Does it matter if you are NOT a VIRGIN before marriage?

in the eastern hemisphere, until now, still appreciate the meaning of the sacred and the sanctity of a girl and an honor for her and her family to keep her virginity until she married. Back to you, are you sure your boyfriend is going to marry you?

I personally have chosen to wait; simply because I want to be able to offer everything to the one I end up with. I wouldn't want to have something in my past that they were uncomfortable with even if I was okay with it. On the other hand if they want me to be experienced, that can come in time, but you can never earn back innocence. Too many people make hasty decisions; I can't say what is right for another, but I do feel it is something that needs to be given a great deal of thought no matter what you decide. I don't know a single person who waited and said it's a mistake, however, the opposite doesn't hold true.

You go girl . I already lost mine as well and I have no regrets for I know that I have given it to someone worthy and to a guy that I love most.

just depends on how you feel about it all. but i believe in try before you buy, you go to find out as much a possible before hand. then you have up bringing come in and religion, belief's etc. it's common as now for people to lose their virginity before marriage, so it shouldn't matter really doesn't to me.

hehe~how to say, I think if "virgin" cares in your marriage, it not only depends on you, but also depends on your husband. I am in a conservative country, and there are a large pencentage of the man really care about his wife is a virgin or not. To some extent, this kind of feeling I can understand, but if the situation is serious and the virginity influence the relaionship of the couples, then, I am not very agree with that. The kind of man I really hate, is that, they have given their virginity to somebody else, but they are really restrict about their wifies virginity. How can they be so strict about other people, and what have they done before?

Do you believe with all about your friend? I don't recommend to do that. Who knows if someday he leave you correct? .

What does the one you're going to marry think of it? That's what matters. I think if they truely love you then that's something that would be over looked. People always make plans about what kind of man or women they will marry "He must be rich" or "She must be a virgin" but when it comes to real love those rules go right out the window. If they lose interest in you over if your hymen is still intact or not then what else are they going to lose interest over? If they do that then I imagine they would dump you when you started getting old and wrinkly too.

That's true it doesn't matter anymore if you are virgin or not before the marriage. Although many people still want to be virgin before getting married and their reason is that they want it to be their gift to their husband or wife, which doesn't make sense to me. Isn't getting married can already be considered a gift. The fact that your partner wanna marry you and you agree with it is already a shown of love and acceptance of who you are.

people make mistake..i am at the same position with you..i love my ex,he loves me too but now we`re living in separate lives...sometimes it burdens me if i marry someone else other than him..but nobody`s perfect..i don`t want to repeat the same mistake again, i will try to tell the truth if i foind someone..not detail,but the point..a good man is a man who can appreciate our honesty,including our past..men sometimes are hypocrite as well..they demand VIRGINITY but they play around too..

It really depends on the person, pre marital se x is very common nowadays and being a virgin no longer matters to most guys not unless that guy is also virgin who don't like to feel insecure doing it with a woman who knows more things than him in bed. Personally it matters to me, I just don't want that feeling that a woman who i will spend my life with has been had by other men. If a woman is a virgin when I marry her then that is just a bonus because I have no right to look for a virgin because am too is not. That just my opinion because I'm already married and I'm glad that I got the bonus. Cheers!

I think this is not so important as some people think. You won't get marry a girl because she's a virgin. If you want to marry her that's because you love her period. All the rest must be respected. I would only care if she's a promiscous girl.

well.. it does not matter to me... as long as he/she loves the partner no matter what his past is. true love does not measure virginity. its not also the barometer of a lasting relationship of a couple.

hmm. i dont think it matters. if you really love the person,then you also have to deal with the imperfection that person have. my own opinion only.