I need a little advise.

read her this news story and it may change her mind......http://abcnews.go.com/Health/story?id=2615844 or http://www.indystar.com/apps/pbcs.dll/article?AID=/20061027/LOCAL/610270538

consult a good doctor and prayer to god

Well, I may not be a teenager anymore, but I once--and actually still am--for piercings, and my mom hates most of them. About 2 years ago I told her how I had gotten my tongue done and she told me that I had to take it out when ever I came to visit. LoL!! Now from my point of view, and this may kind of sting, is that she isn't too far away from turning 18, she will then have the choice to make. You are her mother and you do have the right to say no, but there is no telling what she may do when she is of age to make a decision like that on her own. I think that the one suggestion to let her have a clip on is a wonderful one, it does give her an idea of what it will be like and if she will like it later on. As far as scars go, I think that it will heal with no markings, I've seen it done where someone had a clear plastic "retainer"--something to put in for temporary means--and I couldn't tell at all. But I am pretty sure that if she really, REALLY wants it done, she just might do it later on. I don't know though, I don't know her. But GOOD LUCK!!

Well, she's almost 18. I'd tell her when she turns 18 she can do what she wants then lol, that way if it goes bad it was all her decision and you had no part of it. I have a few piercings and tattoos, and I'm not against them. But, you really have to think about what kind of impact it's going to have-especially job wise. Mine are all hidden, but can be shown if I want them to show. Here's a site, the pix aren't really too graphic, but do a search for body piercing's gone bad, or something similar. I'm sure there's tons of sites on the subject. Maybe that'll deter her a bit :) Or, if she doesn't have it, settle for a belly piercing instead. http://www.painfulpleasures.com/xcart/wholesaler/home.php?mode=gpgb

I would tell her to until she turns 18 and then she can make up her own mind. Till then she should follow the the house rules.

I have a teenager who's 15 1/2 years old. She has her belly button done as well as her tongue. There is no way I'll let her pierce her face because once it's done, months goes by, and the hole may not heal up, and they're left with that forever if they change their mind. The deal with my daughter was ears, tongue, and belly only, and if she wanted any on her face, including lips, she'd have to wait until she's 18. A little over a year will not hurt her. I'm sure you already know that. She may even change her mind by then, and it would probably be for the best. I'm 34 years old, and have had a lot of my body parts pierced to only regret it later. Thank God I didn't leave them in long enough to have a permanent hole. Best of luck with your decision!

be consistent!children will understand and learn faster about what is acceptable and unacceptable behaviour.if parents are consistent this means being predictable so children will know what to expect.and regarding the age no matter what the age she was. still we have to be consider still we are parents to guide them. it doesnt mean you have to allowed her the decision making you have to guide and teach the acceptable ways.work as a team.plan methods of decipline with your husband.and agree with each other in front of your child.you should back each other up and work together..well its so hard to be a parents but still they are giving us a happy and meaningful life...try to work out my dear!!!!!!!!!

Hello kakuemmom :) I had a problem with my daughter wanting to pierce the private part of her body that really shocked me. However I asked personnal friends that are very close to me, also spoke to our family doctor, searched onto the web about piercings, even spoke to a qualified Tattoest and piercing professionnal, even placed it on mylot for help as you have. No matter what I talked to her kids will be kids "Yes" but it took a different approach when a close friend who had it done had a good girl talk with her. After a long consideration she declined to have it done. So it would be best to seek some medical advise as well in chatting to some professionnals. If she goes through with it she must do what she would be advised todo to keep it clean and healthy. I hope my experience with this helped you. Hope all goes well. :)

Can you explain me what is snake eye and snake teeth.

Well...I have a son who doesnt even have his ear done...hes hole free...I have both my ears done and my eyebrow done...snake teeth r gonna b painful to get..but when she takes them out..the holes will eventually close...not like those disc things some kids put in thier ears that stretch it out o the point where only surgery will fix that....your daughter will grow out of them eventually....u hope..lol

I had it done, then I regret it! Im also a parent and trying to learn some tricks myself, lol. But best advice I can give you is play along with it. Pretend that you LOVE the idea!! Tell her you want her to try it out first just to see if she'd really like it and ask her to wear a clip on ring. That way she will get to see just how hard it is to do regular things like eating, sleeping, brushing your teeth......and it wont be perminant! If you want, just for fun maybe you can even put a clip on ring too with her, it should be interesting! Good luck

i'm 20 (almost 21) so i was 17 not too long ago. i understand really wanting these mods because they do look cool. but yikes! how does she heal usually (does she have her ears pierced?). some piercings can turn out really ugly because they heal weird around the hole (my cartilage piercing did that). you can get ugly bumps. tell her about that. show her this post if need be. does she want ugly weird bumps right on her lip like that? it might not happen, but the possibility of it happening has steered me away from all facial piercings. and even if it doesn't happen in one area of the body, it could happen in another. they can also get very infected (esp. those around the mouth). they make eating difficult for awhile and kissing is out of the question during healing. my advice is to make her aware of all of these things and tell her that you don't want her to do it. if you feel that she's going to brush you off and go have it done anyway, then find a reputable place and go with her to have it done. because you can say no as much as you want, but if she wants it done, she'll get it done. and usually the places that do it without parental consent are dirty.

It really is a hard one i am only 24 and i have a 4 year old so i have no idea how it is to have a teenager but i say to you that you should say yeah sure get it done and make a time and day to go get it done and see if she actually does go through with it more then likely she will just be saying it to see if she can get a reaction from you or to be COOL. And hey well if she does actually go through with it and get it done then if she later decides it was a stupid thing to do and that she shouldnt of then she can always pull it out, my older sister had it done and it left scar at all when eventually decided she didnt like it anymore! Good luck!

I am a parent and if I were in your position I would very kindly try and put it off as much as possible. Slowly, maybe your daughter will forget it. In return you can do something else that your daughter loves most.

Just say no. You're still mom and you may say no.

I haven't come to that problem yet, Thank God cuz my little ones are 2 and 5 yrs old!! I just remember when my little brother wanted to get his tonuge pierced my parents put their foot down and he went and did it anyway. He found someone that did it without parent consent and it got all swollen and he couldn't eat for 1 week!! He then took it out and wished he never did it again!!! I personally had my belly button pierced and my parents didn't know anything about it!!! So just be careful she may come home one day and had it done!!! Just my 2 cents!! Sorry I couldn't be more help!! Hopefully you'll get some better advice from others!!