I feel like a eunuch

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I'm a German by birth, have, however, been living abroad for the past 30 years, and for the past 20 years I've been living in Mexico. As a German, it is perfectly all-right to scream at somebody, shout out your displeasure, get back at somebody when you're angry. It releases the tension, gets the frustration out of the system, and you even might change the other's behaviour that's bugging you so much, who knows? I spent 3 years in Greece, and these guys really perfected the art of getting rid of your anger by shouting at each other. I have seen, and participated in, terrible, verbal arguments, where as an accompaniement the table is being knocked with your flat hand, a staccato of rage. But I haven't seen once - not once, mind you, in three years - where those arguments turned into physical violance. Now, Mexico is totally different ballgame. They are, in that respect, Sissys. If you raise your voice a little, they sue you! No, seriously now, this is a culture where you are not supposed to get angry. In reality, everybody gets angry, since everybody is human, but you're not supposed to even show it. There is a saying " He who gets angry, loses". The other side of the coin is that you never find out who you upset (and it happens, doesn't it?), until, maybe 6 month later, you find yourself,in a figurative sense, stabbed with a knife in your back, and you never know what hit you, and you'll never find out why and by who. It´s awful. I've obviously been in a couple of relationships, and whenever I raised my voice slightly, they withdraw like a snail it its house, accusing you of a lack of respect for them. Help!! So I learned to interact with as few people as possible, and I choose my friends VERY wisely. When I leave my house I put on a smile, ready to do a show, because this state of affairs is just ridiculous. I don't argue with anybody, because the other thing is that they have perfected the art of enraging you, just to wait and see when you blow, so that they can say "see?" How do you vent your anger? I've done a couple of posts here, camouflaged as stories which end with "True or Fiction", and it really helped me - myLot as a vehicle for catharsis, would you believe it? So tell me, do you scream, throw things, get physical? Is it accepted in your culture?