Ever lost a friend?
@JessicaSearcy (117)
United States
October 12, 2009 6:35pm CST
I lost my very best friend in a car accident in August of 08. I was following them when they had the wreck and had to see the whole thing. It was a very hard experience being so young and losing someone so close. Has anyone else ever lost a friend? Leave your comments, I promise I know exactly how you feel. It's extremely hard to cope with.
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@craftyhomebody (443)
• United States
14 Oct 09
Dear Jessica in 1983 i was driving truck with my husband and on sept-16 we stop at a truck stop in texas and my husband step out from the side of the truck and was hit by another truck the driver had been drinking and he kept going so my husband went up in the air and back to the ground and the trailier ran over his head with out even thiking i went running over to him and i went into shock because when the ems got there i was holding part's of his head in my hands. that was 26 years ago and i still can tell you every detail, can i tell you it get easier, no it doesn't and the night mare don't help either but you need to fine someone to talk to and sometimes it just helps to hold a pillow over your mouth and just scearm as loud and as long as you want.or beat the heck out of the pillow do what ever makes you feel better but please don't keep the anger in let it out. but please know that time is your healer in away and everything happen's for a reson we don't like it but we do have to go on . life is not fair or easy
@craftyhomebody (443)
• United States
15 Oct 09
Jessica i promise you if you get on your knees and pray everyday god will get you through this bad time in your life but hang in there because time is your healer
@JessicaSearcy (117)
• United States
14 Oct 09
Thank you so much for your comment. It gave me chills reading that, even made me tear up a little. I'm so sorry to hear about what happened, I know it isn't easy. Especially when it's your husband, I can't even imagine what that was like. You are so unbelievably strong to make it through something as hard as that. Last August when I lost my best friend Ian, I was following him and my boyfriend at the time was driving with Ian in the front seat of his car in front of me. I watched as they went flying into another car and flipped a bunch of times. Turns out the other car they hit was my cousin and uncle, luckily neither of them got hurt. Ian, on the other hand got ejected from the car, because he was not wearing his seat belt. I remember pulling over right after it happened and the car was in flames. My boyfriend walked up to me and the only thing wrong with him was that he had a huge gash in his leg from something cutting him. I remember thinking Ian was still stuck in the car, until I heard him moaning from a distance. I looked across the peoples front yard that we were in, and saw him lying there. I walked up to him and I will never forget what I had to see. Watching someone so close to you fight for their life, knowing they probably or definitely won't make it has to be the hardest thing in the world. My parents wanted me to go talk to someone, but I never wanted to. I know I probably should have, instead of keeping it all bottled up. I don't believe it will ever get any easier, but I know Ian wouldn't want me unhappy. So I try to stay strong and happy for him. Thanks so much for sharing with me your story, may God bless you!
@robertjvan (289)
• United States
14 Oct 09
I've lost many friends but never quite like that, will be hard to find closer.
@JessicaSearcy (117)
• United States
14 Oct 09
Thank you for your response, robertjvan. You're very lucky you've never experienced anything like it. I hope and pray that you never have to go through that kind of hurt and pain. Happy mylotting!
@lilaclady (28207)
• Australia
13 Oct 09
it seems over the last few years I have lost so many people from my life, two of them was my best girlfriend and the other was my very special friend, he meant the world to me and I get through it through the tribute webpage I made for him, it is not easy getting over the loss of the people you really care about...
@JessicaSearcy (117)
• United States
13 Oct 09
It's not easy at all, and at times I don't believe it'll ever get easier.. I'm very sorry to hear about your losses. I know exactly how you feel and I know what you're going through isn't easy. You always see it happen and you think it will never happen to you, then it does and you're lost. I feel like a big chunk of my heart got ripped out, that's all. It teaches us not to take a second for granted though, that's for sure. Thank you for commenting. :)
@jillmalitz (5131)
• United States
13 Oct 09
My cousin was killed in a car accident when he was 16. I always felt that he was taken too soon. But things happen. He was one of those kids who was an honor roll student and athletic too. He was on track to get either an athletic or scholastic scholarship to just about any college he chose. Our next door neighbor's son was killed in a hunting accident. It just proves that you have to do the best you can every day because you might not be here tomorrow.
@bounce58 (17385)
• Canada
13 Oct 09
I can't even begin to imagine the loss you felt. And seeing the whole thing?! I would need therapy for that. That is why I always think that, that is my biggest fear. Losing someone close, even family. I would die. I'd rather be the first to go.
Sorry, this in not much help. But you did post something to think about.
@JessicaSearcy (117)
• United States
13 Oct 09
Thank you very much for commenting. :) Yes, seeing the whole thing happen right in front of my eyes was probably the worst part. It's not easy going from seeing someone and talking to them everyday to never getting to see them or even tell them you love them. It really teaches you not to take one second for granted and to live each day as its your last. God bless you!
@Albert1989 (372)
• Malaysia
3 Aug 10
Take time to mourn over your loss. This is a big change in your daily life to not have that friend as a part of it. Cry, scream into a pillow, shout,hut the pillow, play the music at its loudest possible.
Do whatever it takes to get the sadness, rage, anger, disappointed and etc out of your system. Let it out so that you can move on from these destructive feelings and so that you can cease to harbor negativity that you will continue to carry if you do not release it.
@srganesh (6340)
• India
1 Jan 10
I am late to share your feelings.Yet I want to leave my condolence here for your beloved friend.it will be really tragic to see your best friend into an accident in front of your eyes.And passing away in a young age like that is really tragic.i don't have any experience like that but it is very hard to imagine it even.
