buy gifts for mother
By mybeatrice
@mybeatrice (203)
China
October 5, 2009 9:00pm CST
hello mylotters, have you ever try to buy gifts for your mother?
I suddenly find that I seldom buy gifts for my mother. I never think of buying gifts for my mother when I was a little child, because my mother was richer than me(that's an excuse of course), and when I grow up, I have ever buy my mother a pair of shoes, that's about three years ago, and till now, I have never buy anything to my mother, though I bought more to my father.
But I don't know what my mother likes, whenever I ask her what does she likes, she would smile and say, I don't want anything, all I want is your safe and sound!
I think I am too selfish, I will buy a gift to my mother, since I know, no matter what I buy for her, she will be happy.
How about you? Have you ever buy something for your mother to show you care about her?
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19 responses
@Humbug25 (12540)
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9 Oct 09
Hi there mybeatrice
I always buy my mother gifts I couldn't imagine not buying her things. I always give her gift for Christmas, Mother's Day and her birthday. When I go and visit her I usually bring chocolates or flowers or something else completely just because I love her and I want to show that I think about her often.
@mybeatrice (203)
• China
10 Oct 09
hello humbug, I think you are really a good child to your mother, I believe you mother is happy to receive your gifts. Thank you for sharing.
@daliaj (5674)
• India
6 Oct 09
I got a lot of gifts for my mother. I got her dress many times, but only rarely I got her money. I also got her chappals, hand bags, purses etc. If she wants something special and up to date, she asks me for it. I like to get things for her. Now, I am married and this is the first Christmas after marriage. So, this time I need to get my mother-in-law a gift. I am very poor at deciding on gifts and started thinking about it. It will be great if somebody can share a good idea.
@msfrancisco9369 (10002)
• Boston, Massachusetts
6 Oct 09
hi daliaj,
maybe you can ask for her interests and then see what you can have for her. if you are into handicrafts you can make her a crochet blouse or anything that you yourself make for her. you can also ask you husband if he has a pciture of her mom when he was still a kid... you can have it enlarge and frame it unique right?!!! you can take her together with your mom to a spa. the three of you enjoying a spa break!
@mybeatrice (203)
• China
6 Oct 09
hello daliaj, thanks for sharing. yeah, i think compare to deciding gifts to your own mother, deciding gifts for mother in law is even more difficult. Since your mother knows you, no matter what you buy, she will be happy. But mothte in law is different, especially it is the first year, you know less about her. Maybe you can get advise from your husband/wife.
@davismomof16 (59)
• United States
7 Oct 09
I love to buy gifts for my mother :) I figure she gave me life and I can at least buy her a pretty every once in a while. When I was small, it was such as a picture I drew or a flower.
I like to listen to her when we talk and see if I can get something out of her on her likes at the moment, then I can look for that thing. It may be something as simple as a candle, or as expensive as a smell she likes. But I LOVE to buy her things.
@mybeatrice (203)
• China
7 Oct 09
hello davis, thanks for sharing. i believe that you are a smart girl who can know something from your mothers talk. I wish you good luck on this regard.
She will be happy that you are so careful in listening to her, just to buy her gifts.
@shia88 (4571)
• Malaysia
6 Oct 09
Hi Mybeatrice,
During mother's day, I never buy a gift for my mother.
The reason is because I am always not at her side during mother's day.
When I am going back to my hometown to visit my mother,I always buy something for her like handbag,shirt,watch and food.
Most of the time, I prefer to buy her a shirt as it is more easier for me to choose. I roughly know what is my mother's size. We used to shop together when I was young.
I also do buy gift for my father.
My parents brought me up and buying a gift for them is one of the way to show my appreciation to my parents.
@mybeatrice (203)
• China
7 Oct 09
hello shia, thanks for sharing. yeah, whenever the new year comes, I would go back with something I buy for my family, but not only for my mother. I find it wierd going home without buying something to them.
@patofgold23 (5069)
• Philippines
7 Oct 09
last christmas i got my mom a roundway ticket from CA to Philippines and back...
so she could spend Christmas and new year with us....
I also got her a cool mobile phone....
she couldnt thank me enough...
but it is the time we spent together that mattered most.
@mybeatrice (203)
• China
7 Oct 09
hello patofgold, thanks for sharing, yeah, it must be very happy to be together with family, I can imagine that happy scene
@abidmian (131)
• United States
6 Oct 09
Unfortunately, I never bought any gift for my mother. I have no idea, what she likes or dislikes. So I give my whole salary to my mom so that she can purchase anything she likes.
It is such a bad thing that we have complete information of liking and disliking of our Girl friend. We purchase costly thing for them and have never experienced to buy even a single flower for our mother on mother's day. I am really sorry Mom.
@mybeatrice (203)
• China
6 Oct 09
hello abidmian, thank you for sharing. yes when we grow up, we pay more attention on our partners or spouse, and kind of neglect there's still some one who loves us the most- mother.
So now that you feel sorry about not giving your mother any gift, why not try to prepare one on the new year or christmas day, to give her e surprice. I think a gift matters more to her than your salary.
@mybeatrice (203)
• China
7 Oct 09
hello cher, thanks for sharing. you mother is wierd, since I know most mother would like any gifts that their children given to them. Maybe you should show more care about her, like invite her to go out for dinner, and talk about her youth... that can be interesting.
@wanghui0210 (218)
• China
6 Oct 09
Hi, I guess your mother must be very happy when she receive your gift. Everytime I took gift back home, my mother is very happy. In my opinion, I think favor food is a good choice as a gift.
@mybeatrice (203)
• China
7 Oct 09
hi wanghui, thanks for your response. good is a good choice?? I prefer to give her gifts that would remind her that I was giving her gifts, like mobile phone, bracelet. so that whenever she look at those things, she would remembering me, and feel warm.
@sunilcutein (66)
• India
6 Oct 09
Yes always we have to buy some good gifts to mother so that she can feel very happy By seeing happiness in her face we can enjoy a lot
@mybeatrice (203)
• China
7 Oct 09
hello sun, how good a daughter you are, just keep doing this, I believe you mothers would feel proud of having a daughter like you.
@magickat (381)
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6 Oct 09
I buy lots of things for my mother, especially books. Like me she loves to read so i often ask what books she would like, or pass on ones I have read that I think she will enjoy. I also like to send her chocolates and sometimes buy her perfume. She is a very easy person to buy gifts for, I am never stuck for ideas and she always appreciates things, however small.
@mybeatrice (203)
• China
6 Oct 09
hello magickat, thanks for sharing, it is good not having to think too much when buying gifts. My mother would think that we are waisting money by buying her gifts, so for me, it is not easy to think up anything that would make her feel that it is not waist of money. But no matter what gift it is, I know my mother is happy too.
@gohigh00 (65)
• China
6 Oct 09
The same experience like you,I seldom buy gift for my mom!But I love my mom so much and I know she konws I love her.
I remember my mom's birthday every year, every time I ask her what does she want.She always says she needs nothing!Since I star to work by myslef, I will give my mom some money for her birthday, I say to her, buy something you want,if you don't need anything,then, just keep it!
In my opinion, gifts are not so important.Caring is much more impottant I think. Let mom know you are rally care about her. I think my mom konw I am really care about her. This point has been satisfy her more than any gifts!
However of course, to make mom happy by getting some gifts for her is really romantic good idea!Best wishes to you and your mother!
@mybeatrice (203)
• China
7 Oct 09
Dear gohigh, thank you very much for sharing. I can see that you are a good daughter to your mother. We have something in comment, that is we both know our mothers' birthday. I am far away from hometown, so whenever my mother's birthday comes, I can only transfer her some money and ask her to buy something that she like, and i will call her and give her the best wishes.
@irefed (200)
• Philippines
6 Oct 09
I always buy something for my mother although it's cheaper and I know she can afford to buy for her but the essence here is she will be happy because I remember her for buying something. I love my mother and nothing ever compares to her love and care for us.
@mybeatrice (203)
• China
6 Oct 09
yeah you have a point here, nothing is greater than mothee's love for you. no matter whether they can afford the gifts themselves, we buy for them is totally different from they buy for themselves, even though only small sum involved.
@ymkwcw (37)
• China
6 Oct 09
Uh,after reading what you write,I find that I don't even buy any gifts for my mother,too. On the one hand, I dont know that what gifts that I should buy for mother,and I don't know what she likes and dislikes. on the other hand, due to that we live toghther, I thought that it's no necessary to buy anything for her.But now, I'm changing my thoughts, and I will give my mother a best gifts,that is,love,great love.
@mybeatrice (203)
• China
6 Oct 09
hello ymkwcw, thank you for sharing and glad to know that you deciding to give your mother the special love. As a matter of fact, most of us always loves them, it is just that we are too busy to show our love to them. I think your mother will feel very happy when she feel it. Good luck1
@jacobsguardian (108)
• United States
6 Oct 09
I bought my mother a Coach purse a few months back. I don't buy them for myself, because I think they are too expensive, but I bought it for her. It wasn't her birthday or a holiday. I just surprised her with it by sending it to her to tell her I was thinking about her. She loved it, and the fact that it was so unexpected made her cry.
@mybeatrice (203)
• China
7 Oct 09
hello jacobs, thanks for sharing, I can imagin that your mother was so happy about receiving your gifts. Maybe she though that you were too busy to remember her, but suddently she realize, she is still in your heart. that scene is very touching.
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
6 Oct 09
I'm a mom and I am perfectly fine if my kids don't buy me gifts. Sometimes they do and sometimes they don't. I am so fine with that. I know that they really don't have money and there really isn't anything material that I am actually wanting. I mean when they do buy me a gift....I love it simply because it came from them but I take no offense if they don't. Also if they buy for their dad and not for me....I am ok with that too. I actually don't pay attention to that so I don't know if they buy for him more than me or anything. We are not together. I know when they were small I did take them to buy father's day gifts for him and birthday gifts etc. He did not do the same with them. It really didn't bother me.
@mybeatrice (203)
• China
6 Oct 09
hello sid, thank you very much for your sharing, I think your feeling above represent most mother's feeling about receiving gifts from their kids. Since there's great love for their kids in their heart. My mother would told me not to buy her gift because she worry that the gifts will become our financial burden.
I feel guilty that after so long a time, I haven't buy anything else for my mother, I think I will prepare a gift for her when the new year is appoaching.
@moonchild117 (1987)
• Philippines
6 Oct 09
I've given gifts to my mom, such as a blouse or an accessory or something she could use at home. The last time, though, I ran out of ideas of what to give her so I just gave her a bit of cash and told her to buy whatever she likes. I find it more convenient that way rather than racking my head too much of thinking what gift to give her.
@mybeatrice (203)
• China
6 Oct 09
well, I am wondering if he really feels more happy by receiving cash instead of gift? I just thinking, if my boyfriend give me a cash and ask me to buy something that I like, that means he didn't even know what I like, then I would angry with him and throw back his money!
Similarly, i think if I give cash to my mother, my mother would feel unhappy too, so I rather buy her gift than give her money. But as a matter of fact, I give her money monthly, though she doesn't lack of money.
@EnglishTeaDuck (862)
• United States
6 Oct 09
Yes, I have bought things for my mother. I often find small things I know she will like.
Recently I lost my job and I have had no money to get her anything, but for her 50th Wedding anniversary I made her and my father a cushion which had a cross stitch design I did myself on it, with flowers, a verse they liked and the dates of their wedding and their anniversary on it. I thought my Mum would like it because it was made by my own hands, but I WAS worried that it wasn't a PROPER present as I had no money!
But when I gave it to her she loved it so much she cried!
@mybeatrice (203)
• China
6 Oct 09
hello my friend, yeah the mother care most is not the gift itself, it is your love. I think no matter what gift you gave her, as long as you are sincere, will become her best gift! Thank you for sharing. And are you going to find another job? Not sure whether you are in China or not, we have a very tough job market now.
@irene3184 (898)
• Philippines
6 Oct 09
I always look forward to buy gifts to my mother and I won't hesitate to buy anything for her.Though your mother is more richer than you, a little gift is more precious for her because the essence here you remember your mother and you valued her instead.
@mybeatrice (203)
• China
6 Oct 09
hello irene, yeah, can't agree with your more. The reason why we buy gifts for our mothers, is because that we want to show them that we care about them, they are still in our hearts no matter how far we are away from them. You are a good daughter.
@mybeatrice (203)
• China
6 Oct 09
hello Craicha, thanks for shairing, I think you are a good girl to your mother. i did try to save money to buy gifts for her, but I was too poor in my colleges, and I earned most of money as a family tutor, teaching pupils. My mother felt sorry too for not giving me enough financial support at my student life. but at least we are getting better now.
