How old were you when you got married?
@3SnuggleBunnies (16374)
United States
October 15, 2009 11:45am CST
was it a good age for you? or would waiting or marrying sooner made a difference?
I got married @ 23. I think that was a decent age. I was done at with school and wanted to move into the next chapter in ones life like getting married, buying a house & starting a family.
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@forestgold (792)
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15 Oct 09
I got married when i was 22, but i now think it was too young, as it did not work out, and i think it is because we were both young, and children came soon after.
it is a lot of responsibility, being married with children, but i do not regret any of it now, i adore my children, and have married again, and it has all worked out okay in the end for me..
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@forestgold (792)
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16 Oct 09
I would have waited until i was about 29, if i could go back.
I was in a bad place, and married him, to get away from my situation, but i would never have married him then, if my life was better.
The thing is, i fell pregnant with my son, so straight away, it was mortgage, baby etc.....so i had another baby, thinking i would be a young mum for them, by the time i was 40, my kids would be grown.
It did not work out, my ex proved to be a ar*e, so i divorced him, was left with two children to raise alone.
The ironic thing is, i met my present hubby, and had two more children, my last one i was 37 yrs old..., so much for my plan, to have the children early together.
Never mind, i am now very happy, with four wonderful kids, I would not have it any other way now.
I do believe things happen for a reason, and i am in a good place now, it just took a while for my life to improve...
@3SnuggleBunnies (16374)
• United States
10 Jun 11
Sorry your first marriage didn't work out. It sounds like you really put some thought into why things occurred like that in your life. I'm glad you are finally happy and have wonderful children and marriage to prove it.
@writermom8 (913)
• Philippines
15 Oct 09
I got married at 22. I have graduated from college and was already working then. Now, 16 years later, my husband and I are still together and continue to be the best of friends we were during our younger days. We have been blessed with children who give us joy as well as lots of learning moments.
In hindsight, I think waiting to marry later would probably make a difference. Perhaps we could have saved more money and be a little wiser in making decisions. Perhaps we won't make as many mistakes as we did then. Still, what we went through were all part of the learning process and of gaining maturity that I'm sure every couple has to go through whatever age they choose to marry.
I couldn't tell at the moment what could have been the best age to marry for me, for us. But, looking at my family right now, I don't regret anything. I just plan on moving forward and enjoy what other adventures are waiting for us :)
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@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
16 Oct 09
It's good that your family is still in tact, I guess it's not really the age that kept you together but how determined you both were to keep the family bond strong.
I personally don't think it's a matter of age, nor preference. It's a matter of how ready (or how determined) both are. As my partner would say "You got to tough it out!" it's your ability to tough it out in times of trouble that keeps you together.
I pray you'd have a longer and stronger union.
Indeed there's no perfect formula for a good marriage.
@3SnuggleBunnies (16374)
• United States
10 Jun 11
Hush now Elic! You never know when or where you'll meet someone and you can get married anytime between the age of 18 - ?
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@lovelyn_medrano (3070)
• Philippines
16 Oct 09
Worry not! I know he will come very soon. I just hope that the Mr. Right you are waiting for is not Mr. Perfect, coz there is no such person as Mr. Perfect...
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@lovelyn_medrano (3070)
• Philippines
16 Oct 09
Well it is better late than never... May be it applies to you. But dont worry, even if that Mr. right don't come, I am sure people around you (friends & relatives) are there to fill in the emptiness.
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@dragon54u (31634)
• United States
15 Oct 09
I got married when I was 21 after a very short courtship and it didn't last but a few months. I was 32 when I married again and had my first child at 33. It ended (not my choice) after 19 years. I don't think it's the age, but how well you choose your mate. I had a lot of baggage and so did my second husband.
But whatever, I'm done with it. I have my two wonderful sons, my parents and siblings so I'm all set, I need nothing more.
@nonersays (3335)
• United States
16 Oct 09
I was either 20 or 21. I can never remember exactly. I can't even remember my anniversary half the time. -grin-
My hubby is 15 years older than me.
We're still married 7 years later, and expecting our first child, so I guess it was a good age for us.
@lovelyn_medrano (3070)
• Philippines
16 Oct 09
Wow! How could you forget your wedding anniversary? Isn't it the most memorable day of our lives? Especially for us, girls?
@lovelyn_medrano (3070)
• Philippines
15 Oct 09
I got married at the age of 23 as well. Yes that was a decent age to get married. I have finished my college, working already and I believe I am prepared and matured enough. I am more like a simple person and not a party goer. I still believe up to now that I did not miss anything at all like what others are usually telling me. They said I got married so early, I was like starting to see the real world. But no regrets. I am so happy with my baby now.
@writermom8 (913)
• Philippines
15 Oct 09
Same here. I never was a party goer. I prefer to stay at home, be with my kids, read my books, watch TV, and putter around the house.
It's funny that there really are people who keep telling moms like us how we must have missed a lot of things just because we married young. It's even funnier to notice that those same people are the ones who seem not to be contented with their lives.
If I didn't marry young, I probably would have missed having more time raising my family over anything else anyway :p
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@lovelyn_medrano (3070)
• Philippines
16 Oct 09
Indeed, people have different views in life. It all depends on our definition of contentment, satisfaction and happiness.
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@jpso138 (7851)
• Philippines
16 Oct 09
I got married when I was 30. It was because I wanted to insure that life would not be so difficult for me and my family during marriage. Me and my wife are doing fine after 8 years of marriage. We are blessed with one child, he is still 6 years old. Though I wish I could have married earlier so as to have a child early and perhaps by now a little bit older. But still it was a good decision. We are happy, we are blessed and we do not have regrets.
@Shar19 (8231)
• United States
15 Oct 09
I think a good age is somewhere between 25 and 30. This way in your earlier 20's you have time to date around and party when you want. Also it's a good time period to learn how to be financially dependent and maybe live on your own for a while. Sometime after that between 25 - 30 years old, a person should be mature enough and also have enough money saved up to have a wedding and buy a house. It's funny but when I was younger I always said that I was going to be married and have all my kids done being born by the time I was 25. Well things change and I didn't get married until I was 30 years old. It took me a long time to find the right guy I wanted to marry.
@3SnuggleBunnies (16374)
• United States
10 Jun 11
Sounds like you are a good planner as to the time line in life and very good points. I tell my kids to finish school, get a good job, get married and then worry about getting that house and starting a family. Though they are quite young it doesn't hurt to instill what you hope to be the path they take when they are older.
@syankee525 (6261)
• United States
16 Oct 09
i was 18 and my wife was 17 but we had kids ealry in life. my wife was still in school but she did graduate from high school
@buckiem (129)
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16 Oct 09
I got married at 18 had my first baby at 19 and 2 more later in life and to this day have been married 38 years not bad going and still enjoying life being married.
@sapphiremoon54 (25)
• United States
16 Oct 09
i got married when i was 22 and i thought that i was ready for it.but now that i look back there are alot of things i would do differently and that would be one of them. i still wanted to travel and explore alot of things that i thought i could do even if i was married but it doesn't work that way. some people are more openminded about things than others.there is too much to do to settle for one thing so soon.i look at it as you only have one chance to do everything you always wanted to do.marriage can wait, kids can wait. if you fulfill yourself first then everything else will be so much rewarding!
@sweet_pea (3322)
• Philippines
9 Jun 11
I always thought that marrying at 25 will be the right age for me to settle.
I got married at 26. And we are pretty much doing fine with our married life. We started securing my son's future and bought ourselves our house.
@Rainegurl (2156)
• Philippines
16 Oct 09
I was 30 when I got married. Sometimes i wish that I should have gotten married when I was 25 so that I could have started a family earlier. It's not that I have met my husband recently. I met him when I was 19 and we dated for 10 years before finally tying the not! But then again I think 10 years of dating also did us a lot of good. We matured together and got over some major issues in our lives. Now, we still have our petty quarrels but I think we understand each other well enough.
@Weizen (144)
• China
16 Oct 09
Now I'm at 23 .I still be single .I have thought about this problem ,I think I 'll marry at the age of 30 .because before marriage ,I have much thought to come true and I ahve too much thing to do .so about the marriage ,I think I 'll marrry at the 30 ,but sometime ,even I think my marriage is later ,but nevermind ,now there is no girl love me ,so I don't worried about this .now I only want to use my time to come true my dream ,hehe
@moneymakingtoday (4061)
• Philippines
16 Oct 09
i got married when i was already 29. it may seem late for some but i thought it was okay for me. i had been working since i was 18 and financed another college course for myself. i was helping the family at the same time that i was studying. marrying at that age was the good age for me. i had enjoyed myself being single for a while and thought it was time for me to settle down and have a family.
@Hazelrose (2179)
• Philippines
16 Oct 09
Hi SnuggleBunnies,Well I got married at the age of 19.Before, i just don't know if it works.But with the help of God,until now we were still happy with our children.More power!