how do you deal with changes in your life?

for me it is not exciting to live a single life. it is an adventure but tend to be boring, sad and depressing many times. i believe most of my depression were cause by being single. i mean not totally but i figured out if i have someone to be with always then i will have someone to share my time with and my struggles in life and so i won't be depressed as i am . but i manage my life as always but not easy. i will be better off with someone with me.

How do I deal with a major change? It is not easy moving forward but I take the challenge. No use denying something when it is obvious that we have to deal with it head on. I go out. Find something to do, meet new friends and make life more useful than before. If ever the past catch up with me at least I can say I am better than before.

Change is very hard. i agree with that.. but eventually your change will become the normal, and before you know it you'll remember how you felt when you looked back and be either happy or sad that you made the change.. assuming you changed a bf, you must have had a pretty decent reason, i'm sure you will be happier soon. Good luck to you! Btw, i did make a big change just before i started going out with my hubby, i left one weirdo i was with.. and the change was for the better. I wasn't sure if it was smart or not when i was doing it, but i took a giant leap of faith and well its worked out!

I deal with major changes a lot better now than i used to. Once upon a time, I would build my life around a relationship rather than allow the relationship to add to my life. When the relationship ended, it always felt like I was starting my life over again and I was eager to find a new person to date. Then, the truth of it all dawned on me and I made a change that has been for the better. I decided that my life didn't have to re-start every time something major changed, my life was just heading down a slightly different path. That outlooked helped me to realize that any man that wanted to be a part of my life was going to be just that A PART OF MY LIFE, not my life altogether. I learned the hard way that I have a life of my own that needs to progress and in a relationship or not, I am still alive and have to provide for myself and my kids. I guess what I am saying is that regardless of whether there is someone in your life or not, you have to survive and if you are in a relationship, you still need to be yourself to truly be happy. Live your life for you and when you are in a relationship, it becomes a part of your life, not your entire life.

Hmm.. there's nothing wrong with change though, change is constant as they say. The major change in my life was getting married and finally moving in together! Man that was the best!

Hello there. I am very sorry for the relationship that you have lost. I know that it is really a major turning point of your life to have an experience like that. I can feel the pain to be single. I really hated it, the loneliness and everything, but hey, I guess there is a perfect reason why that happened, maybe you are not meant for each other or any other reason. I believe that everything happen for a reason and that I put in my mind so I have to deal any problems with the thought in my mind the reasons of such events. I usually hang out with friends and then talk with problems and then I deal with the problem by my friends to know that I am very secure around them.

My Dad always said that "today is the first day of the rest of your life." That is as true today, at this moment, as it was 27, almost 28 years ago, on the day I was born. So, today is the first day of the rest of your life. I like to think of changes as new beginnings for me.

oh dear! my heart goes out for you as i too happen to be in the same boat some time ago. he was the world to me . i had stopped visualising my future without him so that asked for a gr8 replanning when we separated our ways.for me i could have sacrificed myself for him but he couldn't even be committed to me.i too felt lost but later gradually i realised that whatever happens ,happens for good.thats the way you can console yourself and move on in life

Honestly, I'm a runner. I always view the end of a relationship as a chance to go make a fresh start somewhere else, so I generally move. However, that's not the answer for everyone, I'm just a big fan of reinvention and am completely slave to my gypsy genetics. Try to keep busy. If you have any friends, give them a call and suggest getting together for coffee or dinner or just movie night. Get a new hobby, or take up an old one. Read a book or watch a movie you've been wanting to enjoy. Write about your feelings in a blog or a journal -- often it's therapeutic to get them out there on paper. I know how tough the end of a relationship is, last year when I split up with my boyfriend of 3 years I felt like my world was falling apart, but then I started to realize that by not being with him, I could embrace all the parts of me that made me who I am, including the ones he wasn't the hugest fan of. And it gave me the freedom to do what I had wanted to do for a long time -- take a long solo trip overseas.

You have to take things one day at a time, spicysweetie. When my ex and I broke up it was a major adjustment for me, too, and I was filled with doubts and facing an uncertain future. I had financial and job security but the LAST thing I wanted was another relationship so I wondered what path my personal life would take. And, one evening I met the man who is now my husband and who fills my heart with happiness. Being single had it's perks. I used that time to do the things I wanted to do and I was able to share some quality experiences with my daughters. I took my youngest and her friend to the beach for the weekend and we had a blast. I also grew to be more confident in myself and my decisions. Take it slow...give yourself time to adjust. You'll be fine.

Hey, I just have to deal with the changes with my life, one day at a time. That is all we can do really, it is hard some days, but you must look on the bright side of things, not always at the bad side. Make sure you have a good day, Happy Lotting!!

Treat is as new ground abit of an adventure.A bit nervous to start with but life is meant to change sometimes for the better although it may not seem like that at the time.When my life changed I had two kids to care for so I just got on with it,went out and sorted out a cleaning round which fitted in with the school hours.I just had to get on with it,looked up old mates who were very pleased to hear from me.made new friends and generally kept my self busy till it was normal again.That is the best advise I can give you,I do hope things turn out alright for you take care.

I know how it feels that feeling of being lost after a relationship you put your heart and soul into, that you thought would last the whole of your life. Always having that partner with you no matter what life hit you with. It is like you lost apart of you, in away you have, the thing is you can rebuild you. Life has away of pulling us through at times we least expect it to. Something comes to us or we go and find new life else where. I am not talking about another relationship just life itself. One thing, get you back, oh and its ok to cry now and then, it helps release those inner feelings of regret or the lost feeling. You have a right to feel those. It is what you choose to do with those feelings that counts. Take that energy put it to a positive in your life. Take on new challenges, projects. interact with family for awhile just to have that feeling of loneliness filled instead of leaving a hole. It does help. Each day you gain more of you.. I pray that you are given the strength to get through all the downs, to bring out the ups and enjoy each one with lots of good energy..

People always hate change, because it is so difficult. I guess I just tell myself that God has something better for me. My natural eyes can't see everything God has planned. Maybe you could adopt a positive attitude and just say, "This is all going to have definately turned out for the best in ways that I could never have even dreamed."

look there will be changes, sometimes for good and sometimes for bad, we want it or not. It is very painful to end the relationship. But may be time will heal you as you progress. There are things in life we can't control. I know it is easy to say like look at positive things. But keep head straight.

Well,as i think i just use a common heart when the change has happened,this has happened and what you can do,right?Yep,maybe we sad and panic,but it doesn't work.we just can do is cheer up and get through it,after the storm the sun will appear.

i had to make a hard decision to finish a relationship and was upset for a good while afterwards. i don't think it was exactly the same situation as yours as judging by the last comment this was not a good boyfriend. the one i split up from was a good person but we were very young, argued a lot and he had some bad habits at the time. it probably took some courage to do this spicy but i can imagine you finding things a bit strange for a while - as the other responses are suggesting getting involved in things is a really good idea.

Hi sweetie! "Nothing is permanent in this world except change", changes for worst or for good we have to accept it. Yes it's easier said, but still we have to face the fact of life. Lose of a treasured relationship happens with everybody and maybe there will be somebody better in store for each of us. So cheer-up and date someone else but be more this time delve carefully before indulging into another relationship. Cheers!

I am usually open to changes but there are times when these changes are not, in my opinion, for the better. Unfortunately we all have to take these changes and go with them as they are part of life and are not things we can bargain with. My best advice is to let nature take its course and deal with it in the best way possible for you under the circumstances. It's not easy but it does make us stronger when we have to face difficult situations.

The loss of a relationship can be painful and will take time to work through. One of the best ways to work through this change is to get out and do things that you like to do. Isolating yourself will make things even more difficult. Stay in contact with friends and family as much as possible. For life to change, you have to change. Find a new hobby or interest and dedicate your newfound extra hours to it. Take an online course or go dancing, whatever makes you feel good about you. Remember that when one door closes, another one opens.