The best age for a woman to marry
By moneygail4
@moneygail4 (77)
Philippines
September 21, 2009 1:27pm CST
I have been in a relationship for 4 years now and going 5 next year. My lover wants me to marry him before I go abroad (working abroad - i hope this will be soon). Thinking about wedding bells give me the creeps sometimes. I know I'm happy with him and i do love him. Staying at home, which most women would become when they get married, is no big deal for me - i'm used to that. But marrying? I'm still 23 and i don't think i'm that "matured" for such serious matter. My mom says I should wait til i'm 30 so i could make the most of my 20's and have fun. My dad says: "as long as I have enough finances to support my family (aside from the money my husband makes), it's a GO."Upon seeing my former classmates in college with pictures of their adorable angels posted in Facebook, I thought, why not marry early too?it has an advantage in some way. They get to grow with their children at a "younger" age - they'd have a 9 or 10-year old when we're in our 30's, while I on the other hand still carries a toddler (or maybe none....) Another thing to consider is the mortality trend... in this generation, more and more people die at a younger age (excluding death by accidents, of course) mainly because of lifestyle/stress-related causes. That means, less chances of ever seeing your grandchildren... Which is quite sad to think of because I for one would love to see my next of kin. And i want to be there when it happens....
What then is the right age for me/women to marry?????? Any advise on this would be helpful...
5 responses
@UK_Shree (3603)
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21 Sep 09
I don't think it depends on age so much. I think it is more to do with the maturity of the relationship that you are in. SO you say you have been with your boyfriend for nearly 5 years? That is quite a long time I'd say. In a way you have probably done a lot of growing up with him as you must have only been around 18 when you met him.
I would say that you should have a think about your relationship - do you have the same dreams and long-term hopes, do you share similar principles, and do you think that a long-distance marriage is something you would be happy to be in?
If you don't feel confident about having a long-distance marriage then ultimately you really need to decide what's best for you. Don't let anyone pressure you into anything.
@moneygail4 (77)
• Philippines
22 Sep 09
Thank u UK! (^_^) yep, we've grown in a lot of ways indeed. We still both have similar dreams and ambitions (ex. family life, etc.), although when it comes to principles we're far alike. and that's what i love about him. we argue on a lot of things but we learn from each other from our differences. Speaking of distance, i've been used to living away from him. He works on a 3-hour ride from my place so we get to see each other for like every 2-3 months or so. and it has been like that for the years that we've been together. so far, we've been accustomed to that. at first we both thought the relationship would end, but distance even made us communicate more and it feels reassuring. (sigh) i really do not know if i'm ready for marriage. how'd you know if you are?
@UK_Shree (3603)
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22 Sep 09
Well I am afraid there is no simple answer to that! You need to ask yourself if you are ready to commit to being with another person for the rest of your life. If the answer is yes, and you accept that you have different principles to each other then just ask your heart one last time and see what it has to say! Like I said before, it really is your choice and no one elses!
@sharlionse (739)
• Philippines
23 Sep 09
When I was younger I thought I could last without marrying, but there came a time that people around me were getting married and I started to envy them. I realized I needed a partner after all so I thought of getting married at my late 20s. Early this year I met my grade school classmate to whom I fell in love with and thinking of marrying him already. I am only 24 now. So you see, even if you get too idealistic about marrying, setting the best age, planning the best wedding.. you'll end up marrying without standards when you meet your one true love.
@moneygail4 (77)
• Philippines
23 Sep 09
yes, sometimes it's envious to see our friends marrying early and having their offspring already. they're all asking me when would be mine... (sigh)... i don't feel like giving in yet... still have a lot of things to do... if i can pursue my dreams sooner then maybe i'd tie the knot. hehehe. it's good to receive a response from someone my age... thanks for sharing sharlionse!!! (^_^)
@taztheone (1721)
• India
22 Sep 09
The best age for a girl to get married is between 21- 24. Even many studies conducted came up with the same answer because a girls body is best suited for becoming a wife & later a mother is this age. A late marriage can even affect the family life in different ways.
Happy Lotting
@moneygail4 (77)
• Philippines
22 Sep 09
True. it's good to know this taztheone. That's why i'm asking this is because i want to get your opinions and somehow help in my decision making. There's an increased risk for a difficult pregnancy when you reach the the late 20's... and also, if you have a big age gap with your children, tendency is it would be difficult for the parents to adopt to the new generation... whew!!! one more year to go then... better start the finances rolling... hehehe... thanks! (^_^)
@homeshoppers (6166)
• Philippines
25 Sep 09
it depends and its not about the age but on the mind of every women and the capacity to handle things well, like, if they are stable enough to start into marriage. if they are financially, emotionally stable. some, even if they have enough money, they still have doubt about the guy, so having a good partner is also one thing to be consider to enter into marriage life.
@phoenix1344 (698)
• United States
21 Sep 09
I really think it depends on the how the woman feels and what she is ready for. There are girls that get married as soon as they are 18 and end up living the life they wanted and everything was good. And there are those that get married way after their 30's, it really just depends. For me, personally, I would like to get married about 25 that way I had my fun in my early 20's and I am younger when I have kids. Plus, I know by then my boyfriend and I should be very steady financially. :)
@moneygail4 (77)
• Philippines
21 Sep 09
True. i'm just scared of picking the wrong decision and ending up with regrets, you know what i mean? but 25's a good age. i'd probably consider marrying at that age too. heheh
thanks for the reply phoenix! (^_^)really appreciate it.
take care. =)
