Am I right or wrong?

I have a friend who is very like your friend, and whenever we meet she always talks a lot. Yes I get bored on listening to her but i guess i can't help it. Shes my friend and i believe the thing i should do to please her is to listen.

Hmmm i think you should keep his detail somewhere! write down his number or email address or something! You might not want to talk to him at the moment, but in 10 years time you might suddenly think about him and wish you had his number to call! I know ive been in that situation already! I was with a crap bf who was jealous of my male friends, one in particular who i was quite close to. So i stopped talking to this guy. Deleted his number, deleted his email address and didnt have his home address anymore. Then after i broke up with my bf i really wanted to explain to the guy why i did it, and to talk to him again. We are great friends again now =) If you dont talk to the guy then surely there is no harm in keeping his details anyway? But if you want to delete them then just make sure it is the right decision! It would be terrible if you regretted it later, but it was too late to do anything about it!

It sounds like not of a friendship at all. I think you should let it go considering how you are feeling. Real friends don't feel this way. This is not a friendship at all. Don't look for reasons....just move on. Why on earth would you consider keeping contact with him feeling as you do? You are obviously burnt out on this "friendship". There is no right or wrong...it is just time to move on.

I had the same problem not too long ago and I've now completely cut her off. everytime something bad happened to me, she'd always gone through worse or would just completely change the subject. I can honestly say that my life is better without her and you'll soon find the same. By the sounds of it, you were a great friend and he just didn't realise.

What i guess is your friend is taken you for granted . When ever he wants he will talk and he gets bored he will leave you. when he is not interested in your friendship then why to hold by your side? you better let him go so that he will know your importance in future n feels shy for what he did.. Well think while before taking final decision

you said that you both are in the same professional field so there will be times that you will cross your paths and you might not just ignore him if he will approach you. that will be bad for you. but you said that you are both married so he has his wife to tell a story. he might approach you if he has a problem regarding his family and i know being a good friend, you will listen to him and give advice. that is what friend means. a good listener and a good adviser.and i should say you are very good friend but you dont deserve to have a friend like him. i would also do the same, if you are really mad at him, you can erase his contact numbers but you are not sure he will no call you because he has still your number. better change your contact number too, but still he knows where you live. for now you can leave him but if the time comes that you will have the chance to talk, why dont you tell him your grudges towards him. he might understand you. he might be able to know that he has a problem. if still he will not change. i advise you to dump him.

hi ample, All the things which you specified are quite common in friendship if both persons are not of same mentallity. That is if both of you have same qualities and taastes things would be smooth as both will think in same manner but here what i observe is your friend does not think like you or do not have same qualities. And most of the friends behave in the same manner now-a-days. What i think is forget that person as he is not expecting frienship from you but he is just thinking to use you to discuss his problem. And another thing is this person will never know the value of true friendship. I have faced such people before whom i help a lot and did everything that a true friend should do, but now the result is negative as no one cares about me. I regret for what i have done by spending time on solving their problems.If i could have done something for myself or people who need help i would have been more happy now. I also agree that true friendship exist but is very rare. If you still think that this person will respond keep his contact. Instead of deleting just ignore the contact.

My advise to you is to simply DUMP him. He is not worth being a friend. One thing is sure - he want you to be a mute spectator. Since you do not meet or in contact with him and you know what kind of person he is, its better to cut it. There is no need to be emotional about this. If one goes, another one comes in. There is no Right or Wrong in these kinds of relatonships. Everything is based on need.

just take your quite time....dont end ur friendship 2 him but you can ignore him sometimes especially theres a day you feel annoyed by him...just the 2words you need to say to your friend either, the yes if you like to lend your ears to him and no if you dont feel to talk with him that day...

It all depends on you my friend. For me you are such a good friend and you are true to him. You listen whenever he talks that's a good example of an attitude of a real friend. But happen is that when you talk he don't listen that's another good example of friend of a friend who just listen and is uninterested of whatever words you spoke somewhat unfair on your part. Maybe he's a bit busy on something my friends ample because as what you said both of you are already married. You can buy some time talking to him if you have time. Just don't remove all contacts you have in there just ignore maybe one day your phone will beep or ring and suddenly he's calling on. So just keep your contacts It's doesn't matter if contacts you or not what's important is you as his friends remains the same and at the same time true.

I think you did your part of being a friend and I must agree that you been a good friend to him if he needs someone to lean on. I think you are right to let go of him for him to realize your worth being a friend and being his listener. Move on with your life and enjoy!

I had a similiar situation occur in my life. I had a girlfriend who lived near my house. We were both in the same stage of our family life. We spent a lot of time together because we both stayed at home and our children would play together. As the years passed, I noticed that I was the person listening mostly. When my friend would finally give me a turn to express myself, she displayed little empathy for my frustrations. Then the conversation would turn quickly back to her life. I also felt a great bit of competition between us. Especially where our daughters were concerned. We had enrolled them in dance class together and they danced together for six years. The last year we were together for dance class, I felt a great amount of tension from my friend. I believe the reason was that my daughter was doing better than her daughter. Being that my friend was one of the dance instructors of the studio, this did not go over well with her. I found her constantly feeding me negative comments about the studio owner. I felt that she was trying to get us to leave the studio. We did in fact leave the studio at the end of the year. Our friendship continued but it was always strained after that. It took me a long time to realize that my friend was not really a friend to me. After I would spend time with her, I felt bad. I was not happy to be with her any more. I finally decided after years of thinking it over, that I would not reach out to my friend any longer. The relationship still troubles me at times and I think that I should call her. But then I remind myself that I will only feel bad if I spend time with her and I resist calling her. If I would see her in our community, I would say Hello and give her a hug but I have no desire to spend time with her any more. It has been a difficult decision for me. However, I have come to the conclusion that the friendship is not a healthy one and that I obtain no benefits from it. I wish her no wrong and I want a good life for her, just a life without me in it!

We always feel that once we started a friendship, we should remain loyal and remain friends forever. But friendship needs to come from both sides. If you only give, but never take, you will start feeling negative to the friendship. If your friend is going through a rough time and needs someone to listen to, you should support them and stay with them. If he always makes demands on your time and uses you to be able to whinge all the time without ever sparing a thought for you, you have to make the decision if the friendship is important enough for you to keep it up. Have you ever talked to your friend? Explained that you feel you don't get enough out of the friendship? He might not even realise. If he does realise or simply doesn't want to listen, you have to decide what's best for you. If you need the friendship and being the one who listens all the time doesn't bring you down, stay loyal by all means. If the friendship takes its toll on you and you'd be better off without it? Do the right thing to yourself and go separate ways.