Can a man who grew up without a father be a good dad?

I see that situation differently. I really do believe that guys who have grown without any father fgure would try their best to become a good one. They would not want their children to grow up like them feeling abandoned or unloved so they will try their best to become the best father they could ever be. :D

Oh I totally disagree!!! (Respectivly of course ) If anything I would say a man who grew up without a father around is more likely to be a good dad. They know how it feels not to have a strong figure around, and he'll want to try extra hard to be that figure for his own children. Of course, really, all men are different and would be different in this situation...to generalize something like this wouldn't be accurate (in my opinion). You can never really tell how something will work out for different people! Good discussion though

I think that a man, who grows up without a father or father figure, can be a good father. My husband doesn't have a good father, at all. He never really had that father figure. But he is an amazing uncle and father figure to our nieces, who pretty much are in the same position as their mother and uncle, who are brother and sister. He loves them like they were his own daughters, and really does his best to be there for them. We're both away at school so it's difficult to do as much as we would want, but we do our best. I don't if this is the case for every man, who is in the same situation as my husband, but I do think that a man can be a really good father or father figure, even though he didn't have one.

My father n laws dad left them when he was about 4 his mother had boyfriends that came and went, some weren't very nice, once he told me one of the bfriends asked if he wanted to play hide and seek, he said he was so excited to have someone to play with him he said yes and went and hid. He stayed in his hiding place for hours, finally coming out to find no one home, they left him all alone. He says alot of bad things happened that he dosent talk about. He's my husbands father and was a great one, coached, went to all events in his sons life, because of growing up like he did he went in the total opposet way. He broke the pattern, and still is a Great Dad, Grandpa, & father n law.

I would have thought it was the other way around. A man grows up without a father knows how it feels and knows what he missed so he should be more determined to give that to his children. Some guys are not fit to be fathers and some are born to it .. i was brought with a bad father but i was determined to be the opposite and make sure my kids were not raised the same way.

You may have a good point because he is less likely to know what to model his fatherhood off .On the flip side though his father would have to be a good father because then he could be a bad father because he would seek to emulate the parctices of his father. There is a school of thought that I subscribe to and that is if you grow up without a father then you would know all the things you are not supposed to do and you make the extra effort to ensure that your children dont grow up without a father.At least you make sure you are there,it may still happen that you dont know how to act but you still try . I didnt grow up without a father and I have vowed not to put my children through that . That is my theory ,I may be wrong but thanks for a very good discussion

I don't think a man who grew up without a father cannot be a good dad, there are men I know who grew up without a father became an excellent dad because according to them, the emptiness they felt growing up without a father became their inspiration to become a good dad because they did not want their children to be deprived what they don't have when they grew up.

Yes a man can grow up to be a good father even if he has never had a father in his life.There are lots of good fathers out there that are good even though they have never had a father of their own.As long as the child is played with as well as looked after and the person has patience anyone like that can make a great father.

for me its a 50/50 he might be good enough or too bad to be a father. growing up without a father is not easy and somehow it affects our personality and outlook in life it really depends on how people take the consequences. some take it as a challenging factor but some take it too hard so they go on other way around.