How to handle a nagging wife? or nagging is sometimes justified.
By manong05
@manong05 (5027)
Philippines
October 1, 2009 9:26pm CST
I don't have this problem but my friend does. He handles it by going out and socialize with friends rather than sit down and talk things over with the wife. For him that's a waste of time, often it doesn't go anywhere.
Any ideas?
5 responses
@aharter (16)
• United States
2 Oct 09
I used to be the "nagging" wife kind. And my husband's response would be to go out everyday with his friends or stay at their house for days. This only made things worse. I felt very alone and forgotten. I spent my nights crying and my days nagging about him not spending any time with me. Your friend needs to face the music and have a talk with his wife. He needs to realize that his actions are probably only making the problem bigger. My husband started including me in to his social life. He still has his time alone. But, we also have our time. And we couldn't be happier.
@maezee (41988)
• United States
2 Oct 09
I'm thinking that he should just try to deal with those annoying "talks". I think marraige, and being in any kind of relationship..Has to do with compromise. He and his wife need to COMPROMISE. Maybe he can spend half the time with her, talking, and half the time with his friends. It doesn't seem fair to ignore his wife, but at the same time - I understand the need to have a social life and a life away from home. I think he should sit through these talks, but perhaps TALK about the importance of having friends in his life to his wife - during these "talks".
@manong05 (5027)
• Philippines
2 Oct 09
yes, the reason that makes the wife nag must be resolved. Otherwise this will be a never ending annoying scenario. There are appropriate moments to talk things over and resolve issues but this is easily said than done. But to do it, the couple must.
cheers.
@goldeneagle (6745)
• United States
2 Oct 09
Women can't help the fact that they nag. That is just how they do things. LOL We just have to learn to ignore it LOL
@lynnemg (4529)
• United States
2 Oct 09
Maybe rather than running from the issue, he should really listen to what she is saying. I bet that her "nagging" is justified in some way. I know that when I am "nagging" my husband, it is normally about something that I find important and he has continualy brushed off. For example, he used to say that I was always "nagging" him about doing things arounf the house. I was. I would ask him to do something, or help me do something, he would put it off, I would ask a few days later, same response, it would go on and on. Then, one weekend, he got grouchy because of my "nagging" and I explained to him exactly why I was doing it. He got the point and now he tried to not only listen more but also to follow through with what he says as well. In return, I have tried to ease up a bit and remember that he works hard all week too.
Comunication is always the best approach, running never solves anything.
@manong05 (5027)
• Philippines
2 Oct 09
nagging then is sometimes justified and running away from the problem doesn't solve anything. In your case, i believe you have a reason to basing on the reasons you cited but can it be possible that some wives are just persistent and compulsive naggers, that is, they nag for just about anything.
@forestgold (792)
•
2 Oct 09
There must be a reason why she nags?
maybe he goes out too much, and that is the problem? 
Maybe he should try talking more, and being a bit more understanding. 
Maybe he should try talking more, and being a bit more understanding. 