When people invite you to home parties
By sweetgirl_k1
@sweetgirl_k1 (3972)
United States
October 15, 2009 12:10pm CST
Do you always go to one of the home parties when you are invited? For example...Pampered Chef, Tastefully Simple, Mary Kay, etc... Do you feel bad if you are invited and you don't go? I got invited to a Tastefully Simple party the other weekend and I went because I wanted to see what it was all about as I had never been to that kind of party before. I liked it and the prices weren't bad but I didn't have a lot of extra money to buy anything. I did buy some of their beer bread but that was it. I felt kinda bad that was all I could buy but I really didn't need to buy that. Now, I got another invite for another friend's Tastefully Simple party and she is doing it as a catalog order and not really having the party. I don't want to order but she knows that I went to the other friends party. What do I do there? Do I just tell her I really don't have the extra money to spend? And also I got an invite to go to a candle party and I really don't want to go to that one either and don't have the extra money to spend on candles right now especially with Christmas coming up. I think it is called Party Lite or something like that. So what would you do if you kept getting invites to parties? Would you go and just not buy anything or would you just tell them that you won't be there or would you go and buy a little something?
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@happy6162 (3001)
• United States
15 Oct 09
I used to go to some of the parties I was invited to. Sometimes I would buy something if I had some extre money and sometimes I just look but did not buy. I did not feel bad as I knew I could not afford to buy all the time and the people inviting me to the parties also new I could not. They were friends and understood why and give me a book and if I ever want anything I could let them know.
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@sweetgirl_k1 (3972)
• United States
16 Oct 09
I'm glad they understood that you couldn't afford to buy the stuff and they didn't get mad at you. That's good.
@risaree (23)
• United States
15 Oct 09
I usually go to be polite because I was invited but I do feel guilty if I do not buy something even if it is small. When you go to these parties they always tell you that you don't have to buy something but why else would they be inviting you if not to make some money? It's nice to go and hang out with people but I always feel like I have to buy something, so I just say that I can't make it and ask for a catalog and maybe I will order later.
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@sweetgirl_k1 (3972)
• United States
16 Oct 09
I agree with you...that's how I feel. I feel guilty if I go and then don't buy something.
@Grandmaof2 (7579)
• Canada
15 Oct 09
Those candle parties are very expensive. Party lite has nice candles no doubt, but I have bought candles that did the same job for a fraction of the cost at Wal Mart. I think the thing to do here is just be honest and say you just can't afford to spend another cent with Christmas coming and therfore you won't be going. If these prople are true friends they'll understand and if they're not true friends they'll tell you to come anyway then get mad if you don't order, I've had that happen. Really there is no point in going and have to watch everyone else place an order. Just my opinion.
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@sweetgirl_k1 (3972)
• United States
16 Oct 09
Thanks for reading my post because it looks like the person before you didn't. lol I think that's a good idea...maybe I'll just tell them with Christmas coming that I can't afford to go and that I hope they don't get mad at me. If they are true friends then they won't get mad.
@Bluepatch (2476)
• Trinidad And Tobago
15 Oct 09
What I remember about this is that once, a long time ago, a society girl invited me to a party and I never went and so was so angry she told me she would never invite me again and she never did.
I remember this because she was a good friend and still is except that I cut myself out of her parties. Other times similar things happened to me too. I've just never taken to the idea that I absolutely had to go to anything.
The lesson is, if you don't go, watch how you do it.
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@sweetgirl_k1 (3972)
• United States
16 Oct 09
I go to some parties but I can't afford to go to all of them. And if I can't go I am nice about it when I tell them that I can't go and I always give them a reason why. I think I'll just tell them I won't be coming because I can't afford to buy anything with christmas coming up (and that's the truth) so I won't be lying about it.
@ladym33 (10979)
• United States
19 Oct 09
When I first got married and younger I went to those things all the time, in fact my friends and I were all having different parties like that so often I think we all burned out on them. I only get an occasional invitation to one these days. I make every effort to go but with 3 kids it is sometimes difficult to be able to arrange the time to go. But I always try and buy something from the person to help them out weather I go or not.
@sweetgirl_k1 (3972)
• United States
20 Oct 09
Yeah, my husband is on call on some weekends so sometimes it's hard for me to find someone to watch my child. And I don't want to have to pay a babysitter just to go to a party whenever I don't have the money to buy anything anyway.
@buping (952)
• China
16 Oct 09
hi sweetgirl, i am glad when i am invited to one's home party, birthday party most time. i think the people who invited me to her party is my close friend, so i will not say no to her party and would be there on time. and i would buy her something, such as a bouquet of flowers, it will not cost much, but you have expressed your love to the host.
@sweetgirl_k1 (3972)
• United States
16 Oct 09
I'm not talking about birthday parties. I'm talking about parties where people come into your home or someone's home and sell stuff.
@danishcanadian (28955)
• Canada
16 Oct 09
I always go when I am invited. it is a really nice excuse to get out of the house, and see friends, while being introduced to some interesting new products.
@highflyingxangel (9225)
• United States
16 Oct 09
I've been invited to a few parties and I normally don't go. I've never been actually. I just tell them I'm busy, I've got previous plans, that sort of thing. I'd prefer to stay at home or do whatever instead of going and being pressured into buying something that I really didn't want or need in the first place.
@sweetgirl_k1 (3972)
• United States
16 Oct 09
I go sometimes but I just can't afford to go to all of them.
@icegermany (2524)
• India
16 Oct 09
people invite us to parties when there is some occasion or any functions and also sometimes for get togethers. even we invite them for the same, may be sometimes it is possible that we arent able to go and due to that we need to cancel our visit and sometimes postpond it and sometimes it is also possible that we go and attend the party. it is obvious during our visit we have to take something for the host orelse it might just not look good.
@jambi462 (4576)
• United States
16 Oct 09
I try to go to parties that people invite me to because I want to be nice and hang out with them and enjoy their company but sometimes I just don't really feel like going to a party. There's a lot of weird things going on at parties sometime and sometimes a lot of people is just to much for me to deal with sometimes.
@sweetgirl_k1 (3972)
• United States
16 Oct 09
I understand. I go to some parties but just can't afford to go to all of them.
@Sweetchariot (1718)
• United States
16 Oct 09
I only go out of obligation, and if I can get out of it before I do. I hate those kind of parties, and there isn't anything I would purchase from them. SO, I tell those I know, to not invite me if they ever decided to host one of those events. Then I don't have to come up with tons of excuses why not to go.
@Rite17 (773)
• United Kingdom
16 Oct 09
those parties are to make people at ease and so you can see hopw things will look in ur own home... rather than going to the shop and thinking, 'does it go in our kitchen?'.
And alot of the pricing is because you are paying extra for the person selling items at your home... they ahve to sell so many products each time for them to gain any money from it... aswell as gaining so much from the products themselves! There is one over here that is fun more than ought else over here.... Ann Summers parties... Where girls can be sold fun toys and undies etc... And have few demos of games you can buy for partner fun, clothing, toys and more!! Person hosting it gets another party discounted and person selling items can hit her goal on how much she is selling.. And with it being a fun night with girls, drink, games and demo's it does work out very well!!! :-P
