Can you accept your ex even if he/she has already a baby?

well NurseMathilda, I think you should analyze your situation now, and ask yourself: 1. do you still love him? why? This is the most important thing. maybe you just haven't found the MR. right, and you want to get married, if this, then I don't advise you to forgive him so soon, you may have to think twice before you come back again with him. 2. Does he really loves you? Or he just want to find a female to take care of his baby? since he said he made a mistake, and already have a baby! You may be cautious, he just happen to think of you, you maybe able to help. Sometimes man are selfish!! 3. make sure you won't quarrel wit him about the baby thing after you are together, since if you are back to him, maybe you will have to take care of his baby... I wish you good luck and figure out what will you do.

Mathida!! if u think positively, is it okay for baby!! no body says about the real mother of that child!!if u r reconnected again what will happened to that mother??? Is their any reason to punish her?A mother birth a child...and now she is almost lose his partner as your ex is thinking twice about you...Its ur ex who create all this type of critical situation.I know that woman is keeping her bz to take care of own child.But what about the father??? Your ex is looking for another relation !! How mean is that!! He did not make a relation with u nor he can take his responsibility now.Its totally unfair for the child and the mother. But at the end of the day its LOVE all matter.Is your EX really love you?Actually he loves whom? You??That woman?? The child??

hmmmm... we actually have the same story... My ex and I was only together for a couple of months, after we separated, he had a new girlfriend, 7 years ago, they had a baby, after that though, the girl left him and their son with him... I have not communicated with him after that, around 4 years ago, we started talking again.. and I had the same apprehensions like you have right now. I thought about it real hard because he already has a responsibility.. But my feelings were really strong, so I decided to take a chance. today, we are still together, for 3 years now and still counting, we're actually planning on getting married soon. His son and I are close, we play and we talk.. I am even friends with his Ex... It did take time for me to accept, that I won't be his number one priority, because he already has a son, but now, I really don't have any issues about it.. I just say to myself, If I were on his shoes, i would have the same priorities Now i'm not saying that you should go for it.. Think about it real and hard, but in the end,. you really have to follow your heart.

hello Mathilda, Well, unfortunately, this is an issue and way of my shoes. but you know it takes a lot of guts to make a decision whether to accept him or not. having a child is a big responsibility and you know, it's all up to you to accept him again, and his boy. we made mistakes but i hope you make the right decision some day.

Well if you love him it should not matter if he already has a baby. Would you like it if you had a child and told him and he said well I am not going to be with you becouse you have a child. Even if I got together with someone and they had a child I would not care becouse people do have past relasionships. I had broke up with my daughters father and got together with an ex he already had a daughter and another child on the way but I did not care becouse I relized that if I wanted to be with him he comes in a package deal. Amd he realized it with me. So if you truly wanted to be with him you would not even be asking this question you would just go and be with him. And a baby is never a mistake they can anly be oopses becouse ifyou say they are a mistake then that means you never wanted them. I hope you figure out what you want. Good luck to you. Happy Mylotting

If the idea is not to get into relationship again, i guess theres no problem of getting in touch with your ex, especially that he had a baby right now. Just control your feelings and move-on.

I think that you should continue to correspond with your ex-boyfriend on Face Book. Then you will be able to think about your feelings for him. If you still love him you might think about getting back together with him. I would suggest you find out how much contact he has with his baby. If he is a really responsible dad I wouldn't hold that against him. He sounds like an honest guy and it sounds like he really cares about you. Good luck.

that is a difficult situation u are in. if i were in ur shoes, it wouldn't be easy for me to come up with a decision. for sure, like u, i would feel shattered. i wouldn't want his attention divided between me and his child (or maybe, the mother of his child), when i decide to be with him again, or get married someday. if i were u, i would again like to have a heart-to-heart talk with him, his plans about the baby and myself, why he came back to me after two years, etc. all these things will not matter though, if u still love him. love conquers all and u alone can decide for that. have a nice day.

hi, this is santosh n if i were in ur place, the next minute i would slap him for cheating me. Even though u continue with him u have no security with him because he wants to be with u that means he is cheating his wife, so there is not guarantee in future that he wont cheat u. Anyway my suggestion is leave him n ur looking beautiful so u would get better persons that a baby father.. Jus go on with ur life dear......

Hi there NurseMathilda! You have a very complicated problem. Well for me, as long as the guy had the baby NOT ON MY TIME, I will accept him provided that I love him and he loves me too. As in no doubt about our feelings. However, love is also not enough to continue the relationship if there is someone out there that you can hurt and hit. I suggest you think about it and analyze yourself. If you can take that situation then fine go on. But you must also take into consideration the mother of the child. You must know their status and arrangement. Ask where and what is the mother's doing right now. Ask yourself, would you feel secured every time your ex-boyfriend goes to the mother of her child to visit the baby? That simple thing can cause a big problem when you decided to be together again. Remember, you cannot change the fact that there is a forever bond between the two of them. And you must understand and live with it. Oh by the way, be sure to know all about them before you decide to accept the guy. Ask what happen and why they broke up. You have the right to know.

being in that kind of situation is awful. for me i will not accept him because he should be with that baby's mother to help her take care of the child.

I think if you want to be with him, then you should accept he has this child. You were apart, when it happened, and these things do happen. If you think you love him, and want him back, then you have to accept it. At the end of the day, there are worse things can happen than your ex having a baby. I would definetely accept the situation, if it was me.

Hi Mathilda Actually I don't have experience about this kind of problem but I wan to give you a friendly advice. First consider all the consequences that you may incounter if you accept him again. Yes everyone deserves a second chance but you have to be careful in giving him a second chance. Always remember that you are the one who has to make a decisision and you will be the one to suffer if you made a wrong decission. If you still love him you can accept him as your friend first and try to balance all the things that will going to happen. And most of all ask guidance to God before you make a decision ak Him to give you a sign.

Look, my situation was somewhat same as yours, and i had decided to be friend with him forever as the love which existed was betrayed by him...now i am happy to be alone...i am happy that he is great friend...and yes...pls do control your feelings...

Well, it is pretty tough situation and I can't suggest you, really anything. I haven't ever experienced the same situation, and it depends on you yourself. Do you want to accept someone who already has a baby, newborned baby? It is really your choice, and not anyone else. You have to be very careful about it and don't take wrong steps. And remember that people do change. I hope your ex doesn't make any similar mistake in his next life.

i feel ure pain nursemathilda ..omg i can just imagine hw u feel its sad tho but usually i wud say definlti not and think one sided as to if it was a baby that had torn the relationship apart which would definately be a no-no...unless some "love" thing comes in the way. But in your case it was clearli a mutual separation ..and ure ex moved on with his life and made some mistakes which is quite clear.You both reconnected nd u were hopng tht u cud hook badk up with him but here comes a 7-month old baby. Honestly i would not be able to accept the babay well at first ands trust me it would take some time ...and if u plan on getting back together with him that child will always be connected to him and u will have to live wtih that . Nurse mathilda there are some things that you will have to think about 1) will you be able to live with ure ex and his child taking into consideration that there aret imes where he an the childs mother will av to tlk abt its well being. 2)is the love that strong for u to commit to this man ...if nt move on girl ...live ure life..i noe its easier sed than done. gd luck tho :)

Hello Personally I could not do it, depending on the mother of the child she can make life really hard for the two of you I could not handle this situation. Good luck. thank you for sharing.

I think if i loved her truly.. then i accept her..and i don't care if she has a already baby. I accept her and her child.. because i love her.. because whole life i loved her..and now i reject her by problem to having a baby....i don't reject her..i think it is true love if i accept her and her child..

The decision is really up to you.Try to weight things between your feelings towards your ex-boyfriend and your feelings of moving on without accepting your ex-boyfriend, which is more painful. If I were you I will still accept him no matter what as long as he is not yet married. Love is a sacrifice and acceptance.

I think for me I will still accept it I will treat her baby as my son/daughter, if I really love a woman I will never ever look for her pass because its already done the innoscent child is just a victim of a situation, That's how Love speaks to my heart. Don't Look Back stand up go forward for the future.