What would you do if you found your partner with another man/woman in bed?
By eve301345
@eve301345 (658)
Philippines
September 16, 2009 6:40pm CST
Hello my fellow Myloters,
I am just curious on how every one of use would react if we finish up at this kind of situation.
I know somebody before who her husband was a really A**le and one day she leave the house to go to the market to sell things to make the living but this very one day she forgotten her purse and when she come back to the house to pick up her purse she caught her husband with another woman in bed doing you know what I am talking about. When she saw theme she just go down the kitchen and soon after her husband and the woman come down and she just ask theme if they want some tea or something else to drink. She didn't say anything she didn't talk and after few days her husband was on his knee begging to forgive him and crying.
I really admire this woman because for me I really dont know what to do. Even now even though I know its not going to happen to me I really think if ever that happen to me what will I do? Will I still be calm or do something really stupid like trow his thing away or worst? I really dont know.
How about you what would you do if ever this happen to you? What do you think it would do to you emotionally?
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20 responses
@UmiNoor (4523)
• Malaysia
17 Sep 09
Wow that was admirable of the woman to be so calm when encountering her husband in such a compromising situation. I think she used a psychological tactic to get her husband to feel guilty and then begged for her forgiveness. I sometimes do that with my children. When they're rude to me, I wouldn't say anything. I would just be quite and pensive and walk away. Then a few hours later, they'd come to me and ask for my forgiveness because they can't bear the guilt of hurting me. This woman is incredible. If it were me finding my husband like that I don't know what I'll do. Maybe attack the woman or my husband? I don't know. You won't know until you're in that situation, do you?
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@rosepedal64 (4188)
• United States
17 Sep 09
I have often talked about this with my husband..I always said that if I caught him in the act that I would nothing at that moment..I would grap his things and he can pack them up out of the yard. He would pay dearly to me for rest of his working years. I could live good though his stupidness...It would take me a while to get over his actions but I would have to look at this way, if he did this to me then I dont need someone like that in my life...
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@mermaidivy (15395)
• United States
17 Sep 09
Mad, angry, disappointed, hopeless... end of the relationship... it is what I would feel if I found my partner sleep with another woman in bed. I think my first reaction would be a SHOCK, I would not believe what I see in front of my eyes...
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@busybren (258)
• United States
17 Sep 09
As much as it hurts and turns my stomach to even think about this situation. I could honestly say, my first reaction would be my arms swinging in all directions. What I would actually say is beyond me. It's a devistating thought, but someone is going to get a black eye for sure.
@homeshoppers (6166)
• Philippines
17 Sep 09
i will let them go and never give them a tears. thy're not deserving for a single tears. there are too many men and women out there and he or she's only a small that. we can find our perfect match only if we are open enough to accept and let others enter your life.
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@1anurag1 (3576)
• India
17 Sep 09
I am a boy here. even i am not married . But as you have asked about the partner. I would say that i dont want to imagine even these things and even expect it.
But unfortunately if it happens. May be i could get hurt alot but still i think that if i found her in this unacceptable state. i will give her one more chance to be loyal with me. I know single mistake god can accept also and forgive , but i am a human. And human are here and always commmit blunders. But how many relations we are going to break in this way. Relation is the other name of compromises for others and sacrifice for other. So i ll do this once for her, and further expect from her for me to be loyal.
But still if i found she is not loyal then there is no mean to sacrifice for her. and i wud not definetly go ahead with her in my life.
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@candaceb87 (1362)
• Canada
17 Sep 09
I have been cheated on and I have walked in on my boyfriend in bed with another women. It broke my heart into a million pieces and we broke up for awhile but eventually got back together he has been faithful since and now we are engaged and have 4 children :D but like I always say to him I forgive you but I will never forget!
@AcousticSoul (1309)
• United States
17 Sep 09
If I caught My husband in bed with another women all hell would have broke loose... talking about beating up somebody. My husband would have got it first... I really wouldn't go for the women because my husband know's better whew I don't know... But I do know I have a bad temper and someone will have to pay
@david2005 (798)
• Canada
22 Sep 09
If I ever caught my girlfriend in bed with another guy I would be mad at first but I would forgive her though cause I love her and as long as she is happy and with me I am happy.
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
20 Sep 09
hi eve I would want to kill both of them but Iwould not asI wouldn't wat to go to prison.but I would tell mypartner that I was getting a divorcde from him and he and the girl should get the hell out of myu bedroom and myhouse. I would file for divorce,and sell the house and split the proceeds.he would never set foot near me again. not ever no way no how.it would have killed me emotionally, mAde me really ill. and so hurt and betrayed.
@xsarleenax (49)
• United States
17 Sep 09
I could never be this calm in a situation like that and I would not offer both of them some tea. I do not know what I would do in a situation like that; because it is hard to say what a person would do if never put in that type of situation before, but I do know that I would never do that.
@jellymonty (2352)
•
17 Sep 09
About six years ago when I was in a relationship I came back home work a bit early as I was dying of a flu. I entered my house and went to my bedroom and found my sister on top of my boyfriend. I just packed my bags and moved to another country. Never seen him again, and didn't speak to my sister for the next four years.
Now six years later, I'm still happily single in my own lovely home and that idiot will never be part of my life again.
@Tantrums (945)
• Philippines
17 Sep 09
here in our country, it's legal of you killed your partner's other partner in bed if you find them. So I think I'm going to do the same... NOT! I'd rather beat the guy into pulp, talk to my wife then kick her out of my house. But this won't happen anyway, so no worries about this.
@rdheath52 (13)
• Mexico
17 Sep 09
I find this friend's choice to be an amazing testament to the power of love. We all make choices in life, and she obviously chose to take the high road. I've never been in this circumstance, but I can speculate that my response would not be the same. I'm pretty sure that the relationship would be over after that kind of incident, since it is a breach of trust. However, love makes us do all sorts of things. And when you're in love enough, cheating, no matter how awful, will not make you leave that person.
@weasel81 (2496)
• Australia
17 Sep 09
my partner and i have talked about this, if one of us cheated on the other. it would be over no questions asked. my ex-sister inlaw cheated on her husband, and now my partner is parrnoid i'll do it to him. there's not much point to it just you end up hurting a lot of people.
@Shar19 (8231)
• United States
17 Sep 09
Well that woman sure did handle things nicely. I know I wouldn't be able to do that. I'm sure that I would flip out and be crying and screaming. I would probably throw a bunch of my husband's things outside too.
@prinzcy (32305)
• Malaysia
17 Sep 09
I must be lying if I say I am not angry if I see my man with another woman doing that (wherever the location is, it doesn't matter) But I am not going to kill them or be as calm as the woman too. I probably wait for them to show up to listen to what he and she has to say. One party words isn't enough, better listen to both. Then, it's the end of our relationship. Cheating is not something that I can forgive.
@LetranKnight25 (33121)
• Philippines
17 Sep 09
I wouldn't lie to you on this one, I'd be really angry and pissed because i feel I've been struck by lighting straight to the heart. but of course, it's alright to be mad at first, then probably talk to the wife, and have a serious conversation of why she did it. if she generally feels that she doesn't love me anymore, no matter how painful it is, I'd break her up.
@mattivdw (46)
• Antarctica
17 Sep 09
Hey Eve,
WHat would I do..
I'm still young but if I really loved my wife,
I would be overrunned(overran?) by emotions. Bad emotions. I wouldn't be able to control myself.
So I see two things I would do.
1 I would do something stupid. If you lose self-control, it is mostly associated with being aggressive. I would hit the guy so hard but then I won't be able to stop. It would turn in a passionate murderer.
2 This is the way I will probably react. Just run out of the room, out of the house, away from everything because I know I'm capable of doing stupid things. I would break my fists against walls and cry. Just to calm down. Go back, pack my stuff and leave. Just start over somewhere with someone else.
