pregnancy out of wedlock
@claylewisthirdy (24)
Philippines
October 8, 2009 3:13am CST
The first time I got pregnant with my boyfriend,I got mixed emotions. I felt happy at the same time nervous. Happy because at last I'm going to have a baby and nervous because we are not married. I am just worried what my parents and others would say for being pregnant out of wedlock. But that did not stop me from pushing through my pregnancy. I choose to be like this, I should be responsible for my act. Fortunately, I was able to deliver my daughter through a ceasarian section successfully. unfortunately, he was acknowledge by her father, and so we broke up. Then,again I was pregnant the second time from another boyfriend, but this time he acknowledge my son. but on my third and last pregnancy,I miscarried my baby...it was so painful. But we have to move on. Being pregnant out of wedlock is not good, but it wouldn't be good either if the couple will marry just because of this and then break up because they can't understand each other anymore.
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@babyish13 (227)
• Philippines
12 Oct 09
I too got pregnant out of wedlock. fortunately, the baby was acknowledge by the father. the good thing is that, we are still together.
i do agree with you that being pregnant shouldnt be the reason why you wanna get married,. both should have profound feelings with one another so that they wont break up in the end. it'll be the baby who'll suffer the consequences later on if that will happen.
@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
12 Oct 09
I agree that it is not advisable to marry just because of a pregnancy without the necessary foundations of love and trust in the relationship. What has happened to you sounds difficult and you are to be commended for taking care of your children as a single mother and for taking responsibility of your actions.
Personally I don’t believe that you love a child any less because he or she was born out of wedlock.
@maximax8 (31046)
• United Kingdom
11 Oct 09
In the western world pregnancy out of wedlock is really common. There are lots of single parents in my home country. They are ladies that got pregnant when they were not married to the father. Some ladies are married when they get pregnant but their marriage failed before their baby was born. Many marriages fail and a divorce can upset children greatly during the first two years. Marrying just because they lady is out of wedlock is wrong. A couple should be compatible and in love when they get married then hopefully it will last. You are an excellent mother to your children and I am sorry to hear that you had a miscarriage. A relationship takes two and may or may not be successful. One lady on her own can be an excellent parent.
@gelibean (158)
• United States
11 Oct 09
Hi claylewisthirdy
I too had a baby out of wedlock. He is my only child and the best thing in my life. I was worried that friends and family would look at me differently and treat me as if I had made the biggest mistake of my life. However they were all very acceptant and helpful. My son's father and I are no longer together, but that had nothing to do with the baby. Our relationship had hit a bad point before I knew I was pregnant. We decided not to try and force a relstionship just because we were having a child.
