been in love for more than 6years but not able to understand each other.

I don't understand how you can be in love for six years and don't understand each other. Six years is a very long period and there is enough time to understand. There will be misunderstandings or different opinions or small fights happen in relationships. It doesn't mean that you are not able to udnerstand each other. There is no pointing in having a relationship if two people are not able to understand each other. Love has a lot to do with accepting mistakes, apologizing, and valuing other views, and intersts. It those things don't happen in a reliation, I don't know how stable it is going to be. Life is not only physical relationship.

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Hello,Rakshas,I have faced almost the same problem in my life too.I think your boy friend is some how disturbed in his personal life.Don't try to investigate him every time,try to understand him even though he does not do the same.I think only time can heal the matter.And after all of your earnest effort if it does not turn to be a fruitful one then don't get upset.Because life must go on.you can not stop your life at any cost.Hope for the best.I think you can solve the matter easily.Keep faith on yourself .Just think this way that no one on earth can live him more than you.So he is bound to come back to you. BEST OF LUCK.

If you would look at it in the other way, I think it's pretty cool. When you love a person and you know them too well, I think later in your relationship you would go too tired of each other. Misundertanding is still beneficial for as long as you both are open to changes and acceptance.

i suppose in a relationship the attitude of give and talk is important. while blaming him for lots of things, perhaps once in a while it's good to look back at ownself, is there anything that you did is not sufficient or not good enough? communication is very important, one little tips though, sometimes conflicts do contribute to good communication. :) so, don't be scared of conflicts but to be open and brave about confronting it. all the best!

If you still love him, try to communicate with him about your problems. otherwise, a break-up may be good for you both.

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You both have to want to change. If he isn't willing, you can't make him want to. If he won't make an effort, it is probably time to break up and find somebody who doesn't make things so hard for you.

I got these kind of issues many times from many pairs. Its common problem comes between hearts when they not understand properly each other. That may be their needs and desires. The basic problem here is have you well settled or not. If yes, please find whats wrong he found on you and you tell whats wrong you are finding on him. This would surely solve problems. This may generally happen because of insecurity felling.

You have been into a long relationship. It's so sad to know that even if you have been that far, you can't still understand each other. Well, how come that happens? Do you mean your six year relationship was just a mess filled with so much arguments and fights? Well, in that case, I guess it's better to end up the relationship because it's no longer a healthy one. It is useless being with a person for a long time and yet not understanding each other. So, I would say, it's time to let go and end up your relationship. I know that person you are into a relationship at the moment doesn't deserve your love. I'm sure there's someone out there who really deserves the love you're giving and who will really make you feel special. So, have the courage to end up the relationship. It's not always easy to let go but sometimes, It's the best choice.

Hi Rakshas! I hope you're fine! Love... love... love... Love really makes us experience all kinds of emotions. When you are in love, chances are you will get hurt. With regards to your problem, if that love is causing you A LOT of pain, I suggest you stop it now if you don't want to see wrinkles on your face as early as 30's. As you said its been 6 years but until now he doesn't even trust you. A relationship without trust and understanding is as weak as a house without concrete posts. What makes me say this? Because doubt is a root of all argumentations and problems. And worst in your relationship there is lack of understanding also. How would you think you can manage to resolve your differences? It should not been always you who puts down the pride and gives way. You cannot make the relationship alone. Remember there is more than just ONE in a happy and smooth relationship. Yes I know six years is hard to throw but would you like to extend your agony to lifetime? This is the thing, if you believe in your heart that you can still make this relationship work, OF COURSE WITH HIS cooperation as well then save the relationship. You must both talk heart to heart. Say everything that you both dislike with each other. Make an arrangement and try hard to comply with it. It is only you who can answer your question whether or not to continue your relationship. You know him more as much as you exactly know if he is open to change. Breaking up with him doesn't mean putting period on your relationship, sometimes it allows you both to think about the wrong things that both of you are doing. Who knows you can be together again after putting a little air to breath on your sides... Goodluck and wish you well. :)

Try to weight things between your feelings towards your girlfriend and your feelings if you can manage to let go. One important thing is decide for the good of both of you, don't continue your relationship it ain't working.It doesn't matter how long you've been with.

Well, the fact that you don't understand each other and argue a lot should be beside the point. If he lies to you and has no faith in you, then why even be in the relationship? Even if he only lies to you about little things, then how do you know he won't lie to you about important things? Even though a relationship takes work, it shouldn't ALWAYS be so hard. If you find that the bad times outnumber the good times then it might be time to call it quits.

You don't say your age, but sometimes its the main factor even though people say age is anything but a number. I had similar problems with the guy i was with for 4 years. I felt like he was the one for me. After the 3rd year of being with him i found out he was living with someone else for about 3 months. Even after i found out i tried to stay away from him but i couldn't until i realized it wasn't love, it was lust and i was used to him. After certain years you get used to somebody and maybe that is what's going on in your situation. I hope my story helped a little, much luck. Don't make him your priority if your only an option to him.

talk to him heart to heart once and for all forgetting all your ego.try and clarify what's wrong with your relationship.if both of you feel you hold the relationship important enough to invest emotionally then go ahead.for things can change with proactive involvement from both sides and if anyone of you have doubts then its better to leave things for good.

Six years is long and you say you still cannot understand each other? I don't think so...Maybe you both hold on to each others pride. If one of you tries to actually understand the other then I think you wouldn't be having this constant arguments. If you still love each other find ways to overcome your situation together. I f there's no love at all then you should break the knot

My response is, in order to understand what another person is truly trying to say to you....You have to truly listen to what they're saying. You need to be willing to admit to each other that perhaps you've grown apart? Life is way too short to not only try to survive in a loveless relationship, it also builds resentment in both parties. I'm not sure how old you both are; yet I tell you from personal experience [I'm 45] that if you don't love this person then let them go. You will quickly realize that you both deserve a chance at true love. In my case I had to be the person to leave. The other person held a lot of anger towards me at first; however, he soon thanked me for taking that step because he did find someone who "gets him - understands him" and willing to put forth the effort a lasting relationship takes.