How are you percieved by others?

September 19, 2009 6:34pm CST
How do you think, you come accross, to other people? Has anyone ever told you, things about yourself, that shocked you? I think, i am a very rational, sane person..LOL..but i have been told, i can be very! tempramental, almost, a Jeckyl and Hyde character. As i am a Gemini, i suppose this fits quite well, the Twins..etc.. But, i tend to disagree, i think i am just an ok bod, who just likes to speak my mind, from time to time...(when warranted) I am sometimes shocked, by what my loved ones tell me..i just don't see it..LOL.. Has anyone ever told you things, you never even realised, about yourself??
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@Graceekwenx (3160)
• Philippines
20 Sep 09
people think i am intimidating, hence making me unapproachable by others. i dont really think so. i just speak my mind out.
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20 Sep 09
Nothing wrong with speaking your mind. Does not make you unapproachable, I would rather someone was straight with me, than two faced! ;)
• Philippines
20 Sep 09
you are right in there. Could it be that people avoid me because of my straightforwardness? I speak the truth bluntly.
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20 Sep 09
Possibly, but i prefer honesty. Some people find it offensive, I don't mean, i insult people, but if i disagree with something, i voice it, it is just the way i am, if they do not like it, then that is their problem..LOL..i never mean to offend, i just speak my mind :0
@hotsummer (13837)
• Philippines
20 Sep 09
i think they see me just below average person. not attractive person. i think that is why people don't easily notice me. ha ha.
• Boston, Massachusetts
20 Sep 09
oh c'mon hotsummer... most of time those silent people are those who catches someone's attention... the factor of being mysterious is quite challenging!!!
20 Sep 09
Hi hotsummer, I agree with reply below, don't be so hard on yourself :)
@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
20 Sep 09
OH SURE, I have been told alot of times about all my faults. My mother was really good at telling me, lol. noone is perfect, that's for sure but what u see is what u get w/me. I to am very plain spoken. I am a sagitarius, been told they were the meanest people in the world, lol.U have a good one.
@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
20 Sep 09
The main thing is we have survived w/out their blessings.
20 Sep 09
Hio Antiquelady, yes, i must admit, my mother was also very!! good at telling me how useless I am :-( I see that as her problem. Down to earth, with no back doores, is good :))
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@lynnemg (4529)
• United States
20 Sep 09
People tell me that I am very intelligent and motivated. Both of which I am. I have also been told that I am a very organized person, which I am to a point. I can't think of anything tha people have said to me that really surprised me. Well, there was one time when my best friend told me that she envied my ability to handle pressure and be independant, but it wasn't something I didn't know about myself, I was just surprised that she envied those qualitied in me when I feel that she is more put together than I am at times.
20 Sep 09
Hi lynnemg, It is funny how other people perceive us at times, like your friend, whom would probably also be surprised, that you find her more laid back than you at times. I like that sying..'oh for the gift, that god could give us, to see ourselves, as others see us' :)
• Boston, Massachusetts
20 Sep 09
hi forestgold, they used to perceive me as a friendly, jolly, approachable, easy to be with and trustworthy and...I AM! what you see is what you get. i am an extrovert and born in the zodiac of virgo.
20 Sep 09
Hi msfrancis Sounds like a good way to be, to me :-)
• United States
20 Sep 09
Hi forestgold! I believe I come across as someone who is very quiet and shy to others. Maybe even a bit stand offish. I've never had someone say something about my personality that surprised or shocked me. I pretty much wear my heart on my sleeve so what you see is what you get.
20 Sep 09
Hi Italian, Shy, can be perceived as stand offish to some people. I am quiet, if i do not take to someone, and have been called a snob, for this. I too, tend to wear my heart on my sleeve, but i have been told, i am moody, and tempramental??? by some, up one minute, down the next. I do have a temper though, sometimes, it is my downfall, if i am feeling a bit off, and someone annoys me, i voice it..LOL
@moondancer (7433)
• United States
20 Sep 09
Not really, I've never been told anything like that. At least not that I can remember at this moment. I am pretty straight forward to. I speak whatever is on my mind most times. Sometimes I talk a lot but most times I'm really quiet. My mind does not leave me alone it never rests. I even have trouble going to sleep because my mind won't leave me alone. One of my sons is a Gemini too. He is not like what they say about you either. He is a quiet, easy going person unless someone stirs up a temper he has which is not often. Most people just leave him alone.
20 Sep 09
A racing mind is one of the worst things Moondancer. I feel for you. Again, speaking your mind, i think is the best way, we are all entitled to our opinion x
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
20 Sep 09
hi forestgold my son Robbie is also a gemini and he really does'suit what the horoscope always says about him, hes tempermental, and straight forward,speaks his mind he is rationa and verysane and so logical. I am a scorpio and am reserved and quiet and some say'I am stuckup but that isnt it, I am rather shy and dont like large parties, I like small parties. nope i am not stuck up at all in fact I have sortrof an inferiority complex i am always thinking I am not quite as good as someone else, but I have worked on that do I dont feel so much that way anymore.
20 Sep 09
Hi Hatley, That really is interesting, i know a few Gemini's, and like your son, we seem to have the same traits, it is very strange, makes you wonder? My dad is a Scorpio, and like you, he is very quiet, and shy, and puts up with things, rather than speak out..he also hates, a lot of company. There must be something in all this, really. And btw, you come accross, as a real gem to me, so quit the inferior complex, this is not me being bossy ;(..this is me, speaking my mind. lol Seriously, i think you are terrific, so easy to talk to, and genuinly very nice. :)
@mikeysmom (2088)
• United States
20 Sep 09
to be honest i really do not care how i am perceived by others because i am happy within myself and do not need others approval. i am much happier since i do not care what others think of me. besides i have no control over their "perception" of me so i prefer not to even know what that is.
20 Sep 09
Hi mikey That is by far, the best attitude to have. I wish i was that more way inclined...i used to worry too much, what people think of me, but i tend to not let it get to me much now, unless it is infringing on my life (gossip), then i will! have a word. Then i am deemed too outspoken, but never mind. :)
• United Kingdom
20 Sep 09
I don't really know and I don't really care how I am perceived by others! I think that if I start worrying about that then I will walk around constantly looking over my shoulder and so forth. Actually I used to think this way quite a lot but I'm trying to remove myself from that now. I say to myself that I am me, I am the way I am and people don't like that then I really have no time for them! Harsh views I know but when you have been taken advantage of a lot and things like that well, this does tend to make you fairly hard-hearted! I am a nice chap in general though! Andrew
20 Sep 09
Hi Andrew, I totally agree, 100%, That you can certainly turn hard, from being too soft...being taken advantage of, can change you eventually... I am sure you are a very! nice chap in general :-)
@patofgold23 (5069)
• Philippines
20 Sep 09
hi forest!!! people always have the first impression that I am snobbish... and hard to get along with... but it only takes one very short conversation to prove them wrong.. once they start talking to me...they would realize that I am very friendly and easy to be close with ... I am Libra.. and I never pre-judge people... I can be friends with the most ridiculed person int e world coz I always give the benefit of the doubt... I guess because i am too straightforward about what I think and feel, makes people think I am intimidating... or they see my personality as "too strong".. maybe i am, but I have my sweet side too...very sweet in fact!
20 Sep 09
Hi patofgold, I have been called snobbish in the past. Like you, i know i am not snobbish, but if i don't take to someone, i can be quiet, i suppose. I also have a very sweet side, for those whom i do like. LOL
• Malaysia
20 Sep 09
No, I think I am perceived as fair-minded by my friends and relatives. I am friendly to all. I am forever helpful and they are very happy for that. I am generous to a fault. I give them food and cakes such as fruit cakes, chocolate cakes and all kinds of puddings of occasions. I also give them food vouchers to eat at restaurants and to shop for Christmas. I think they know me to be a very kind person.
20 Sep 09
Hi Grace, You sound very generous to me, and helpful. I hope your relatives and friends appreciate it!
@morange (92)
• Nepal
20 Sep 09
No i have never been told such a thing that has shocked me...cause i dont do mistakes alot and also i am not in touch with many people by which they dont get a chance to say anything about me and even if i heard anyone telling about me then i would rather agree or disagree seeing the situations...
20 Sep 09
Hi morange I have been shocked in the sense, if someone said i did something i did not (an ex colleague) drove me nuts with that. I found it very annoying, and had to confront her, with a few choice words. there was no agreeing with the situation, she was an out and out troblemaker. I hated that ;0
• United States
20 Sep 09
I remember one time at work a co-worker told me that she had told someone new who asked about me that "I didn't play." I think that meant that she thought I was a person who doesn't play games.
20 Sep 09
I would not know how to take that comment? LOL, Did you ever ask her? :)