Do you talk about your exes?

I have talked about my ex and OMG that was the biggest mistake of my life.. lol she was so mad when I mentioned it because she thought threw out the relationship she thought I was comparing her to the ex.. LOL I was so scared when she got mad. I was in the dog house for about a good 2 weeks.. Good ways to get out of the dog house? Buy them lots of gifts! Never talk about your ex to your present girlfriend! big no no.. =_@

i have talked about my exes befroe sure, i think that is important for someone to know about your past and who you are as a whole. you dont have to go into crazy detail but you just befily tell the story and the main things that happened you know they dont need to know the complete details unless they ask you otherwise they may think your not over it you konw. i think its godd to talk about the past sometimes. Happy Mylotting!

I don't have a problem listening to my partners past nor do I have a problem in talking about mine. I try not to let my past affect me in a negative way but there is no denying that it contributed to the person that I am today. I don't talk about my ex with bitterness. It's just a part of my life that is done with now. When I talk about it it's almost as if it happened to someone else. I don't feel any emotion to it anymore so you see...it really is in the past. Still that doesn't mean that it never happened.

Hello..Actually Im into this situation right now and honestly speaking my marriage this time is in turmoil.For me pasts are should be talked and discussed in early stage of relationship.It simply displays honesty and trust on each other.If things in the pasts are constantly denied I think its an act of cheating coated with sugar candy.

No, I do not talk about my exes... unless it's to friends that are not those exes or around my current "not-exe". But if you want it shouldn't make too much of a difference as long as you don't talk about them with your current involvement.

i myself are reluctant to talk my past, because it will me cry.time is a good medicine,i think.

There are some people you can say anything to and some things you never talk about. That's how I look at it. Sometimes I make mistakes and foul up but that depends on how gullible I am. Basically you need to judge the situation individually rather than have a blanket kind of policy. That's my opinion.

We talk about our relationships from the past it dont bother me at all about him talking about his. I think it bothers him some when i talk about mine just because of his face experations. But the conversations come about most of the time from when someone does something similar or they do something and we think about it its the same thing someone else has done. The way i see it is that its water under the bridge and if he wanted to be with these girls in his past then hey so be it their is the door LOL Sounds mean but im not the type whos going to beg or pled with someone to be with me it just dont work that way.

Well, I strongly agree with your statement that past should stay behind us and no need to talk about it all over again, as we can never change it. We can't change the history, but we can try to change the future. Well, that's just my thought. =) Anyway, back to the topic about exes, I sometimes don't feel comfortable to talk even something about it, because there's no need to talk about one. Especially when topic approaches bad experience between me and the ex, or exes.=) Basically, I'm not the one who starts the conversation about exes, and if I talk something about it, then someone must have started the topic and not me. =) I just don't feel comfort as I wrote above, because we (me and ex) used to be together but not anymore. During the togetherness, there should have been some bad experiences, and I don't want to be reminded about it.

I guess it differs per case. My husband and I were each other's first serious relationship and we both agree that our "exes", if you can call them that, wouldn't really count. When we started dating, the subject used to come up a lot. I suppose it was just part of getting to know each other. Nowadays, those previous dalliances have been rendered irrelevant (really, his lasted a week, he was 14; mine lasted 3 weeks and i was 19, but, in effect, I was just as dumb a kid as he was - I was very immature, hehe). Sometimes, we would refer to the exes to razz each other, but that's about it.

I have only 2 exes and i dont keep in touch with them. What for? The relationship didnt work out for a reason so i dont want to pursue a friendship with an ex. But i've always been an honest person. When a partner ask me questions, i answer. I dont hold back not because i dont have faults or mistakes but because i have nothing to hide. And so i expect the same from my partner.

Hey! For me I am the type of person that wants to know everything about the person I am with because I believe it helps me gain a better understanding of where they are coming from and it makes me feel like I know him a lot better. Although it is hard to hear him talk about his exes, it is important to me because I feel like we shouldn't have to hide anything from each other. I mean wouldn't you hate it if your husband/boyfriend's guy friends come over and they make a joke or bring up your husband/boyfriend's ex girlfriend and he never told you about her. I would rather know so that no matter what there will be no surprises. It really is the strangest thing that we both want to know this information about each other. But in the end it makes our relationship stronger and it brings us closer together.

I've talked about my ex and I've asked about an ex while in a relationship and vice versus. I've also been told what stays in the past should remain in the past and that it really doesn't pertain to what's currently happening at the time. Well I feel that if both parties are comfortable enough, then why not??! I say make the conversation simple, cover the basics, such as how was there relationship when together, why did it end, and maaayyyybe, how the ex was towards the other (lol). Don't get too in-depth. Me personally, I don't want to hear too much, beside the few questions I may ask, that's really about it. My motto is: I'm with him now, so nothing else matters!!!!

Hello. Interesting discussion. I was divorced 10 years ago and have since remarried. My current wife was single and had never been married when we met. She had several boy friends in the past. Occasionally a name or story will pop in conversation. Most of the time in a humorous way. I did know any of the men that she had relationships with in the past so it does not bother me. On the other hand, my ex wife is very mean, cold and calculating. She has never made an effort to get to know my wife even a little bit just for the sake of my children. She comes up in conversation quite often because of the things she says and does particularly to me. This does affect my wife to some degree. Not because I bring it up constantly, but due to the fact that my ex will not let it go. I have moved on. However, I (we) will always have to deal with it. We try not to let it get to us. We love each other and that is all that matters.

We don't really talk about our exes. But we've been together since we were 18, so there really isn't much to tell. My husband is very shy and quiet so he didn't really have any girlfriends before me. High school relationships aren't really "real" relationships since most the time you only see each other at school and on weekends. So really I hadn't had much to talk about as far as exes go. My high school boyfriend that I dated until my husband and I got close was a mutual friend, so my husband pretty much knows all the details anyway. I don't think I would want to hear about past relationships.

My husband never talks about his and I never ask him anything about them because I already know everything I care too. He's definitely the type who wants the past to stay there and isn't interested in revisiting it at all, which is A OK with me. I don't talk about mine very often either and if I do it's just because the story somehow involves them. I don't particularly like to talk about any specifics, it's not something I like to think about.

i dont think it is so important to talk exes,excepting if necessary,i dont like to live in the past ,but if my girl friend asks me i will answer coz i dont have something to hide,excepting some lies;)

Talking about our exes doesn't mean we still love them. we usually talk about them when we are with other girls comparing notes about men and thier likes. Also when something reminds us of them like music, characteristics, voices and a lot of things. Though it's not good to talk about it infront of your men, but it's nothing really serious...( as for me though ). I even have friends who talks about each others exes and they just laugh about it. So I guess nothings wrong with it.