do you believe in marriage???
By jenely103085
@jenely103085 (79)
Philippines
October 6, 2009 12:37am CST
me .. definitely i do not believe on marriage... its just a piece of paper.. i do believe if you really love someone, know each other first...and if you can have a second thoughts.. try to give a chance to yourself or both of you to know each other... i do believe too that you will not know each other unless if you both stay together in one roof ...and if you are ready to accept everything.. well that is the time that you can bring her or go with him facing God and turn it legally.. that is how my principle is....
what about you guys??? are you in 2nd thoughts???
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14 responses
@Hasanthi1987 (17)
• India
7 Oct 09
Me.. I believe in marriages. I believe marriage to be a divine practice where in the holy presence of our God(which we believe in) two souls gets one. This practice itself preaches the responsibilities they have to have among them. I believe just love isn't enough. Understanding plays a major role. And that is the same before or after marriage. Marriage gives commitment between people which has no question of divorce. Slight adjustments are just needed to satisfy each of there dreams.
@gmkk1986 (471)
• India
8 Oct 09
As you said is correct. All those words what you have used were created by us for the better society. But in my terms marriage is wonderful example for sharing and love. Of course without love no relationship does exists but marriage binds men and women as one to build the people of better society.
@taraelocin (1138)
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6 Oct 09
I do. It's one of those things where everyone has to make up their own mind. For me it was important to marry my husband. I wanted to show the world that we are one. I wanted to make sure that we share a name for when we have children so they can feel that their parents are "one". I wanted to look my husband into the eyes and tell him that I'll always love him in front of the people I love - my family.
I know it's not for everyone. But it meant a lot to me.
But I agree, it's good to know - really know - the person first. After all it is supposed to be forever.
@Eisenherz (2908)
• Portugal
7 Oct 09
I believe in marriage. Also, I believe that all people who say marriage is just a paper are probably Proposition 8-loving and supporting people who'll always be disgusted at the church just because they reject the abnormal act that is the union of same sexed couples.
@yolanda19191 (1934)
• China
12 Oct 09
i think we need to believe in marriage. but it's not so easy. it needs us to maintain it carefully.
i'm single so i dont know much abt it. but i feel the family need sth to be as binding for both. such as the child. i see some get married, and then they both have the same heart to bring the child up well. that's one. and some, decide to take care of the parents well, etc. certainly, i feel, if they have the same life goal, that will be better to go on.
@kenraku (241)
• Australia
8 Oct 09
No matter it is God or marriage, the most important point is how do you respect to this thing. Respect to God/marriage, or respect to your partner. It is a commitment to each other. What you are talking about is the same as marriage, the difference is you replace marriage as God. You are right to believe in God, but for people who don't believe in God, they will go for marriage. Hope you find your endless love soon.
Enjoy myLotting=]
@babyish13 (227)
• Philippines
12 Oct 09
nowadays, i dont believe in marriage anymore. before, past generations look unto it as a sacred blessing but since we are in a new century, people dont believe in it anymore.
@celticeagle (168269)
• Boise, Idaho
7 Oct 09
It is funny you should ask this question. I have been thinking about this very thing lately. For the most part I don't really care. Only one thing bothers me about not getting married if I got into a relationship again. That would be if my SO got sick and needed to be hospitalized. What would I do if he was seriously ill and couldn't sign papers for his immediately care? What then? Family members? What if they were not available for awhile or who knows? I think this is the only thing that really bothers me about not getting married.
@AndrewFreyne (6281)
• United Kingdom
6 Oct 09
I'm not married and I'm not sure that I ever will get married although you never know what is around the corner. I'm thinking that marriage is a good thing if you can make it work. In today's society though there are a lot of people that are choosing to live together as partners and some couples have lived like this for many years, it's a personal choice on their part. I'm not sure that I believe in the whole consecration process of a marriage. Getting married is very expensive and I'm sure that there are a lot of people that want to avoid this altogether. I think that the most important thing is that there is love in the partnership, this almost guarantees that the couple will be very happy together. Andrew
@wahmivy (776)
• Philippines
7 Oct 09
I do believe in marriage, that is a declaration of a lifelong commitment and a covenant with God. I'm a Christian, so I'm speaking from a Christian's point of view. I don't expect everybody to have the same views. A good marriage takes dedication and work and, sadly, not everybody who decides to get married realizes this. I don't think living together before marriage is necessary (and not really a practice that Christians abide by). Revelations will happen for the entire duration of a marriage. I do think it's prudent to know each other for a long time before deciding to commit although many cases have also shown that whirlwind romances do not necessarily have to crash and burn. It's different for everybody. :)
@ckyera (17331)
• Philippines
6 Oct 09
hi jenely!
i respect your belief and i understand it...
but for me, as far as i am concern, i still believe in marriage. i believe that God is the one who establish marriage and so it is sacred...
maybe its just a piece of paper but i believe that its a lifelong contract and must be respected...
@Tantrums (945)
• Philippines
7 Oct 09
Yes I believe in marriage, but then I have been married to a woman, who I adore, for nearly 10 years. I think its personal choice and for me, had nothing to do with religion, but everything to do with commitment. I think from another perspective, marriage has become very commercialised. A wedding can cost so much money, which can run into thousands of pounds/dollars/Yen/Pesos and lots of couples (in their opinions) can't afford to get married. I planned mine simple, but then our Parents made it Grande! It wasn't any less exciting and had no bearing on the outcome. That speaks for itself. In today's world, it is beginning to look unusual, but not unnatural, everyone (or most) want's to get married their own way!!
@LetranKnight25 (33121)
• Philippines
6 Oct 09
hello jenely
well, i thought the relationship thing and the courtship is the process already of getting to know each other. that's why a lot of woman are playing hard to get because i know that it's really hard to find the right guy to be and interesting with. when the man and a women reaches a certain mature instinct when they're ready both financially and mentally, then that's time to finally settle. Marriage is worthless with out Love and you're right, it can be just a piece of paper.
@anurag3786 (6267)
• India
6 Oct 09
yes i believe in marriage..marriage is a sacred relationship between a wife and husband.. in which both person are connected to each other for lifetime.. so it is a sacred relationship...