Relationship
By david2005
@david2005 (798)
Canada
September 30, 2009 4:26pm CST
I know a friend that has been in a relationship for almost five years now and he has four kids with her and they never seem to get along but he loves her though with all of his heart but his girlfriend cares about another guy though and in order for him not to lose the girl that he loves so much and tare there family apart he has decided to share her with the other guy so now she has two boyfriends and he is always home with the kids. Everyone seems to be telling him to leave her but he wants to always be there for her though cause she means everything to him and she is his world. I was wondering what should I say to him to make him feel better about his life and himself so he doesn't end up doing something stupid like taking his own life cause he seems to be very depressed lately. I have already told him to think about his kids and what they mean to him and that it isn't worth it cause things do change and maybe someday his woman might smarten up and realize what she has right in front of her.
3 responses
@freezeover98 (203)
• United States
30 Sep 09
No offense, but your friend is an idiot.
Sharing? Seriously?
Trying to keep the family together, but he doesn't realize that her being with the other guy means his family has ALREADY been torn apart. Its too late for him.
@david2005 (798)
• Canada
1 Oct 09
I can see your point but I can also see his point too about not leaving her because of the kids and the feelings he has for her.
@freezeover98 (203)
• United States
1 Oct 09
People always say they want to stay together for the kids... But a kid with 2 unhappy parents living together has a harder time than a kid with two happy, separated parents. Its not always good for the kids to have them both there if there's so many problems.
@buggles64 (2709)
• United States
30 Sep 09
My heart aches for your friend. I would hope that he and his girlfriend can work things out between the two of them, because his family obviously means a lot to him, and I am positive the kids mean a lot to her too, but it is a mistake to stay with her because of the kids. It is only when two people love each other that they will be able to work their problems out, children or not. I know if it were me, I would do everything I could to save the relationship especially if I knew how much my man loved me and wanted to be with me and our kids.
@RiujinZero (58)
• United States
1 Oct 09
The sad truth is it seems like she is just using him. I take it they share their finances also, so not only can she splurge with his money she can splurge with her other boyfriend's money.
As much as family may mean to him the fact is he needs to realize that this can't go on. He has to draw the line somewhere. It may end up causing him to lose her but in the long run it will be much better for him.
As a friend I would say to have a talk with him and let him know your stance on the whole situation. Don't just be a "shoulder to cry on." Not only is he depressed but it seems like he is also in denial and as a friend you need to point it out.
Best of luck.
@david2005 (798)
• Canada
1 Oct 09
You are right about what what you said but you can't make a person see the truth if they choose to be blind though and think that everything can and will work out.
