How do you react when people is talking about you

If I feel like someone is talking about me, I will confrom them and ask them if they have a problem with whatever it is that I'm doing. If they say yes, thet I ask them what they are going to do about it. Most generally, they won't do anything and feel stupid. It's all about how that person reacts when you confront them. If they are an a--hole, they will feel stupid and shut up. If they are a friend, then discuss the problem to get it out in the open so that you can move on. Depends on if it's a friend or just someone you see around, or even someone you don't know.

From time to time it is bound to happen and in reality there is not much you can really do. It would be nice if people could all get along and no one talk bad about someone, but then this would not be as the Bible predicted for sure. But I think a lot of times when you hear people talking about you behind your back or know people that have been talking about you by the stares and quiet looks you get, the Best thing is to just SMILE at them and act like you never would suspect a thing. Also find simething positive to do around them to maybe make them STOP and think more next time before they act as well.

Hi Starsailover, Well my motto is that whilst they are talking about me they are leaving someone else alone. I ignore, I don't participate in gossip at work either, I will listen if someone wantsa rant but not react back as words get twisted too. If they have nothing better to do with their lives than to talk about others they are indeed very sad. Huggles. Ellie :D

Hi starsail, life is filled with gossips, rumors, and intrigues. Without talk, life would not be spicy at all. That is why the paparazzi has evolved from ordinary magazine or news reporters to news scoop stalkers. People just love to talk. Although many celebrities enjoy the limelight, ordinary people would rather keep their privacy. If celebrities believe even bad news is still publicity, ordinary people would already feel devastated when something bad is proliferated about them, especially when the rumor mongers are work associates or community friends. starsail, take things with a grain of salt. Truth has a way of emerging and putting things and people in the correct perspective. Before you know it, you had been vindicated. Besides, your genuine friends know who you are. They are the ones who matter. All the rest are scums of the earth!

Many people to that and we can't pleased everyone so take it slow, ignore them cause in the long run they will get tired of it and it will pass as if nothing happen,or maybe you show them that what they think about you is wrong. just be humble not to seek for a fight. some are people who are lonely in their own lives so they want others to suffer too..goodday..

I can understand people easily why he is talking about me infront of others...so I most of the time I would like to react according to his subtext will bcoz i wont let him down or up..

People who talk about you especially behind your back and/or judge you are certainly not people I would want to associate with or befriend, they must have problems and insecurities in their own lives to spend precious time criticizing or talking about you. I hate being judged, and I have been judged a lot in my life, especially from the bullies who think because I am sensitive, caring I am vulnerable and they feel the need to use and abuse me in any way they can. There are a lot of nice people to spend time and be happy with, you don't need those type of people who judge.

I Write them off. If they are going to talk behind my back , they aren't my time.I rather focus on the people that like me and let all others go to hell.

I used to say nothing, but of course i felt hurt. But I don't like to bash people back or something like that. Probably just walked away, or just say nothing. But something for sure, I always remember not to talk or chatting with people that talk behind my back. Talking with them fine, but i will make sure that nothing secretive or too long conversation out from my mouth.

Hello starsailover. I don't like it when people talk about me in public, good or bad, but it is ok if it is something positive. I cannot suffer it if it is something bad against me. Otherwise I will have him or her shut up without talking about me unless it is a talk behind me without my knowing about it. lol. Have a good day, starsailover.

Many people love gossip. They are happy to talked about somebody either in a good or bad way. Better if it is good because it will uplift our feelings but when it's bad, of course we are hurt. I caught many times some people talking bad about me but I let them do what they always do. I make myself not affected with it, sooner or later they will stop making it when they see you not affected. Better let them talked what they want. They will felt bored to talked about you if you showed them you are not affected.

I would keep looking at them to make them aware that I am aware that they are talking about me. Hopefully that will give them good enough of a mind to stop doing it right away. I would not like that at all if people were standing there talking about me. If they did not stop after I looked at them I would probably either leave or if I was in the mood I might say something to them like what is their problem.

Hi starsailover, I heard somewhere if people talk about you, think you are becoming important enough. :) Yes, people talk. If they talk positively, I feel my ego bursting at seams, though outwardly I pretend it is embarassing me. :) When they talk bad, it hurts. A need to explain myself arises. I wish they would give me a chance to explain myself. If they dont, then I feel a bit cut up. I keep a mental log, the next time I get an opportunity to explain things, I will. But then, a distance does creep inside the relationship. :( However, the good news is given time, these differences resolve themselves. There are ample opportunities to be heard and understood. Just hang on. :)

I experienced that also...it's really irritating me.. because I really hate person who stub me on my back and not fighting me face to face.. I'm a kind of person who is quite frank (but in a nice way)...I hate those person who saying bad things to you..and telling others that they don't like you instead of saying that in front of you.. (its much better) sign!*

Hello starsailor. To begin with, thank you for the topic. I have to say that I feel the same like you do. I don't like to hear people talk about me before other people, even when I am on the spot because I feel embarrassed when one is doing so.

hi starsailover I hate it when people are being nasty about me and I do confront then. I say if you have a problem with' me tell it to me not the whole world,otherwise keep your stupid mouth shut, they will not get it unless you sound angry which I was. they did not ever do that to me again. in fact they were fired shortly after that for not doing their work.

I generally don't care most of the time. Sometimes though it is necessary to tell people to mind their own business.