am i choking my boyfriend?

You already know the answer!!!! How about start to change by giving him a day where everything is decided by him. It's your turn to obey and not complain. It might surprise you how well it will go. Try it and see!!

I would ask you this. Why do you feel the need to be so demanding? What makes you feel the need to do this? I can tell you that even though he doesn't complain every time you do that it hurts him. How many times does he criticize you? Does he ever point out your faults? My guess is never. Why? Because he doesn't see the need to change you. He loves you for what you are and has no need what ever of making you something your not. So ask yourself why do you have that need. Changing him into your idea of what he should be will work for awhile as he will want to please you and more than likely will not want to fight. But there will come a time, if it hasn't already, when he will have had enough. I can tell you this....when that happens you will have pushed away a very good man. If you find yourself wishing he would fight back then you have the wrong man. But guess what. If you had one that did fight back you would not like it very well. Sounds like you are a demanding woman and most men will never put up with that. Nor should they. Please don't wait until you have driven him away to see that you have a great man that wants only the best for you. If you can't appreciate him without changing hem then you do not belong together. Yes you may very well be smothering him. If you continue to do that you will lose.

Ask yourself this question, cutepink. How would you feel if he suddenly started treating you the same way you are now treating him? What would you do if he did fight with you everytime you made a mistake? Would you feel loved if he were constantly making demands on you? He might appear to be the strong, silent type right now, but when he gets tired of this treatment, he will walk right out the door. Always treat your loved ones the same way you want (and need) them to treat you.

Oh you're definitely a control freak. You're choking him. Let him be what he is. Don't force him to do things. You need a maid or a slave. Not a boyfriend. Right now I can tell your relationship is not healthy. It won't last long if you don't change.

You're very honest, but yes, you might be choking the life out of your relationship. Obviously you don't want to ruin it so try to be more considerate maybe, love and respect him, knowing that everyone makes mistakes. It's easy to walk all over someone when they lay down and let you and then you run risks of losing respect for them. Talk to him and tell him how you feel, see how he feels. Communication is a wonderful tool. Good Luck & Best Wishes.

sadly yes, im a man and i totally understand what he would he feel even if he didnt say it to you. nobody wants to be manipulated in some terms. your boyfriend and i had the in common i just obey even if i don't like.just to get on with it and avoid quarrels.

hi cutepink__13 that is not playing fair to fight with him because he is so docile and just obeys you.would you like him to do that to you? think about the golden rule" do unto others as you would like them to do unto you. What the heck mistake are you talking about? If you two are both adults you are grown,not little kids to be corrected, let him know you think he is an Adult,don't worry about his mistakes. I sense that you do not exactly like it that he is so docile and will just obey and not complain. If you keep being unkind to him he will not only start to complain and refuse to obey you and why should he,obey you that is? you are not his' mama,if he is an adult let him be an Adult.