Did we all know before we had our children how hard it is being a parent?

I have no kids but i have to babysite my brother and sister i do it all the time my mom works alot and go hang with her friends sometimes it feel like i'm there mother i remeber when my sister was first borin an she started to talk she keep calling me mommy it was very wired it is hard i have to drop them off and dip up some times i don't mind much but i think its not far that i'm trying to get my life together and go to school and i still have to chage my schel my bother drop out of school at grade 8 he is doing nothing he can at lets drop owr sis off and dip her up its not far i do all that and he do nothing. they are not even my kids.

Hi jugsjugs..How are you doing today? I was way too young to start a family when I did it. But i think that I did an okay job with it. I was only sixteen when I had my first son. My mom thought she would be the one who would have to take care of him. The first night home with him I got up every time he cried, not my mom but me.. I was very proud and so was my mom. It continued that way for all their childhod..You are right no one can really tell you how hard it is to have children. I think they need to come with a owners manual..LOL..Great discussion...Keep smiling..

I had no clue what I was getting myself into when we had kids. We have three girls and it was a difficult job but so rewarding. I'd do it all over again and have more kids if I had the chance. Had complications carrying the three we have but loved every minute of being a mom until they became teenagers. That was a very trying time. They are now married and have kids. It's so much fun the second time around because a grandma's viewpoint is different. Play with those kiddies and then I can leave and come home. No little ones to keep me up at night.

Hi jugsjugs, Managing six children is really a tough work. I am struggling with two (lol) it is very difficult to manage the fights. It is true, when I pregnant with my first son, I realized the struggles of my mother; I thought about her, she had the same struggle with me too. We can understand the hard part only when we go through it. May be with the same reason, daughters are more caring to their parents after a particular age but sons never get any chance to realize the pain of motherhood (in real life). I am not trying to say they are careless but they are not going through the same feelings.

Oh ya right. I sure did. I knew my daughter would be bi-polar. I also knew that I would have to take guardianship of my granddaughter and that she would try to throw me down the stairs. Pay? Ah, all the lovey stuff maybe but that would all. And I got a cute little six year old grandson out of the deal. All I have to be now is grandma. I am liking it much better. I was nineteen and I was an only child. I didn't have a clue.

hahhaha... jugsjugs, well before I had my daughter, I already know being a mother is a tough job, but never know it's this hard.. now caring for her, it mean lots to me.. and mother is a job that don't have pay, no leave, no bonus.. the only big reward is the child grows in healthy and happy.. do you agree?

I don’t have a baby yet but I truly love the idea of having a baby now. Just ONE baby. Hehehe.. It’s a nice idea going out with your baby, feeding time, laughing and cuddling on your bed. I have tried baby-sitting the youngest nephew I have, it’s a task – a heavy task if it reach for like an hour. The baby can now walk and he keeps on touching things around and eats it. He’s not keen to crying though, that’s the good thing.

This was the main goal of my life, ever since my family broke up when I was 10. I have no regrets, though I have done many different things in my life, being a wife, and parent, while hard, were every thing I wanted them to be. Now I have fifty years of marriage, 3 grown children, 6 grandchildren and two great grandchildren, who could ask for more? Blessings

i can understand whats the task of my mom as i am also a mom but of only child and i am o the way where i would my another child may be by t more months. i can understand how difficult it is to become a mom and it is very true that we would neve realizse this without becoming a parent and once we are a parent we can understand this difficulty and the worry we get about our child and the love and affection towards the child but it is a complete and different experience which cannot be obatined anywhere and it is really a big responsibility to become a parent but at the sametime it is very tiring job, i find difficult to handle a single kid and now i am woried about becoming a parent of two children, but i am just wishing that everything to go onright and well and good.

No one tells that secret... otherwise all these young couples in love wanting to make babies wouldn't!! Plus, like us, they wouldn't believe the experienced parents anyway! Young first time parents always know better, and are determined to be the first perfect parent! Personally, I'm glad I didn't listen. I enjoy my big family and all the heartache....cause the hugs and love cover and make up for the hard parts!! LONG LIVE BABY-MAKING!!

absolutly agree,i didn't think i was that bad as a child(my mum would disagree)so i thought that having kids would be fairly easy,but my kids are monsters most of the time,and that's how my mum says i was,sorry mum !

I actually thought that I would never be a mother because I knew what a tuff job it is. My mom had a handful with me. And I thought, since I was such a terrible disobidient child, I would think, gosh my kid is going to turn out worse than me and I really just want to avoid it. I was scared of being a mom because I didnt want a child that would be worse than me. But then, when I had my son, I realized that all I knew was the tuff job it is, but not the rewarding part of it either. And for that, I wouldnt change it for anything in the world! Nope, its not an easy job at all. I think our moms made it look so easy just because!... Happy Mylotting!

Bless You Dear! Our prayers go out to you Sincerely. I agree child rearing is not a easy task and I hope you are not going through this venture alone, then again if your husband works and brings home the bacon you are kind of alone also. I only had one child but have 4 step-children. My husband and I have went bonkers with about every one of them. My biological son went to live with his dad because he was making our lives absolutely miserable until I let him. I love my son very much but his dad has really turned him into a monster. He is 16 now with a 19 yr old step-mom and his dad has tried everything to make my life a living hell. The bad thing about this he uses my son to do this. My son is so gullible in the fact that his dad tells stories and gets him to do things morally wrong to me (telling him that if he does not he will send him away or not see him anymore). I can't even let my son come and visit anymore because of the things my ex has told him to do. It is ridiculous how some divorced people treat their children. He has even got my son to call me and ask me who his father is, wants me to sign my rites away and says he thinks it is funny when his dad physically abused me and I deserved it. I do not argue with my son and always make sure I tell him I Love Him before hanging up in spite of all this. He is innocent I know. I told him one day he will grow up, have children of his own, and look back and say What have I done?

Hello I always knew raising kids was a hard job which is why I have one, she is now 26 and I have a grandson, sometimes I wonder what it would be like having more than one then I get over that feeling really fast not only do you have to care for them and try the guide them in the right direction, then you worry whenever they are out of your sight that is so stressful only time you have piece is when you are all together when you know everyone is safe, maybe this is just me, I tend to worry too much anyway Thank you.

Goodness. Six children! You certainly have put a lot of effort in! We have one, she's a at university and I can assure you that it gets no easier when they leave home. Your problems just change. She isn't here to mess the place up or want taking places - but she still has the capacity to put a strain on us one way or another. But I'd not have it differently.

Yes I totally agree with you. First of all its the most important job in the world. Its a 24 hour, 7 days a week for at least 18 year job but it usually goes into the early 20's. We don't get a dime for this job and its an endless with stress, joy, love, pain, laughter, heartache, fights, happiness and then more love hopefully.

Be a mom is pride of women.I keep thanks for god.Yes,I agree that to be a mom is not easy.But,our tired could be disappear when we look at their smile.We need extra patience to take care of them.We have big responsibilty but just doing with love.Kids like silkworm who will be beautiful butterfly.

You are so right...being a parent is never what we thought it was going to be like. Seems to me they should have one book that guides you through the years, and not multiple books that you have to read....lol For this reason, I don't think young people should have children, before the age of 30, so they can experience life, gain knowledge of what is right and wrong and have a sense of maturity to make the best decisions for them.

I guess I never thought being a parent would be easy, but certainly it's more work than I ever thought it would be. We are "older" parents . . . so when we decided to start a family, we really really really wanted so badly to become parents. This would be the next big step for us . . . as we've done so much as a couple for many, many years. I was ready to dive into motherhood and give it my all. I am a full time mom - and although being a parent is truly the toughest job I've ever had (24/7 and beyond to say the least) - it has been most rewarding and I wouldn't trade it for anything in the world. We don't get pay monetary wise, but certainly watching my child grow up right in front of my eyes has been a great "salary". Now we have a second one along the way. As we had been trying a while, it made me think how having a child is a truly privelege. Sometimes I wonder if I'm going to be able to handle it - going through the baby stuff again WHILE taking care of my older one. I know there will be tough and tougher moments, but I also know I will love every moment of it.

Not for me. Being an oldest daughter I used to care for all my other 6 siblings so I know ahead of time how it would be like. Now a mother of 2 school age boys it weren't as bad.