Would you agree - “everything comes at a price”.

Hi Deepak.. I partially agree with you on this issue because it depends on the people finally.. If a person thinks every thing in a materialistic way then it will be true that whatever favours or facilities we get costs us.. but at the same time if the person gives value for relationship without expecting anything then somethings can never be priced for there values.. what do you think? Do you agree with me?

.Very true Deepak. I too believe in this [ though earlier I was not aware of it and age and experience brings lesons everyday.].But friendship and love given by parents to children are exceptions. Here once again, there may be exceptions that prove this rule.I feel, ths is definitely there when we get into transactions with relatives or friends. If we ask someone a favour or we take some liberties then they tend to feel that this obligation gives them a right.[Strangely, even when we do not ask them anything some people expect it very rightfully..That is why I don't like to ask any favour from anyone becaus I may not be able to give what they expect from me as a counter obligation , which once again may lead to an unnecessary strain in relationships.]When we keep our needs simple and are self contained the problems are less.This 'price' can be anything, including one's peace of mind.

Hi Deepak, After a looooooooooooooooooooonnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnngggggggggggggggggggggggg time!!!! Yes, I agree…everything comes for a price except mother’s love. I cant say about father’s love…you guys can shed light on this. One of my principles of life is ‘take what you want but pay for it’…nothing comes free Deepak. Of course you might not think of it as payment but rather not being selfish…that if my friend is doing something for me, I should be prepared to help my friend too in times of need…I am not paying back for favours received, rather I am being a caring and loving friend. This of course does not apply to situations where we extract favours or get things which should not have come to us…exploiting people, taking bribes, cheating for self etc…we pay back for these too Deepak. If not we, then surely our kids…there’s no escaping really. Sudipta

May I take a different slant? I have never stopped to consider that 'everything comes at a price' because that presumes that everything has to be either 'bought' or at least 'paid for'. Relating that to friendships and relations does not enter my head at all. If I am attracted to a certain person because of the way they are and the way they present themselves then I put my best foot forward in an attempt to know them better. If the goal I set myself results in a friendship forming then I have not paid a price for it because I have become wealthier and a better person knowing that I am respected and admired enough to be part of that person's thoughts. If nothing comes of the friendship then I have also gained because I have the opportunity to look inside myself and ask myself whether there is something wrong with me or whether I saw something in that person which was not really there and therefore I am not losing out by not be part of their circle of friends. I feel that if we consider it as having to pay a price for everything it gives a negative sense to trying to strive to achieve something. I don't find it negative wanting to achieve a goal, whether I achieve it in the end or not, therefore I cannot consider it as 'having to pay a price' because whatever we do, whether it has a positive or negative result, it is all experience which we can learn from in the future - and gaining experience is never negative and therefore cannot be considered as 'paying a price'. Hope I managed to get my thoughts across as I fear I rambled a bit

You are right Deepak. Every decision that we make has consequences and they may be positive or negative. As an example I made the decision to work from home writing, My Lotting etc because it is what makes my heart sing and I am happy. The cost? Little pay which result in sacrifices like no holidays, luxuries etc. The idea is to decide if the price is worth it; in my case I get to spend time with my daughter by being home and that is priceless. I find keeping up with my friends comes at a price in regards to time for myself but then again to me they are worth it. In regards to obtaining favours from someone I believe that eventually we will be expected to return the favours ourselves; it shouldn't be that way but it is. I try not to expect anything from others and only do for people because I want to but it doesn't always work out that way in reverse! Everything comes at a price alright; take time off and you will have twice as much to do tomorrow!

Hello Deepak. What an interesting topic! Most things DO come with a price, though not a monetary one. We pay a price for a good relationship with our physical and emotional output, but the price usually yields a better relationship. There are trade-offs in many areas of life that are comparable to the one mentioned above: we must give to receive in the work place, in our home, in the garden, in the care of our self, etc. However, some of the nicest things in life are free for the taking: sunsets, the smell of rain, the beauty of nature, a hug or a smile. Now you have me thinking! LOL. Again, interesting topic. Karen

Let's put it this way. Being a pessimist I Always wait for something to go wrong when good things happen tome. I Always know for everything that is good in life ,there will be something bad.

Nice discussion Deepak, In simple words you want to say that everything that one does has some selfish motive behind it. This motive may not necessarily be a cunning one, but can be called as some kind of general basic requirement too. ... So what can we call as unselfish relationship........may be one where one does not expect anything in return or where one is more happy to give rather than to take or where one gets hurt, but the other feels the pain........well something like this can happen in real love........but where is this real love , I think such real love can be seen only between mother and children..atleast at present, in future may be even that will change....so I accept your view that in this world everything come at a price.....except mother's love for her children.....but not for her husband....

Hi Deepak, I agree with you. To some extent we have to pay either in the form of favour or facilities to keep alive the relationship. I know people are different and some may not expect anything but those people will definitely get help from other people. It means if we do favours to a particular person, (think that we are not expecting anything) but we will get favours from other people. In life it goes on like a chain. I don’t think that we can survive without accepting any help from anybody. So we have to pay the price though it is not directly.

My grandmother once told me that "there's no such thing as a free lunch" so yes to a certain extend everything does come at a price. I have turned down so may so called "good offers" but when I look at the consequence of what these entail, it's too much of a great price for me. Life itself is a price and everyone has a price tag written all over them...

Hi deepak, not parent's love. I think most parents love children unconditionally. Even though my father says he doesnt like me because I dont obey him. But I know he loves me a lot. :) So I didnt buy his love for sure. :)

well in my opinion i can say nowadays everything comes at a price.one good example are making friends to someone who are rich that you see him as not you not friend bthat you can share ideas or vice-versa but you want him to become famous and that people around you will also acknowledge you too.it is so hard to find real friend nowadays.were facing also global crisis there is no priceless nowadays everyone fight to survive by doing wrong things.i therefore conclude that i can say that everything comes at a price.

Yes I think everything has a price whether it's monetary, emotional, or physical. I think that the things we enjoy doing do not feel like we have paid a price, because we like what we are getting from them. For eample, having kids. Now I absolutely adore my boys and would not give them up for anything in this world, but I think we can all agree, being a parent has it's price. I don't really see it as "paying" a price though, because I love being a mom. I think some things in life are worth more than others so you may give up this or that so that you can have what you really want.

Nothing is free and unconditional in this world. :-) Your parents support you but they expect you to be good, to finish school, etc. Your bf's love is also in exchange for your faithfulness and love. I cant imagine you staying with someone who you've given everything to but continue to abuse you. Your friends listen to you when you need it...but it also goes without saying that you have to do the same to them. So yeah...nothing is free.

yes you are surely right that everything comes at a price. If someone loves us thats because we are providing them something which they desire to have or love. IF a person is not earning well he cant expect much love from his family. The same man when he starts to make good money would see smiling faces greeting him when he is home as everybody knows its because of his money that they are enjoying. His wife would love to be in his arms. Would be happy dressing up for him. All this has come at a price that the person is paying. For all material things its very clear you cant expect one without a price.

i do think so.THERES NO GAINS WITHOUT PAINS.when we expect something in a relationship,it is bound that the other person also expects something from us.FOR EVERY ACTION,THERES EQUAL AND OPPOSITE REACTION.

Hi deepak, Happy New Year to you....I totally agree with that. It is true of everything in life. I think our elders spoke about how we should be righteous , not harm others, not cheat others etc; etc; with all this in mind. You get back all that you give , and as you say you have to pay the price for all your actions in life , sooner or later. Regarding relationships too, it is a lot of compromise and give and take. One has to make a concious effort at maintaining friendships and relationships. It is never easy to do so. One should never take anyone for granted... There is always a reaction to every action , which is true of life and sets forth more action.... All the best deepak and happy mylotting

Yup. I do agree with that.When we want to achieve something, we need to work hard to achieve it. Nothing is given free in this world anymore.This phrase is as true as " everything has its own consequence". Have a great day, my friend.:-)

Hi Deepak I do agree that every thing comes at a price. Whether it is men or material, friendship or affection. Everywhere i observed give and take policy only works better. If we shower love towards our near and dear ones they will reciprocate. even If we give food to our dog, then only it wags its tail

I agree... that everything comes at a price.. Yes but the price is not only denoting money... In my perspective , it also denotes love,friendship,etc.. You can't say these things are not real in our life..I would say living without a good friend is like your nothing..