They Keep Asking "When", so When are They Gonna Stop Asking?
By kevchua
@kevchua (1004)
Malaysia
October 1, 2009 7:32am CST
When you're single, they'll ask you when you're getting a girlfriend. When you already have one, they'll ask you when you're tying the knot. Once that's done, they'll ask you when you're going to have a baby. When you already have a son, they'll ask when you're going to have daughter. Are these people genuinely curious or just asking for the heck of it?
Can't these people just be less busybody (though I know they may not mean to be), and let us lead our own lives?
Is it just me, or do you guys have the same experience?
6 responses
@sandymay16 (1617)
• Philippines
1 Oct 09
Hi, I have the same experience but until now they're still asking when I'm going to get married. LOL Now I have always said NEVER not even in a million years! so they will really stop asking.
Now, I have cousins and siblings who have really experienced that and now a cousin who has been married for two years yet have been asked many times when they will have a baby.
I guess people are just curious and it's a way of bonding and getting to know someone better. But sometimes it's more of a nuisance.
Thanks for the response.
@Wizzywig (7847)
•
1 Oct 09
It doesn't stop...I have two 'grown-up' sons and people ask when I'm going to have grandchildren... like I have any control over that!! I just say "if and when it happens". I had a friend whose mother-in-law kept hassling as to "when" she was going to make her a grandmother even after the poor girl had suffered 3 miscarriages!
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@neo_matrix (884)
• India
1 Oct 09
oh initially it bothered me a lot and i felt the need to oblige them with a answer but now i feel its more of a habit rather than any genuine curiosity so i have stopped bothering.so whenever i face with the question "when i am getting married ?" ,my one time reply is they wud be the first one to know about my mr right.and leave the topic then and there concluding that they are not going to miss any information they so badly seek.
@cwong77 (2010)
• Malaysia
2 Oct 09
hahaha... kev, I think this happen in the Asian culture! Everyone is so concern the 'when' issues and it's not just you having this experience, trust me!
I had the same experience, and till now, after being where I am, I got all this stop coz nobody dare to ask me anything any more! I believe this happens more often when come to those festive seasons, when we had family gathering and so forth! Frankly speaking, I just don't like to answer this kind of question.
@aamir030586 (382)
• India
1 Oct 09
first u stop asking to ask "when" as in this discussion put up by u...ok
@Rite17 (773)
• United Kingdom
2 Oct 09
me n fella are fed up of having Qs thrown at us... evan though I wonder myself... 'When are WE getting married?' and it's more of the heck of it... make convo as there isnt much else to talk about than ask a Q to get one started... Iv found once we kill it, seems quiet for while then another Q comes up and another convo could start up.. lol
