Do you do what your friends do?

By fler
@feodda (579)
Philippines
October 3, 2009 8:36am CST
I have a circle of friends in high school whom I really go with for a long time. Until we all graduated, there are some changes in most of them. Some of them have started smoking and going to bars, which aren't really my thing. I still like them as my friends. For me, even though they are my friends, I don't do the same thing they do. We're friends but it doesn't mean we all do the same things together. How about you? Do you do what they do?
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15 responses
@icegermany (2524)
• India
3 Oct 09
it is always there that we get influenced by friends and even we would like to do what they do it but i think this usually happens when we are young and we dont think maturely and we tend to do things what friends do. but it is always imporant that we have to do and learn good things from friends and not all things irrespective of good and bad. most of the people get influenced by their friends and get into wrong ways which spoils their life.
@feodda (579)
• Philippines
4 Oct 09
There are some friends do what their friends are doing without any thinking, just because their friends did it. Might come to a point they will be influenced and spoiled their life, that's the worst scenario may happen. We have the choice, we should think maturely if it good for us or not.
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• India
4 Oct 09
youare absolutely right it is always suggested that we have to take a wise decision and think of our future, it is ourself who have to think of our future and not others and hence be wise and take wise decisions and not get influenced through bad things and always prefer tmake our future bright and good and also not spoil our name.
• Singapore
5 Oct 09
It is indeed 'peer pressure' that lead us to do what our friends are doing. It is usually experienced by teenager I they seek approval from their peers to join the group. Those with low self-esteem usually become prey of this situation. As we grow older, we also outgrown this kind of pressure from our friends. We tend to pursue our own interest without feared of being rejected by a friend.
• Philippines
4 Oct 09
HI feodda its Jeanny,,,, wow you really awesome girl... yes... but you know what feodds.. i experienced that before but now i learned from it.. i was afraid before ....... all my berks .. during every weekend we all went to one of our classmates house and went to food trip on which i loved it!!, but later on... they developed to went out and drinking outside... of course a part of a group i went to them but then as one night.. that i really refused to drink because i am not feeling and i felt like i am going to have a cough ... but they forced and the worst is... they poured it on my pants.. that's really made me feel so bad and from then... i kept distance from them ... you should limit yourself... and know your friends very well...
@feodda (579)
• Philippines
4 Oct 09
hi Jeanny, Thanks for share you experience. We really know our limitations.
@mesuaky (397)
• Singapore
6 Oct 09
Hi feodda, i also have a group of friends and i'll tell you, every people change it may be for the good or for the bad but bear in mind that you are not required to do the same thing they are doing. If now your friends has learened to smoke it dosen't mean you too need to smoke. But this time you basically know what is right and what is wrong, they too know that but they still choose this path yet for your case you need to think hard and long are you ready to accept the life long consiquences of your action? and if you want to really know if these people are your true friends they will never fource you to joing their vices in life and they know they are currently in trouble themsele, and a true friend will repect you and continue to be friend with you what ever you have choose to do in your life, if you refuse to join they should respect that decision and continue to be your friend. if they act otherwise well i advice you to think hard if these people are your true friend and is your life worth to waste with them.
• Philippines
5 Oct 09
Sometime yes, sometimes no. I'm the sort of person who likes to take life slowly. I'm always willing to stand up for my friends but I usually know the differences between right and wrong. I put myself in other people shoes and see how it feels to be like them and then handle the situation accordingly. I know my limitation.
• Philippines
3 Oct 09
No. I also don't do what my other friends are doing. I don't believe that we should do what are friends are doing if we think it is not good or right for us. We can still be friends even if we don't agree on some things, as long as the caring and love for each other are presence. The true meaning of friendship is what matter most.
@feodda (579)
• Philippines
4 Oct 09
Friends should accept what their weakness and strength as well as the good or bad. What is important is the friendship is stand still. And we ourselves knows the accept.
3 Oct 09
Some may call it peer pressure. My friends & I do a lot of cool stuffs together. I usually do what they do, vice versa. But when talking of smoking and other bad influence habits, I don't do it. I have friends who smoke but it is still cool for them that I don't smoke.
@feodda (579)
• Philippines
4 Oct 09
We really involved in a peer pressure. What they do we do, but not all of it.
@rmuxagirl (7548)
• United States
4 Oct 09
My friends and I tend to just sit around at my best friend's house and talk. My best friend and her husband pretty much host our friend get-togethers because we all have been friends for a long time and all hang out together. We sit around a bonfire and talk.
@sallysue (326)
• Canada
4 Oct 09
Hi: When you bring up this question I always remember my dad saying "if your friends jumped off a bridge would you?" I think that was great words of advice from my dad. It made me become an individual. If your friends like you they will respect the fact that you are who you are. We won't always have the same friends, but we will always have ourselves to deal with, so we have to be whom we are. We have to be true to ourselves. When my friends smoke or drink I respect them for their choice to do that, but I don't want to, so why should I? I haven't lost any friends yet.
@fifileigh (3615)
• United States
4 Oct 09
yeah. that is how i was when i was young. i hang out with different groups sometimes, and everyone does their own thing and we remain friends. i do what i want and they do what they want. i even used to talk to other people that some of my group didnt like. i dont care. i was open minded to talk with different crowds.
@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
4 Oct 09
I am at the stage in life where a lot of my life revolves around my child therefore I have made a lot of friends who are also mums; we all have children around the same age and share a great deal that way. My best friend who I have known for many years is also at a different stage because her children are all grown up and no longer living with her, we are and always will be close but we definitely live very different lives.
@aerous (13434)
• Philippines
3 Oct 09
When I was in college. My classmates being my closest friend until today. One of my friend now, are going to casino things that he can't do when we are in college. He invites me but I always refuse because I know this is not good...It seems we are the same in the story of life, my friend..have a great day! Thanks for being, my friend..hope you are my friend not only today but always
@angelajoy (1825)
• Philippines
4 Oct 09
No, I don't. I do what I like to do and no one can pressure me into doing something that I don't want to do. Well, actually, there is one person who can persuade me to do something, and that is my boyfriend. But he doesn't really force me into anything. I just want to do things for him.
@Craicha (801)
3 Oct 09
lol..nope as in were friends even very closed one maybe bcoz we had the same likes and dslikes and most of all the important we can get along in lot of things but theres her ways that i dnt like but she understand and dont forced me to do so like i dnt do the same what she do like she always go out for a date with different guys and like to do night clubbing and this way were opposite.....
@vopols (204)
• Philippines
4 Oct 09
Good day my friend. My friends are quite the same as what you had described in fact some of them are much more worse than that. I sometimes do whatever they do for as long as it's safe and I cannot hurt other feelings it's definitely okay for me. I am matured already and I can already judge what's moral than immoral what's harmful or not.What matters most for me safe for me body. I had my own set of rules in dealing with my friends and also following them If I think it's harmful and bad I simply say NO to them but that's me I don't care if they feel mad at me because I am just trying to be me. Friendship for me is not just about following them. Friendship is about giving time and care for them whenever they wanted. It times of trouble no matter how far you are a true friend is always there for help.That's the most important thing.
• Philippines
3 Oct 09
my friends are all smart. they know their dos and don'ts. I have my own life. After all, we became friends because we liked each other from the start. We're frank to each other that's why our relationship stays strong. I'm glad that I have these kind of friends. I feel lucky. I love them. ^^