A friend online want me to meet in person but I don't want to meet him...

I have always considered meeting online friends personally to be risky, especially since we are females. Unless a person is referred to me by a friend and I will be meeting him/her with someone else, then I think that would be okay with me. I think you should explain to him why you don't want to meet him and that you will be cutting the communication lines with him because you are no longer comfortable talking to him. After all, it is his fault because he is being too demanding about meeting up.

You are getting warning signs. Do Not meet this person. You did right.

Hi dear! If you are still talking (chatting) him it means that you want to continue the friendship. I think there is nothing wrong in meeting with him, if you meet him, you will come to know more about him and then you can decide whether he is worthy of your friendship or not. All the best.

hello irene3184, why not? besides he is your friend. i think there is nothing wrong about meeting him. maybe, he just like to meet you in person and that's it. if you have a boyfriend, it's just fine. maybe you can bring him with you so he can meet him too. this way, your boyfriend will know about him and that you don't need to worry about explaining everything to him. besides, i think he has the right to meet you. he treasure your friendship that's why. not all people or friend that you met online will bother doing such.

I think that if you've told him you have a boyfriend, and don't feel comfortable with meeting him in person, then he should respect that. If he doesn't, I think the next best thing is to ignore him. If you didn't have a boyfriend I would have suggested to tell him that if he wants to meet you he must not be so persistent as it is frightening to you as well as bothersome. You've got to be careful when meeting people you didn't know before... It can be dangerous.

hi meet that online friend if you trust him and just do what your heart says and just blindly dont meet him,we can never know how that person might be in real.and if you are compelled to meet him,then go along with your boyfriend.first make sure how good he is and then meet him or just you ignore him and you wont have any headache because of him. have a great time

Listen to your gut. It is trying to tell you something. You are uncomfortable for a reason. I hope that you did not give this person any of your personal information. You should not worry about offending him. Just tell him that you have a boyfriend and that you don't meet people from online. Then stop talking to him entirely. Don't feel bad. He sounds kind of creepy really.

If he is not respecting your wishes then in my view he's not safe to be around! It's good that you have been chatting online as friends but it seems that he has very little respect for you. You should not meet up with someone that you have been communicating with online if you don't feel entirely comfortable, you should always listen to your gut instinct. Follow your heart and you will do the right thing. Good luck. Andrew

I think it is a good ideal for you to sever ties with anyone who wants to meet you in person that makes you this uncomfortable.

You have to be blunt and tell this person that you don't want to meet and you don't feel comfortable continuing your online friendship. Trust your instincts and blow him out of your online life. Just ignore his messages and he'll soon get fed up and go and pester someone else. You're in control here, remember.

If you do not want to meet him then do not. If he can not except that you just want to chat online then you need to just ignore him and not communication with him even online. It may hurt his feelings but he should respect the decision you have made.

Hi irene Well it depends, you are feeling uncomfortable means he is expecting too much out of you i guess, then you plainly tell him you don't want to meet him, if he agrees happily then you can continue chatting with him but if he still insists even upon your hesitation then it doesn't look like a good sign, you will have to ignore him... hope he just wants to be friends with you, and if that is the case he will respect your disagreement and chat as usual... have a nice day irene!

You just made a right decision. First it is not good to meet up with somebody you just know online... It is very dangerous. As we all familiar with, many are getting into trouble because of that. It is hard to trust anybody now a day. A person can be who he or she is not, they can pretend and be what others like them to be to gain ones trust. That is easy to do. I am not saying that people we met online, phone or text are all hiding behind mask... but it is good to be careful and make precautions. Second, you have a boyfriend. I don't think it is fair for him. We both know that this man's intention is not only friendship. He wants to take one step forward...Just imagine putting yourself in your boyfriend's position, would you like your boyfriend seeing and meeting other woman? How would you feel? Just ignore him. Being friends online is okay, but you must put limitation and boundaries on it. Take care and have a nice day!

I think you do the right thing not to meet him in person especially by yourself. You only know him from online not in person so it's means you don't really know him. And seems that he's so pushy to ask you to meet him, if he's a nice person he will not be that pushy to ask someone to meet. Just explain to him again that you can not meet him as you have said to him again and again, especially now you have boyfriend, if he still keep bothering you, just ignore him. I hope you don't give your personal details, such as home address or phone,etc..please be careful.

Why in the first place does this person want to meet up with you? You might have stirred his heart in your earlier chats with him that has made him hopeful and eager to meet you in person. Chatting can be quite a dangerous game if we place false hope on others that would land us in a crossroad. I remembered a recent report in our local papers where a person came down to our town looking for his chatmate. Apparently this guy has fallen in love with his chatmate but this woman chicken out when she knew that he was coming to see her. What he did was the craziest thing anybody can think of. He wrote on a big card the name of the lady and placed it around his neck and went around town with that card hanging from his neck. Could you imagine how this lovesick guy attracted many curious onlookers including the media to highlight his dilemma. He want back without ever meeting the lady in question.

hello irene, They are more than meets the online EYE, or they're not always what they seems online. first, it was the greatest move that you have ever done, because you never know what he might do to you, if you feel you need to trust your instincts of not communicating with this guy anymore, then do it. i remember one girl who had the same thing as you are, they met up and she end up getting raped. but in my case,I was introduced with the help of a relative, but after a while she stopped talking to me. i remember being ignored or be avoided too simply because the person doesn't wanna talked anymore, took me a week to realize because she kept turning invisible in Yahoo Messenger, after months i added her in friendster but never talked to her.

Hi Irene. You have a choice - don't talk to him (ignore) anymore, or continue chatting online but leave whenever you like without feeling obligated to respond. Some people just don't know how to respect the wishes of others. So far, yes, you've done the right thing.

hi Irene^^;; i think you'd done the right decision not to meet him especially that u have a partner. anyway, try to explain to him again in a nice way that u cannot just meet him like that because your bf will not allow and u don't like to be sneaking behind his back. if he still persist, you'd rather delete him as one of your buddy rather than always to be in invisible mode. that way, he cannot bother you any longer. have a nice day

then stop chat with him and if you dont like to meet him in person then dont....just simple as that..ignored him if you dnt feel comfy and dnt like him and you said you had BF, why your chatting to others does your Bf knows about it...

Hi,you are right as you have decided not to meet him in person,but i feel you should have also avoided chatting with him online.Hope atleast from now onwards you stop chatting with him.I feel it is not safe to chat with a stranger online.Many a times we fail to recognise the true colour of a person whom we will be knowing from years,only in certain situations their true colour comes out and most of them will be so clever ,that they keep us in dark for a long time.So think twice before any decision,think if you really want to continue friendship with that stranger online.