How does relationship affect your work?

@xarex777 (467)
Philippines
October 16, 2009 7:58am CST
I'm working as a call center agent and I think I'm falling in love with my co-agent.. I'm a bit hesitant if I'm going to tell him/her that I'm in love with her because right now we're okay.. I'm just thinking that maybe if ever I told her my feelings then it could affect our job since we're on the same team. I would like to ask some advice from you guys.. What should I do?..
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@bjcyrix (6901)
• Philippines
16 Oct 09
You think you're falling for her or are you already in love with her? Just making sure that its too late to go back. I mean if you're already in love with her you cant do anything about it anymore. If you're still falling then there's a chance that you can still suppress or stop it from happening completely. If you wish to stop then you need something to 'wake you up'. If you so welcome the feeling then that's up to you. Are you sure you are in love with her as in 'in love' or maybe you're just admiring her for the way she is and that doesnt necessarily mean that you're already in love. It just means that you appreciate someone for who and how they are. Well, if you know that you are in love. Then you have to weigh the pros and cons of confessing your feelings. How is she with you? I mean do you think that she's the type of person who still remains friends with someone who has confessed to her or is she one who tries to avoid guys who have confessed their admiration for her..?(There are women like that.) Will this newfound love of your affect your work ethics in a good way or in a bad way, or will it not affect work at all? Im not really good at this and I think logically even when it comes to emotions. I was just sharing my opinion about the matter. It would still be up to you anyways. If you really wish to pursue having a relationship with a co-worker or not. Goodluck to you!
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@bjcyrix (6901)
• Philippines
27 Oct 09
Hey dude, how's it going?
@xarex777 (467)
• Philippines
17 Oct 09
Hi bjcyrix! It's been so long before I stayed active.. I think I'm not totally in love with her but I can say that as time goes by, I'm starting to know more about her and I really admire her personality, her views in life and her attitude. Maybe I need some time to think over my decision to go back as you have said or if I can feel that I can't stop my feelings then so be it.. I'll face what ever possible circumstances will arise.. Thanks!
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16 Oct 09
I married my boss so I can't say much. I'd advise caution though, as it can make things difficult if the feelings aren't the same. I once had a co-worker send me flowers and love letters and I had to let him down gently, but I wasa little wary round him for a long time afterwards. Invite them out for a drink as friends and see how it goes, build the friendship out of work and if there are feelings there it will develop on its own
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@xarex777 (467)
• Philippines
16 Oct 09
Hi LitteMrsSunshine! According to your story, it's very risky to make decisions like this. A very nice advice you got there to invite her outside and to build friendship outside of work. I'll try to do that!hehe Thanks
@babyish13 (227)
• Philippines
16 Oct 09
hi xarex, i am a call center agent too. and i have a friend who is involve with a relationship with his teammate. they are a few good things on being a relationship with a woman on the same team BUT there are LOTS of bad things involved too. i was a witness of their month old relationship. First week was OK. the 2nd week, became terrible because the guy had to be on a LOT of auxes. cause everytime the girl is on break, he would be on aux and would follow the girl too. His metrics were not met and he was about to be ground for termination. Good thing, he was able to cope up with his metrics. he was the one who had to split up with the girl since his metrics were affected. and imagine, they were on the same team. So every team huddle, they really would see each other often. So i suggest that you better keep your feelings to yourself. But if you are really so in love, then its your choice.
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@xarex777 (467)
• Philippines
16 Oct 09
Thanks for sharing your friend's story with me.. So I better think twice or even thrice when making decisions like this, right? I care not just about my own career but also hers.. After 5 months of not being active in mylot, I can feel that I can rely on you guys! I hope you enjoy!
• United States
25 Feb 10
wierd how its usualy call centers for these topics. lol. anyway i worked at a call center for years. trust me in my opinion its hard to work with someone you realy like. i mean it doesnt have to distract you. but it does in ways because she/he is all you think about. i have been there, it even went as far as making out in the cubicals. but seriously it didnt get to go too far because of the fact we couldnt work because we ended up sitting by eachother all the time. but telling him/her your feelings depends on how close friends you are, how interested you guys are with eachother, and how well you can talk to one another. maybe you should just try to tell her you have something important to talk to her about and then when you get the chance just bring it up to her slowly.