Yes. It's her decision after all....Pretty selfish of you to think you could impose on a decision which will affect her entire life. Abortions, adoptions, keeping a child, all affect you forever. This is probably the best advice you'll get here: Support her decision. No matter what it is.

This should be a no brainer. You should not be asking if abortion is a right choice even in any given situation. First, it is against the bible. Second, it is depriving the right of an unborn child to live. And lastly, you risk your life with abortion.

My answer is a big NO. Abortion will never be answer to the mistakes which are already done. So please, wake up.

I think that it is her life and she has to decide what is wrong or right for her.The boy has already broken the relationship with her and if she carries the baby,then she has to prepare for a life long stand.I mean she has to bear the responsibility of a kid for the rest of her life and she is not even mentally prepared for this.

I think abortion wouldnt correct any accidents that had happened. Unwanted babies arent justification for having an abortion. Personally i wont advice abortion for her.

Getting pregnant is never an accident, it's always a choice. Why engage in "the deed" in the first place if you never were prepared for the responsibility of having and raising kids in the future? Or most importantly, we all know well enough to be careful unless we're prepared to take risks and to face the consequences for which maturity is required. It's always the guy's fault. I'm a guy and I have nothing against people of my gender but it's really the guy's fault every time. It took a month before my partner and I got there and nothing of that sort ever happened to her. I know there were a few close calls but I was careful enough and had presence of mind all the time without losing the love in the process. I've also thought of how it could have been if ever I got her pregnant but I was ready all the while, and she was too. We just didn't want it yet. So blame it all on that a**hole who's so immature and not man enough to face the consequences of his actions. About the abortion thing, if you don't know what to say to her, why not ask yourself the same thing. Something like empathy of sorts, putting yourself in her shoes. If you got pregnant yourself and the same things happened to you, what would you have wanted to hear from people? What would you want to do? Would you give up on life just like that? I'm not really for abortion nor against it but I'm more against it than for it. Think of it as something like murder. You wouldn't kill a person in cold blood would you? After thinking it all over, take a breather and don't let your emotions get in the way. It hasn't happened to you and you're quite well-off which makes it easier for you to think and compose yourself so you could help her out. Now whatever happens or whatever her decision might be, absolve yourself of all guilt if it turns out bad. After all, you've done your part, it's time she did hers. But I guess right now, the best you could do is stay beside her and keep her company, she'll need all the encouraging words she can get. Include someone who could listen and a shoulder to cry on. It's not the end of the world and there are more people out there who are going through a lot worse than her. So I wish you both all the luck and blessings. It will all be good in no time.

No because the life of that baby it's God's gift then if she abort it here life is commit a sin not for this time but for the whole of his life.

Heavens no. That is a child. Whether her and her boyfriend are together or not they created a living person.