Sad Day For MY Friend.

yes very sad when they cant take care of self any more. No I dont think people need to many sad things happen to them. I would have liked my mom to come stay with me when she got whare she couldnt do her normal things. But SIs and bro fought me on it. and also momma wouldnt come stay with me or with either my brother or sister. Now she is in her 2nd assistant living home and has short term memory and sleeps all the time eats vey little need help with shower and geting dressed hospic does this if family dont get there to do it. and the place cost $2100 a month and if they do any thing extra they charge for it. I cant see where a room and meals fixed cost that much! Told my breother maybe we ought to go into that business!

It is so sad about your friend.Some people just don't seem to have any luck at all.Having to live with the fact her husband killed himself and all the struggle that must have left her with.No one deserves a bad life unless of course they have done harm to kids or defenceless people.One the whole I have come to the conclusion that bad things happen to nice people.What more can be said.

I don't think so either, but some people do seem to have more disasters hit them, sometimes one after another. Sad...

I do hope that the Nursing Home is a good one. So many aren't. Sometimes we have just made bad choices in life and do not change and have to live with he consequences unfortunately. I console myself by knowing that there was never a commandment that said : Thou shalt have life fair: But what was promised is that Jesus is always with us to help bear the burdens that we endure.This life is only temporary. Eternity is forever. Your friend if not sick has the choice of still choosing to live and try to enjoy each day as it comes or to be angry and sad. Do people deserve bad things? Probably not but other people choose to hurt or harm hem or do bad things against them. Evil is in the world and some people are that - just evil and they harm others. This is so difficult to answer fully. I do hope that she is o.k. and I know that you will visit her. Many blessings

Horrible things happen for a reason. But surely all people deserve something good in their lives... I suggest you visit her every now and then on that nursing home. At this time of her life, she needs someone who can give her love and a little hope... :)

hi, anti, I just want to share my experience with you. I am a girl of 28, and I do not have a boyfriend, and I have been sent to mental hospitals for 4 times. I have no control over my life. now I am taking pills at home. I do not know how to face this life of mine. Who can tell me how I should go on with my life? the man I love most now is married to another girl. I just can not forget him . i miss him a lot. he is the nicest person I think in the world. he is my sunshine. without him, i am living by myself now. my parents now is kinder to me than before. how i still can not thank them for giving me my life. how can I deal with my life from now on? hope it will not be too long. if time flies, then that is good news to me, since i can not have the man i love.

It is sad. I don't think they deserve it either. I think they should be able to stay in a private home or apartment and get the help they need.

That is so sad and I am very sorry about it. I feel sorry for people like her. It seems no matter how hard some people try and deserve things, they get dealt a bad hand to play with every time. I hope she can find some kind of comfort and peace eventually no matter what happens.

well, it depends on the nursing home. most nursing homes are nice here in canada and they have activities for the residents to do, a library, shopping trips and whatnot. hopefully the one she goes to will offer her things to do too.

That is a very sad day when someone can no longer stay in their own home....I would be devastated...like I am sure she is.....I don't think anyone deserves all that to happen....dang it all anyway!

hi antiquelady you did her hair? okay just wondered if you were here once as someone else.anyway no people do not deserve to have so many sad things in their lives,but life is not fair' and I have had my own share of that kind of thing. I am not in a nursing home but in an assisted living retirement center simply because we were evicted from our home and had no other place to live,myson is out of work. but we are both alive and well and hope is still out there for us.

I'm very sorry to hear about your friend. It always seems like bad or sad things happen to people that don't deserve it. I try to keep in mind what my mother always told me, which is "what doesn't kill us only makes us stronger". I don't know if that's true or not, but it helps to think about that when things seem like they can't get any worse.

well i feel sorry for what happened to your friend. but in my opinion, everyone do not know what's going on in the next minute to her/him. someone is lucky in her life, but someone is unlucky in life. but i think we should control our life, even we encounter some obstacles. with strong power inside, life would be better.

Hi Antique, I think some people get a raw deal in life, and i think your friend is one of them. It is very sad, and i feel for her, but what you can do, is keep visiting her, and make her feel wanted, and that her life is not over, just circumstance has changed it a little. It is a shame, some people sail through this life, and others seem to get one bad thing after another :((

Being in a nursing home may give her more support and care than she has gotten anywhere else in the last twenty five years. I do not think any of us get what we really deserve, but we do get consequences of our own and other people's choices.

I'm so sorry to hear this Jo. I don't understand it either, why is it that the good have it so hard and the bad have it so easy? It hardly seems fair, does it? My mom would say it's our cross to bear for us to get into Heaven just like Jesus bore his cross. Who knows? Maybe she's right. After all, Heaven or hell is forever but our time on earth is only temporary. Bless her heart and of course yours!

Hi ANTIQULADY people must never get tried from having sad things and fight till the end coz they would approve that they deserve better and believe that they must be happy for rest of there life and may the god who give us the faith in this life bless us all !! I hope your friend get well soon !!

I'm so sorry to hear about this! You're right. We never know what's going to happen to us the older we get. I hope I never have to go to a nursing home, myself. I really like the assisted living facilities better. That's where I would rather go if I should get to where I can't stay by myself any more. The problem is, I have Medicaid and Medicaid won't pay for an assisted living facility. It will pay for a nursing home, though. No, I don't think people deserve to have so many sad things happen to them, especially if they are good people. It sounds like she's really had a sad life! Kathy.

oh I feel sad for her. But in my family, we don't practice this stuff,we take good care of our elderly and we still seek their opinions about the important decisions we will be making in our lives. We seek for their wisdom because of the vast experiences they had. We don't disregard them, we give them back the love and care that they have showed us when we were still growing. Hope people will realize that at the end of the day, we will still go back to our family...

No-one deserves sad things or bad things happening, but, unfortunately they do. It is heart wrenching when a senior citizen needs to give up their home, though. A time when they deserve peace and tranquility most of all, and they are faced with giving up everything familiar and comforting to them. I sincerely hope that the nursing home is close enough that you can visit her, and maybe continue doing her hair? Too often seniors are so lonely, and even an occasional visit can cheer them no end. To anyone who can, volunteer at your local nursing home.There are many different things you can do; reading, running errands, or just visiting. They only ask one hour of your time, and you will see for yourself that yes indeed, we all can make a difference, with very little effort.