Do you talk softly or loudly?
By buchi_bulla
@Buchi_bulla (8298)
India
September 25, 2009 9:27pm CST
Some people talk very softly like only the listener has to know what he is telling and the others will shout and talk so that the whole bus or street can hear what they are telling. I am a moderate talker neither too loud nor too low. My people always ask me to slow down but during the course of conversation, I tend to go loud. How about you? Do you talk slowly or loudly?
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42 responses
@charlies2805 (777)
•
26 Sep 09
Well, apparently I'm a loudtalker. LOL. But I can't even control my voice volume. Especially in the middle of night when everybody sleeps, even I already whisper, but I can even wake someone up ! =P Maybe because I spend a lot of time beside the main road, so it's automatically set my voice volume. =)
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@prinzcy (32305)
• Malaysia
26 Sep 09
I have two volume; loud and louder. I try to talk in moderate tone at a time. But just like my speeding speech, I lost control of it unconsciously. It's annoying when people think I am being rude. I am trying to control it and it's very hard. They can't understand it and make assumption about it. A senior during high school even said I need to learn to talk softly like other girl. It's a very rude remark to me.
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@Buchi_bulla (8298)
• India
27 Sep 09
Yes this is the problem of being loud in talking. It is misunderstood by others.
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@roniroxas (10559)
• Philippines
26 Sep 09
for me it depends on my mode lol. if i am happy then it can be moderate. if i am excited it can be loud. i am a singer so during work i need to be extra loud so i can get people's attention. but on a stiing down conversation i speak loud when i am excited or if me and my friends are having fun. when my children dont want to listen then i have a loud voice. more often i am moderate
@Buchi_bulla (8298)
• India
27 Sep 09
The same like me. When children do not listen then I will shout. Then children will call me tape recorder.
@rameshkumaar57 (5908)
• India
26 Sep 09
Hi there buchi, I have a loud voice, and I talk very loudly. The problem is when I get exited, I tend to talk in a loud tenor, and this makes the other people, think, that I am fighting with them. This is one of the minus points of having a loud voice.
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@Buchi_bulla (8298)
• India
27 Sep 09
You are right. If we talk loudly it is misunderstood by people.
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@moneymakingtoday (4061)
• Philippines
26 Sep 09
i can do both depending on a situation. if the person is located close to me, i think there is no need to talk loudly. if i have to call his attention as he walks away, i feel i need to shout so he can hear me. other occasions, i speak in a normal, low voice.
there are extremes, i know. i know of one person in the workplace who likes everyone to know what she is up to and always speaks loudly for everyone to hear. she does this mostly because she wants to get our attention, maybe trying to impress us or solicit admiration from us because she always boasts of achievements and good things that are happening to her family or in the house. lots of office mates are just annoyed by her person. she is becoming more obnoxious especially of late.
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@danishcanadian (28955)
• Canada
29 Sep 09
We all have rather loud voices in my family. Not so loud that it sounds like we're yelling at eachother, but not so soft that it sounds like we're meek and mild, or whispering either.
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@FAIZANABBASI (14)
• Pakistan
26 Sep 09
Well im naturally slow and soft in conversation i expect from other people to talk to me in same manner I hate people who talk like they are shouting at someone This behviour really makes me angry because for me its sign of illiterate people
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@Sweetchariot (1718)
• United States
26 Sep 09
I have a deep voice (caused from many years of smoking), therefore my voice is very distinguishable the way it is. Any many people have told me that I have good speaking voice, because it carries well.
Unfortunately, that's not always good, when I want to speak to someone privately, and most people hear it anyway.
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@phoenix1344 (698)
• United States
26 Sep 09
I am definitely a soft talker to the point where many people have to ask me to repeat myself. Which, let me tell you, can really get annoying. Especially because I dont even feel like I am speaking quietly. Actually my boyfriend gets really annoyed when I talk quietly and always tells me to speak up, otherwise he cant hear me. lol.
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@Buchi_bulla (8298)
• India
26 Sep 09
My God so soft is it, I thing I have to learn from you. My husband says out of all people, only your voice was heard. Talk slowly.
@abhikmjmdr (779)
• India
26 Sep 09
I am more of a listener than a talker. I have found people like to confide in me generally rather than listen to me. I am by nature a soft spoken person but I do possess the quality to get my view across. But by being a listener I have found, one learns a lot if you know what to retain in your memory and what not to, it gives you more knowledge than a single lecture can.
@joy_evaldez (461)
• Singapore
26 Sep 09
Hi there! For me it depends on the situation. I am usually soft spoken person. I have loud conversation as I do not think that is necessary especially if you are talking with only trivial things that other people might not want to know. But since I joined my company and start dealing with various nationalities, sometimes I tend to spoke loudly as I do not think they understand me the first time I explained the things to them. Especially on the phone, now I got easily irritated as some of them will ask senseless question that I do not think deserve even a one word answer.
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@krupesh (2608)
• India
26 Sep 09
I am also a moderate talker.I start soft & if the conversation continues it might become loud.But usually I see the atmosphere whether I am in a public place or not.If I am in a public place & lots of people around I tend to go soft orelse moderate.
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@Baluyadav (3643)
• India
26 Sep 09
Hi,buchi,i am a soft spoken person since my childhood,but not very low sound.It is in clarity and one can hear my words comfortably.Have a nice time.
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@beri30ibt (1)
• United States
31 Jul 10
I too have been on this problem for so long. I speak so soft and I get so annoyed when people around me are asking me to repeat myself. I feel I am not doing it right or I am having a problem in my throat or something. It really pisses me off. But now that I have seen that there are actually people who struggle on such, it gives me so much peace of mind that I am not alone in this world.
Thanks guys and please tell me ways that I can improve it .
Beri
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@Professor2010 (20162)
• India
12 Jun 11
While talking to friends, family members i speak with a very soft voice, but in college while i teach or in seminars my voice is always loud, it is a necessity..
Thank you so much for this discussion
Enjoy life to fullest.
Professor ‘*^Bhuwan^*’. .
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@Buchi_bulla (8298)
• India
20 Jun 11
Generally people are loud in anger. But there are exceptions who can control their anger too especially in offices to avoid unnecessary scenes and complicate the matter. But I try to be moderate when I am angry.