young mothers/wives

I know how you feel. We got looks like that a lot too. We still do now at 28 because we have 3 kids already. We were 20 when we got married and 21 when our first child was born. Now our kids are 7,4 and 2. I think some people just like to judge anyone that has done things different in their lives. I knew from a young age that I wanted to marry and have a family. So I met the right man and that is what we did.

You are a lot older then most young mothers out there, I was 17 when my nephew was born and I remember the ugly looks I would get from people when I had him with me. A few times I would say something to the point of it was none of their business but you just got to ignore people. They have a right to their opinions even though it is hard to deal with. Believe me I would like to hit some people with the looks they give me for being an unwed mother of three very young children.

I had my kids older, 38 and 42. Several times people have asked me if those were my grandkids.

hi djc2004, don't feel bad about your situation. just ignore these people and focus your full attention with your family. let thenm say what they want to say, let them stare as if they want to say something bad or negative... what is important now is you have your husband with you and your baby. i am an advocate of adolescent reproductive health and have almost 15 years of experience working with youth... you concern are just but normal. you have more serious matters to attend to. as long as you take care of yourself, your baby and your family things will be fine. parenting is not an easy job but you can always learn from it. your husband's support is very important. open communication will also help a lot. please, don't deal with what is negative or any worse comments from them... affirm yourself for being a good, loving and responsible mother despite your being young! you can it! power hugs to you and you baby!

But 20 isnt that young?? That is crazy and I am sorry you are going through this. I don't have any kids yet but I want to by 25 or sooner. My boyfriend and I aren't married just yet but being a stay a home Mom is what I want to do. There is nothing wrong with having kids at 20 though, I dont understand why anyone would judge off of that? I'll probably get the same treatment, I'm sure. Even if I waited til I'm 25 I look extremely young for my age. I'm 20 and often mistaked for younger then 18. so by 25 I'm sure I'll barely look 20. Weird though. I'm sorry you are dealing with this and my advice would to just ignore them. Judgemental people like that are wrong and need a life.