Do you go for strong family ties?

Philippines
September 20, 2009 7:29am CST
Filipinos are also said to have strong family ties. You will see the grandma's and pa's living in the house of their children who already have their own families unlike in other countries where people tend to bring their old parents to homes for the aged. Moreover, the values of Filipinos have been looked upon by foreigners as a weakness instead of strength due to the nature of how they may be abused and manipulated due to these values. But values are what make up a certain nation both in growth and unity. Some may see that Filipino values are hindrances to the growth of the country and yet others may say that this is what makes our country powerful. Not all Filipino values are commendable to keep. Personally, I intend to carry on only the fine ones. Hopefully.
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@xannebull (1793)
• Philippines
20 Sep 09
I go for strong family ties because our family is the most valuable group of persons that we have on this earth, we live because of them, we work because of them and we breathe because of them. Valuing our family is just like valuing yourself. I think that this is not a sign of weakness but it is a sign of strength.
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• Philippines
20 Sep 09
very well written xannebull.i also believe that the family is the foundation of all aspects of life.one's success and failures depends on the family where he come from. Strong families are healthy families, according to some researches. several common landmarks that are central to the strength of any family are communication; time spent together; physical, mental and economic health; spirituality and support.
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@xannebull (1793)
• Philippines
20 Sep 09
thanks flagella, you know i am the master of everything but expert of none...lol
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@xannebull (1793)
• Philippines
20 Sep 09
cheers to that, now don't be sad...happy mylotting..
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@buggles64 (2709)
• United States
20 Sep 09
I love the strong family units in other countries such as Mexico and Puerto Rico. I think it's a strength to have many families living under the same roof and all contributing knowledge to each family member. As members of the family unit, we all have valuable information to share, and I think everyone wants to feel needed, loved and respected; however, it's not easy for individuals in other countries to give up their independence and conform to new rules that have been established in a household that they have not been accustomed to. I plan on carrying through with these strong family bonds with my own children if that is what they want to. I admire these countries, and I have always been in awe of their strong family bonds. I know the Mama's are seen as very strong women in these homes, and that is definitely something to be admired.
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• Philippines
26 Sep 09
having strong family ties is a trait that we should necessarily pass on to the next kin. Life can be difficult at times and it at those times we may need a support system. The best support you can get is an unconditional bond from your family.A close family bond is like a safe harbor where we find refuge. From trusting that someone will pick us up when we fall, as a toddler, to someone being there for us as we experience the storms in life - family bonds help to instill trust and hope in the world around us and belief in ourselves. Rituals of bedtime stories, hugs, holidays and daily meals shared together, provide a sense of warmth, structure and safety.
• India
20 Sep 09
hi! its a true blessing to have strong family units.in our country there are many joint families where you not only have grand parents living but also uncles and aunts.all live together fostering strong values into the new generations. with changing trends the families have gotten smaller but still they are connected with strong bond of love and sharing.and no doubt more cohesive the family ,better is the nation.so i would be all praises for similar filipino familial values.its actually a gr8 asset for a nation.
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@lynnemg (4529)
• United States
20 Sep 09
I have a very close knit family,both with my family and my in-laws. None of us live together though, we all have separate household lives with our own immediate families, but we are still all quite connected. We talk on a regular basis and make sure to stay up-to-date on what is going on with everyone. If any of us needs something, we all do what we can to help. I think that living as an entire family unit works for some, but not all people. In my case, I think that I do better living as I do and staying connected with family from afar rather than living all in the same household.
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@jheLaichie (4438)
• Philippines
20 Sep 09
as what you have said that we Filipinos have this values of strong family ties. though we have it but its not like before. now we are more into adapting to foreign culture which is not really a bad thing but with what we have and with the thing we are grown unto, things did change. the values of Filipinos have been looked upon by foreigners as a weakness instead of strength due to the nature of how they may be abused and manipulated due to these values. But values are what make up a certain nation both in growth and unity. we do live in different values on different country and nationality we are into. it may be a hindrance or not but it is what makes a country who and what they are. i just have to carry on the good values we always have and still hoping that it would be carried through out our lives and for the next generations to come! family is th basic foundation of ones country and person. we must always value it whatever the consequences and things that we have gone through with it. jhelai
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• Philippines
21 Sep 09
I don't agree to strong family ties although it is a good values of Filipino people. My reason is people becomes independent to their family especially those people who are married and still living with their parents. The good thing about this, we gain a lot of support to our family especially if we encountered difficult problems. I hope you understand my reason.
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@horsesrule (1957)
• United States
20 Sep 09
I like strong family ties. I moved in with my daughter and her three children about seven years ago and it is working for us. My daughter says sometimes she is a little uncomfortable telling people she lives with her "mommy" but I tell her that is not the right way to look at. It is her household, she is the boss here and I moved into a room in her household because I needed help because of my health and finances and she needed help with her sons. I am a roommate. So she does not live with "mommy," her sick mother moved in with her. I think it is a different thing. I think it is silly that people find it strange that we live together. I don't know how people can afford to live alone anyway with today's bad economy. I know we can't afford to live alone.
@sandymay16 (1617)
• Philippines
22 Sep 09
I go for strong family ties and it does not have to be literal. In my family we are open to being an extended one. Although no grandparents are living with us but we take in cousins and relatives who are from afar and like to go to school in the university near home. We also send relatives those willing but cannot go to school study and stay with us and help us in household chores. We join family reunions and we organize family reunions to meet up with others who seldom meet. In times of need and crisis whom do we seek for help the most? Our families of course. Others may not agree but when you have strong families it's the way it's meant to be.
@bing28 (3795)
• Philippines
21 Sep 09
Our strong family ties is not a hindrance for growth. We can be away from our loved ones for a while to earn a living but we can still maintain strong family ties by keeping in touch and keeping the love and care for each other. Taking care of our grandsparents and having them at home living together with us is a great value. I took care of my mom till she's 93 and no regrets, it's a joy serving and loving the parents who took good care and love us as well.
• Philippines
20 Sep 09
Yeah, stronger families have stronger disposition in life and if you are going to marry a man from the following background. it it likely not end in divorce or separation but would becomes more successful in married life instead..because of guided and right principles and avoiding wrong notion about family sense of development depend on each other efforts and not from influences of other people..this values is manifested..
• Philippines
26 Sep 09
i definitely agree with that. Strong family bonds help us to thrive in all aspects of life. Lack of these bonds can lead to forever seeking that something which is missing. Don't take the value of family bonds for granted. You can mold a beautiful creation for today and the generations that follow!
@angelajoy (1825)
• Philippines
21 Sep 09
I like having strong family ties, but not to the point where other family members would abuse me. I would like to have my parents in my home when they get old, but it would have to be clear to them that there should be limits to their interference. I would like to live my own life and run my own family the way that I want. I would hate to see my parents live in a home for the aged because no matter what our differences, I do love them and would like to give them the best that I can.
@shellback (864)
• Philippines
26 Sep 09
Most filipinos have strong ties thats true and i observed it, thats our trade mark.