Speak Now, or Forever Hold Your Peace

But you didn't, did you? I don't know of anyone who have done this at the wedding ceremony itself, opposed the union. I have friends who were jilted, left at the altar on the wedding day itself but nothing like this. I only see it in movies.

i won't do that, if i know that there is something i would tell it from the time you learn they planning the wedding not on the wedding day itself. Save your cousin the money for the wedding from the start. And if you do this at the wedding day you will be the 100% villain of the day and maybe for the rest of their lives.

something i would really love to do if i felt a strong reason to, but nah in reality i probably won't have enough guts to do it. especially in front of a big crowd like that. besides, i don't think my speaking up can actually stop the whole wedding , i don't think I can actually change anything after the bride and the groom have made up their minds to go and get married.

No I wouldn't speak up at the wedding itself. By that time its just usually to late. Unless I found out something the morning of the wedding, such as the groom is having an affair with one of the bridemaids or the Bride is fooling around with the best man. Even then I would say something to the person who didn't know what was going on before the wedding was to take place. Then they would have to comfort each other with the facts and take it from there. I'm guessing there wouldn't be a wedding then.

Y think those words are said to ask if there´s an impediment by law to marry. It´s not a question of liking or not the marriage. But you could have told him that in privete. I wouldn´t either. I think it´s not my business. But it´s better than your slapping scene. Happy posting!

I would say something. I have the courage to say something. I mean it might be helpful to the couples and maybe they think it's right there getting married when there not, I have a chance to say something. Rather than waiste the time marrying somebody that you think your going to be with the rest of your life, than somebody know's your not I defently think they should speak up.

shortyakbar hi oh no I would not do that. If I had had any objections they would have been voiced a long time before that. anyway nobody has a right to object to a marriage between two people who love' each other at all. unless one or the other was under age, then there might be somebody who would stop the marriage, the parents of the underaged person.

I haven't heard that line spoken in any of the weddings I've personally attended but, no, I would not interrupt someone's wedding to voice an opinion. I believe that this tradition goes back to a time when it was harder to determine whether someone was legally able to marry and the intent of that line was to allow anyone with knowledge of another husband/wife somewhere else to speak out about that. Being a jerk is not a valid reason for stopping a wedding.

By the time the wedding day had arrived, I would have already voiced my concerns to the couple.After that, if they chose to get married, I think that I wouls try to support their decision.

The only time I saw someone do something like that was in a movie. I never saw one in real life. In fact, no one should do that in real life. If you need to stop the wedding, do that before they walk down the aisle. Much better, do that before they're getting married. Once they already hold hands and the preacher said that line, you better give them your blessing.

Maybe you should have done that before the wedding..LOL.. I think if it was someone that I knew for sure that was bad then I would go to the person and let them know the truth about them before they got to that point. If that didn't work then Im not sure if I would jump up at that moment knowing that it wouldn't change their minds and embarass me in the process..HUMM think not..LOL..Oh yeah how did the marriage work out so far with the cousin? Cute discussion..Keep smiling..

I would never ruin someone's wedding ceremony by interrupting it with my objections. If I had concerns I would have voiced them in private with the person long before the wedding day arrived. We cannot always know who will be a good partner for our loved. But any serious issues can be brought out in the open. After that, the decision of whether to wed or not is still his to make, not yours. I hope everything works out well for the new couple. This is one situation where you can only hope you are wrong.

The Love Interest is about to get married to the wrong guy, and everything seems to be going smoothly. But then the priest gets to the infamous line. You know, the one the trope's named after. Sure enough, Just In Time, The Hero bursts in with a flowery declaration of love (and/or a denouncement of the hypotenuse as the utter Jerk he/she really is). Or if it's the hero and love interest at the altar, some other lover will object. Either way, once that line's uttered, someone's bound to not hold their peace. In the end, most of the time, The Rival is deposed, the hero and Love Interest kiss and make up (and might even get hitched on the spot, after all; Why Waste A Wedding?), and they all live Happily Ever After... Nevermind that the original point of asking was to check if an unknown legal reason would invalidate the wedding, such as an existing marriage or consanguinity; any reason will suffice when true love is at stake. On the other hand, it is before the Wedding Deadline. Usually subverted these days: either the officiant doesn't even have time to get to the line before the seething tensions break loose, or the one character who objects to the union is petty, superficial, and thankfully silent at the fatal moment. Bleah! We really don't need to see this one again. Little wonder it's hardly ever played straight anymore. It's not even played straight in Real Life these days: the line is usually omitted from modern wedding ceremonies. The only place most people will ever hear of it is through the media.