What was the thing that attracted you first of your partner?
By marguicha
@marguicha (223795)
Chile
October 8, 2009 6:23pm CST
Some people like looks, other people are attracted for other qualities. What was your case?
My husband´s hands were very beautiful (or so I thought). I think that was the first thing I liked about him. It took me 2 months to go beyond looks and discover that I loved him because be was generous and responsible.
He was very good looking anyway.
Share your experiences. Take care
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@ybong007 (6643)
• Philippines
12 Oct 09
What caught my attention was my wife's smile. I consider it as love at first sight. That was over 9 years ago, I can still clearly recall that moment when she glanced over her shoulder, looked at me and smiled. That was the moment I knew I'm in love.
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@marguicha (223795)
• Chile
13 Oct 09
Thanks for sharing! You sound like the type of person one would smile to.
@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
9 Oct 09
I thought he was good looking & sexy looking, he had blonde hair which i was partial to & he was singing in a club i was in. Looks can be very deceiving, his were.
@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
9 Oct 09
tHANKS FOR SHARING THE PICTURE, YOUR HUSBAND WAS HANDSOME & YOUR DAUGHTER IS BEAUTIFuL. I hate to tell u but my 1rst husband was dark headed. i'm just allergic to husbands, lol.
@marguicha (223795)
• Chile
9 Oct 09
A good husband is as difficult to get as to get the lottery. Fortunatly my husband was a rare pearl. My daughters did not have that luck and they are both divorced. They have their partners now but there are more problems than I ever had.
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@marguicha (223795)
• Chile
9 Oct 09
I´m sorry, friend. I can tell you dark hair men are quite nice.And the only really bad thing my hubby sis in his whole life was to dfie so young. He had promised me not to. I´m sending you a picture of him with my daughter and his second grandchild.
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@NurseMathilda (289)
• Spain
9 Oct 09
It's his name that attracted me first. It's very unique (which I cannot tell here)... He said that her mother got it from the Bible. It's in Genesis, check the very unique name from there. Also, I like his smile - its the kind smile that brightens up the whole room and makes someone else day complete. From aside from being goodlooking, it's his personality in the long run that attracted me completely. He's a very religious man (never skips a Sunday without going to the church).
@Sherka (82)
• Jamaica
9 Oct 09
the first thing that attracted me was his smile. It was like behind that smile there was a mystery waiting to be solved and i wanted to solve that mystery and he was also good looking.So i guess i wanted to find out who was the guy behind that smile i liked so much and i'm still learning about whats behind that smile
@NurseMathilda (289)
• Spain
9 Oct 09
By the way, it's my ex-BF I am referring at. I'm still single. :)
@krisnel (498)
• Philippines
9 Oct 09
At first when i met my boyfriend. He was so quiet then. I was attract by his eyes and being quiet. He has a small eyes that makes him adorable. Now i discovered that he is not really quiet at all he is just simply a reserve type of person. Thats all.
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@subhash467 (6)
• India
9 Oct 09
Hmm the first best thing that attracted me from my girl friend that she feel responsible for the society.She is not a self obsessed,arrogant girl.And the other main thing that attracted me is that i love her eyes,they look awesome.She doesn't apply much cosmetics to her face,she looks simple and sexy.
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
10 Oct 09
With my ex iot was the way he listened to me. Our relationship was different. we met online so I liked the way he responed to my emails. He seemed to really want to hear me.
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
9 Oct 09
I think that it was just his charm that really hooked me. My husband and I talked online before we actually met, though we had a friend in common who told him to message me... Another thing was his clothes, I love him in Cowboy gear!
@marguicha (223795)
• Chile
9 Oct 09
That sounds like a lovely love story. Cheers for computers!
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@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
9 Oct 09
Yes Cheers Indeed! Though computer communication can be bad, if you know who your talking too it's not that bad at all! lol!
@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
13 Oct 09
funny thing is my late hubby(passed away now) was not good looking at all. but i had married 4 others before him that was good looking. they were BAD guys. but this time i was looking for a nice generous,easy going, funny, and non dominate manipulating man and i found him. he was the best. everyone including me loved this man. he was a gem and i just cant figure why God takes these kind of people.
@valentinesdiner (1214)
• United States
9 Oct 09
The way she stood up for herself. I have always believed that you cannot tell a persons character when things are going well, only on how they respond to pressures and conflict.
My beloved stood her ground and carried a smile through a tough time and remained generous in spirit.
And she has great eyes, too.
@marguicha (223795)
• Chile
9 Oct 09
Thanks for sharing! Your description is very beautiful and shows how much you care.
@gracefuldove (1668)
• Malaysia
9 Oct 09
It's definitely his 'take charge' attitude. I felt safe. He was also very accommodating and very gentle in his ways. Most of all, he is driven my what he wants. And he wants me!
@phoenix1344 (698)
• United States
9 Oct 09
Well the first thing I noticed about my boyfriend (before we talked but I had the biggest crush on him!) was how different he was. He was good looking and all but he wasn't like.. perfect. But to me he really stood out. Not to mention, he was rebellious and then at the same time help the classroom door open for everyone.
Once I got to know him better I realized it was his immagination, compasssion, logic, his need to be his own person. He never ever fell into any category or label. He wasn't the jock, he wasn't the loser, he wasn't the bad kid (sometimes he was tho lol). He was just himself. It wsas refreshing because in highschool kids try so hard to impress people but he never had to try. It was just who he really was.
@marguicha (223795)
• Chile
9 Oct 09
He must be a very interesting young man. You are right: most young people try to play follow the leader and don´t stop to think who they really are. I congratulate you and take care of him.
@sasalove (1709)
• China
10 Oct 09
I assumed that I belong to those girls who care too much on the looks. I met one internet guy these days, but I am shy if he dated me out even though he is generous and responsible. His skin is too dark just like born in Affrica(I did not mean to offend anybody here or discriminate), he carries a bit pot belly so that it looks like over forties though he is in his early thirties, he did not shave his beard cleanly...Well, it seems that I can not find any shining points on him.
I keep finding my Mr. right these years. I know that I can not judge a guy just by their appearance but by their personality, otherwise I may miss the right one. But sometimes I just can not hold doging that. Is there any ways to change that I can give a chance to those guys?
@marguicha (223795)
• Chile
10 Oct 09
I think there has to be a chemistry in relations. I´m sure he wasn´t the guy for you or you would have felt attracted to him in spite of his looks.
When I was 15 I imagined myself with a blondeish (but dark skinned) guy with green eyes. At 16 I fell in love with a brown eyes, almost black haired, olive skinned person. I loved him for 40 years and that is not entirely true because I still love him after being a widow for 9 years.
@nra091501 (173)
• Philippines
10 Oct 09
actually i don't like my husband at first lol! he strikes me as an arrogant man but time let me see how different my first impression of him is and so we became friends and later beyond that! now we're happily married with two little mischievous boys!
@bing28 (3795)
• Philippines
9 Oct 09
His sense of humor attracted me first. Later I did noticed his very thin lips though we became long time best friends first thus when we shifted to lovers, I realized how caring and responsible he was.
@doormouse (4599)
•
9 Oct 09
the first thing that attracted me to my partner was his personality and he was always happy,the first thing that attracted my partner to me was my bum,men are so shallow
@EnglishTeaDuck (862)
• United States
9 Oct 09
Aw, I like the beautiful hands thing!
I met my husband online, in a Christian recovery group, so I suppose my first attraction to him was spiritual - seeing him talk about his faith and how he applied it to his life, and how we had that in common - and how he spoke to the other people in the group and cared for people.
Then when we started emailing and talking privately, I loved his laugh, and his intelligence.
Looks didn't come into it for a long time because we talked online for about a year and a half before we even saw each other - I was worried he wouldn't like me if he saw me, so I gradually sent him photos, the first was just a head shot! But when I saw him first, I noticed he has beautiful blue eyes.
@UCantSeeMe (116)
• United States
9 Oct 09
um id like to say it wanst physical but i was she had the biggest roundest ummm how do i put it hmmm eyes yea thats it her eyes.