It just hurts

Breaking up is bad. I wish it never happens to anyone. However the facts are that breakups do take place. The inevitable will happen. The only way to overcome a breakup is to give it time. Time heals all wounds. All of us lose a parent or a near one some time or the other in life. We think that things will never be the same ever again, but life limps back to normal. Give the would time to heal.

Well this is something that I seem to have been through several times! I've been there. It does hurt! It does occupy your mind 24/7 for a long time! I think that sometimes, you even feel like just a rag! And there is no easy way out! But luckily, the experiences that I have been through have taught me how to get through times like these, I just wish I could have known them when I was younger! The best way to get over these episodes, is just try to keep on going, and also try to get involved in helping others, whether they need help with a bad relationship, an emotional shoulder to cry on, or just a companion help! When you help others, it will relieve your mind from your own troubles, and make you stronger! It may even make your troubles seem less than anybody else! You will even learn or see valuable realizations when you divert your attention to helping others! And the best of all, it will make you proud of yourself, and give you confidence to tackle any 'feel sorry for yourself feelings'! And then time, will heal your hurt, and it will make those memories not seem as harsh, but merely just another part of life! Trust me, I've been there, I didn't think I could make it by myself, but I did, and now I am here to tell about it, and it doesn't hurt anymore!

In the world there is only one thing to cure your hurt: time. Gradually, you will forget him. He is part of your life, not all of it. You will meet another nice guy in the near future. Everything will be fine. Love is a sweet torment. I know you feel it right now.

hi bluehibiscus, I am sorry that you have to go through all this. I have seen a friend of mine who just couldnt bear the thought of his girl leaving him and was very very emotional about it. I think if i look at him than i can feel what you are feeling . Well one thing is for sure , if the giy doesnt respond back no one can do anything about it. Time is a big healer and soon i dont say memories would go away but they would fade a lot. The pain would go away totally and if not totally then it wont hurt atleast. You would soon see your smile returning and may be a better guy in all respect would come soon and you would be very happy again and that guy might regret his decision ( to hurt you and leave you)all his life.

a breakup is never a happy event. it surely makes both parties sad. but things happen and things just sometimes do not work out well. i know it is still hurting to both parties. lucky are the ones who have never experienced breakups. and to the not-so-lucky who had experienced, we should be assured of the fact that a lot undergo breakup, not just us. we should rest on the fact that things happen for a reason. it will not be easy now or in the immediate coming days, that is sure to happen. but rest assured that as days go by, the pain will be diminished each day. try to divert ur attention to things that help u forget about the breakup. go out with friends and enjoy. there is always a better guy destined to be with u. as for now, let things be and wait ... he may be the same good guy (becoming better) coming back into ur life or someone new for u. move on. time heals all wounds.

Only time will heal you. I was in a situation a few months ago where I dated a man and started having feelings for him. He went to California (I live in Florida) and wouldn't call me, so I thought something happened to him. No, he decided to get back together with an ex-girlfriend and didn't want to tell me. His girlfriend called me to tell me the news, it was horible. I cried for 2 days and started to realize that he was just a jerk, why should I waste my tears on him. You will be able to move on, but everyone does it at a different pace. Just keep your head up. Things will get better.

just move on get over him if he want you he comeback to you if nt move on keep it going do what you have to do

hello, I know it hurts so much when you meet this kind of situation. My husband and I, when we were boyfriend and girlfriend, we almost broke up once but I dont know why he turned back to me. It made me felt like someone push from a 10storys building... all I thought was falling so fast and I couldn't think, couldn't move... very stressful time. we loved each other so much and we fought so much, and the reason we broke up cuz his mom blame on him that he always gave me a hard time... so it was difficult time for him and me as well... I told him to take a break and moved on. he lived in different country from mind and my plan was let him moved on and I would left there and never came back again. I rather hurt. But 2 days before my travel back home, he came to me and asked me out for the last time. I did went out with him and I gave him everything He gave me... my heart was totally broke and hurt so bad, but I know to do this just to release your hurt right? however, it just hurt u more than ever. He didn't say but accepted what I gave. Back to your story, if he left already then you have to take time to be yourself... go out and have fun with friends, tell your close friend about him. it will help you release from this. Or just hand out with your family... I know it takes time but it will go away soon once you know how to give your time a value time.

I know this well. I went through it about three times and did it to someone else once that I know off. Basically you just have to wait for the grief to go. Meanwhile try to have some fun. Hang out and go to the movies and watch a lot of favourite TV shows and stuff.

Hi blue, When you broke up and there seem no hope of getting back together, it's time to move on. Easier said than done, I know, but that is the only way to go back to life again. You said he's leaving the country, that gives you an even slimmer chance of having him back, unless he gave you a hint that he will come back no matter what. Go out with friends, these are the days when you will appreciate the presence of friends who have taken the back seat when you were so preoccupied with your love. Meet new people, who knows, you might just find the right one for you this time.

Hey blue, breaking up is hard! Its never easy! But don't worry! As time passes the pain will go away! So don't dwell on him as much! There are a lot more fish in the sea and I am sure you will have no problem finding someone! You just take care of yourself!