I am getting scared?

I dunno but I can tell you this, if you ever accuse him of it an continue to do so, he will eventually. I think it's more likely people who believe in nothing cheat, as in atheists, most people who believe in a higher power fear the repercussions.

Just one thing, not just men cheat, it goes from part to part, both parts are equally cheaters. I reffuse to see that my future would be like that(I am not married nor with a girlfriend), but i know that if i love her truly i would never do anything like that(to start with i would not get with her if i dint love her), i just couldnt live with that. I think marriage is important, and one should not get married as one changes shoes. What i mean is that marriage is a big step and should not be taken lightly.

[i]Hey phoenix this is the same thought that runs in my mind, and it is so much strong too because i had been betrayed a lot many times by every relation not just by my guy but by friends and all abouts.I too get scared to know people anymore. But i think till we dont give life a chance we wont ever get about the being of the human who is before us.I think till we dont dive into the pool we can never judge its depth right? so just give your life a chance...and hold on to your good ways everything will turn good.[/i]

just trust him phoenix...i love my girlfriend very much and i would never ever cheat on him..

the more you fear , the more you are driven to that situation. stop being afraid , sdo whatever your heart says it's right and proceed.

There is a proverb saying "what you are affraid the most, will happen". Translated as you'll mak it happen. As I liked the psyho-sociology, I managed to find out that this fear comes from and self-fuel the jealousy. If one "love" another "so much" that become jealous, in fact is a mix of pleasure to be with, afraid to loose and the feeling the loved one is a private property. The key factor into a relationship is a balance between - will to be together vs desire for independence - sense of property vs trust - understanding otherone needs vs accepting to change yourself All those above should be valid and active for both. The secret of a long lasting relationship is ... friendship. Husband-wife, parent-child, sister-brother, cousin-cousin, neighbour-neighbour, coleague-coleague .. whatever, the only real solid "aditive" in a couple is friendship. On the other hand, as we are talking about love, I feel I have to quote Joan Baez's "love song to a stranger" lyrics : "Because if love means forever, especting nothing returned Then I hope I'll be given another whole life time to learn"

I think it is only normal to feel that way because we see a lot of marriages break down nowadays because of cheating. As you said, as if it is something that has been accepted now. But don't let your fear paralyze your thoughts and dreams of a good family life. It can be real or perceived fear, something that may not actually happen to you. It shouldn't stop you from loving and being the most lovable woman your boyfriend has ever known. Love him unconditionally and if inspite of that, something went wrong. At least you are privileged that once in your life time, you have truly experienced how it is to be truly in love. A rare experience. No, not all men cheat and they don't see the reason why they should. enjoy life!

Well you have found at least one that would not. I have never cheated and will never. I am however on my third marriage. I can hear you now.....ohhhhhh there he goes he says he doesn't cheat but he is in his third marriage....what does that tell you. What it tells you is my first marriage lasted for 37 years. Somewhere around our 30th year...quite by coincidence I discovered my wife had an affair early in our marriage. That tore me up but in pressing the issue I soon found it was far more than that. With the help of a crisis councilor I overcame that trauma and we went on. I justified it because it had been so many years in the past and we were young. Problem is that due to our circumstance at the time in year 37 she did it again..this time with someone she met on the Internet. I divorced her. When I recovered from that I begin to look on the Internet. To shorten a long story I found her and we married. Problem with that was she had serious health issues and past away within five years. So now I am with my third wife. This will be the last no matter what happens. I love and loved all three dearly and never, even though I had the opportunity, cheated on any of them. My commitment to our marriage would not allow it. Sorry for the long story. Maybe....just maybe your boyfriend will be like me. Then all you have to worry about is how you will handle someone else paying special attention to you. :) Good luck to you and your man.

You know what, all I can say is "You'll never know". There's no right formula for love, neither would you read your future or destiny. But if you keep on scaring yourself with unnecessary stress, then sooner or later your boyfriend would have to look for someone more 'stable'. Actually, that's what my boyfriend used to tell me. He keeps on telling me that I shouldn't worry about something that's not happening because if I'm stressed, then he's also stressed about it. I don't think any man would ever go through marriage thinking that they'll cheat after a few years. I think it's not nature that pushes them to cheating but it's out of circumstance. Perhaps they got tempted or they lacked intimacy with the spouse, or perhaps the spouse is just not lucky she got a bad egg. My mom always tells me that marriage is partly luck. You can't say a person will be a good husband or not based on the few years (how much more few months) together. It's the circumstances of their lives that makes or breaks the bond. Which is why marriage is not a game but a vocation. It should be thought of and not rushed. Thinking of failure from the beginning won't help the marriage to work. It actually pushes the partners to committing the mistake because you are pre-empting such a thing to happen. So, take it easy. Just remember that it's a decision both have to make. It's not about age, nor is it about something else. It's a decision to take the plunge or not.

well its not just men who cheat but woman as well. but if you both are willing to be open when you come across a rough spot in your relationship things will be good.

I just answer that topical .I think in this world there is much cheaing .some cheat is bad ,but some cheaing is honest .you know sometimes in some situation, we have to say some lie to cheat .so we call them " beautiful lie" so I think in thsi word ,every man say lie .maybe he lie to his gf .maybe he said lie to his parents . So about if this cheating is good ,or bnad ? it depend the situation .in my eyes .most of cheating is suck ,I have too much the man cheat girl .so I think most of situation .the man should keep be honest .in some sepcial situation ,mayhe he could say some lie

Men are polygamous in nature. Sometimes they are unable to control themselves especially when they are with their guy friends. However this does not mean they love you less. They are sometimes just caught between being macho and sensitive. When you are already married we tend to forget romance. It kills the excitement. Therefore it would be best not to dwell on your responsibility as a wife. Stay as his girlfriend even with kids. And please always dress up specially for him. This will ecite him more and not look for other girls.

Well it's been 8 years since I married my wife. I admit that I still get attracted to other women because I admit there's always someone who is better looking, more beautiful (my wife is the most LOL) , If I want to I can easily get into an illicit affair but there's always something that scares me. I always believe that it's easy to get into something but getting out is another story. I had an ex girlfriend back in college that I hurt so bad that up to this moment I still feel sorry for what I did, I know she has moved on and has a family of her own but I promised to myself that I will not let my wife go through the same pain that i caused my ex. I'm not saying that I'll be having the same outlook ten to fifteen years from now, but it's been working for us. There's just too many heartbreaks, even broken families out there and I don't want my family to be like them.

i think you're not supposed to be scared when you get married.you must belive you boyfriend.maybe mens outside have affair with other girl when they got married.i think you better make some conversation with your boyfriend about how beautiful life when get married like you can help each other,trust,share each other and have many children and see they're smile until you both get old

Cheating has NOT become accepted in marriage or relationships and I doubt very much it ever would be..besides if it were to be then it would no longer be considered cheating really since by accepting it its more or less giving consent or saying its okay I expect it type thing ya know.... As for your fear..well talk to your bf about it...voice your opinions, feelings and fears adn talk to him about it..If after your chat with him you are still feeling this way then I would say either you really dont trust HIM therefore shouldnt be settling down with the guy OR you have major issues within yourself that you NEED to deal with before settlingn down with the guy.

I can definitely understand why you're scared. Unfortunately it's way too easy for a man and hey..even a woman to cheat on their significant other. I feel pretty lucky that I married someone that I trust so much. I could never dream of him cheating on me and he feels the same way about me. We're very committed to each other. I feel very lucky. It's a scary thing, for sure. You just have to have a lot of trust in your spouse.

women cheat too, it depends upon the person......u shld not scared to get married and have family of your own...you better scares if you don't marry and have family... just do your best as a good gf or wife to him in return he will too...

hi friend, i think you are scared of men nowadays.. all men doesnt have same character.. you are feared because of some of yur friends stories... think well and do it.. dont take any plan immediately... after also you are afraid , go for any marriage consulting with your boy friend .. then your problem will be solved i suppose.. Moreover believe the other statement , dont be blind on acivites ..

I Think cheating depends on ones character, on how the person behavior to others,but then again not all men cheat on their beloved wifes, and there is nothing to be worried of a married couples love eachother there may be some conflicts in life, from that we learn to trust,am sure there is one or the other conflicts among a husband and wife, a difference in opinion but then again this is life it cant be that easy, remember this always show love,compassion and loyalty to your partner so that he may not leave you with reasons.

hi phoenix dear, you know what my husband is always telling me not to be scared in everything coz if you are scared then there is no love in your heart. so don't be scared what will happen next in the future or i'd better say don't think of the future, enjoy what you have in your relationship now, mold it and nurture it. every relationship has to pass all the challenges and the temptation that is so strong to destroy it so be ready with that. men of course dream not to cheat or hurt their partners but temptation is everywhere. bear in mind that nobody is perfect, even though these men or we want to be one we simply can't. what you can just do is fight for your big love.