Has a visit from your son ever just made your day?

I know just how you feel! My two sons are in college in Arizona where they were born and raised but I had to come home to the Midwest or I would have been so miserable. I miss them horribly! They call me 2-3 times a week and the other day I got an email from my eldest tell me he loved me and thanking me for all the love I'd given him all his life. That made my day!! I saved it and look at it often. Children are God's gifts to us and if we cherish them as He cherishes us, they'll bring us joy and comfort. I'm so glad your son came to visit! How is his job hunt going?

I understand completely.. My son married about 2 years ago and I really miss having him at home.. He lived at home with his dad and I for 28 years, so after all of this time, it is hard to get used to him not being at home with us.. He and his wife came for supper last night and we had a great time.. The guys cooked steaks on the grill, and after dimmer, we watched a movie.. It felt really great to have him at home, it felt like old times.. I agree with you completely Hatley, it does feel really good to have a visit, it does make your day.. I also hope that you get adjusted to your new living arrangements soon, changes are sometimes too hard to get used to.. I keep telling my husband that I am moving to the Senior Citizens apartments, especially when it is time to mow the grass.. Sometimes the upkeep on our house gets to be too much.. Hope you have a great day and a visit from your son everyday.. Take care

That's just lovely Hatley...my kids live far away, the one that drives works full time. They are both pretty self involved and have little time to visit with me. The elder one comes a couple of times a year, I've seen the younger one once in 5 years. They live in the city, I live in the bush...it's a rat race down there and I have trouble finding my way round with all the new, faster roads. They are cross with me because I don't visit them and when I explain I'm no longer up to the long drive or used to the new roads and faster conditions they don't listen. For me to visit means leaving my animals and I can't trust anyone to look after them properly. My best friend won't even follow my instructions about feeding times and play time and so on...if I go I worry about my 4 legged friends; if I don't go, I'm a uncaring, selfish mother.

well, I have no children, adult or otherwise, but I hope I make mom's day visiting her

Hi Hatley Oh yes..Many times over. I love my adult sons and when they come and visit with me or just call me lets me know that they haven't forgotten about me. I know when they become adults they have their own life and to think that they can work me in on their busy schedule just makes me real happy. As you know my one son isn't around close but he does write and calls me too. It was funny that he called me the day that everything went crazy for me. You have a great day and keep smiling.

Oh my, Hatley....I don't know how to say how much my heart has just gone out to you! To be stuck somewhere that you do not want to be has to be awful but luckily your son does at least visit. There are so many people living in retirement centers or still in their own homes who do not even get an occasional visit from their adult kids especially since these days a lot of families all live in different states or are too busy with their own lives to find the time to visit each other. So sad. Anyway, to get back to your question, yes I have felt elated when my son, his wife and our grandkids come to visit. It does seem to make all the other lonely times just magically disappear. We live in Ohio and our kids live in Tennessee so we don't see as much of them as we would like but my husband and I do make it a point to visit them in Tennessee every two or three months when we can. They try to come here to Ohio two or three times a year too but it is very difficult for them since they have four kids and three of them are in school or sports programs and so on. We are lucky to see each other as often as we do but every time we have to part again I feel the pain.

Well, I was never able to have kids of my own, but I do have 2 God daughters that I keep in touch with from time to time. They both now are in their late 20s and live in other states now, but it does my Heart glad for sure when I can hear from them. One of them just got married this last January before moving away from Eastern WA, and I shocked her and suprized here by showing up at her wedding. It was a wonderful time indeed.

Here's hoping that one day soon you can be in a better situation than that retirement home...but yes, it really must have made your day to have your son visit you--how is he doing? Any better job prospects coming his way? My thoughts and prayers are still with the two of you

oh God yes! i know what you mean. i love my son here but when my youngest comes over im so glad to see him because he hardly ever gets to come by. he always brings the 2 babies. his boy 3yrs and little girl 9mths. im so glad your son comes to see you. it sounds like hes a special guy.

Absolutely. When my youngest son went off to Uni, I was gutted... the full "empty nest" bit. On the 3rd weekend he just turned up on the doorstep with a bunch of flowers. Two Christmases ago, there was a knock on our door at about 10pm & it was my older son paying a surprise visit. He and his girlfriend had driven over 200miles after their Christmas lunch. It is always wonderful to see either of them &, just getting a text/email from them can really brighten my day

If my adult child came to visit me I would be really shocked because I only have one daughter and she is seven! (LOL) Seriously I can certainly appreciate how that would make your day; it is a reminder of why you are doing what you are doing. I hope and pray that when my daughter grows up and moves on with her life that she remembers her old mother every once in a while and gives her a call or better still takes her out to lunch! I hope those blues have stayed away Hatley.

Hi Hatley! I know exactly what you are saying and how you felt. When our children grow up, and get busy with their own lives whether it's continuing on a path or is transitioning into a new one, it's heartwarming and gratifying when they make time to spend with us. I've always thought that the greatest gift a child (grown or not) can give to a parent is the gift of time. There just isn't anything that says "LOVE" more than that. I'm glad you had a great day!

Hello, Hatley. I live in Spain, and all my children are in England, so I don't see them very often, although we're often in touch by phone and email. Last week, I was feeling quite ill for a couple of days, after being badly bitten by mosquitoes and suffering a reaction. One of the kids - I have 2 sons and a daughter - called, and I said I didn't feel so good, but it was nothing to worry about. The next day, all 3 of them phoned, at about one hour intervals, to see how I was and ask if I needed cheering up. They all chatted for about 15 minutes, so that really made my day. At least I know where my kids are concerned, it's not out of sught, out of mind.

Oh Hatley, I wish u were staying somewhere near me. I would visit u every day. :) And even make u some nice tea, and bring in some fruits. :) I can understand how lonely u must feel. And ur son - god bless him - he truly loves u! U really knew how to bring up kids. :) Pity, he couldn't keep u with him, and as u understand his problem, I think it is a gr8 bond based on love and understanding that u both share. :) Wish I would also have something similar. :) But u know Hatley, out here, there are folks, rich Indians, they give their parents a room in the house, and treat them like unpaid nannies, cooks, housemaids. Realy! And one of the sons I knew even insults his father left and right, for not having saved enough wealth for him, even though this son has a very secure government job. When i think of people like this, and I compare with ur son, I think it is the way u instilled values at right age. :) Have a great day. :)

A visit, but more often a phone call - definitely yes. I have five wonderful sons, but they are all living a distance away. One was in England for 12 years and another in England for 7 years. They are all back in Australia now, but the nearest is a four hour drive south. One is a 12 hour drive north and the furthest is an 8 hour flight, plus more time spent in an airport between flights. All the boys phone regularly and it is always a happy occasion. I have so often hung up from a call from one of the boys or from a friend, thinking how timely the call was and how much I appreciated it. I would love it if my sons could just "pop in" and I would love my grandchildren to be able to do the same, but I am thankful for modern technology that allows us easy communication. What a wonderful world!

Hi Hatley, My daughter doesn't come and see me as often as she used to so I don't get to see my grandson an awful lot, yet of recent she has been popping around a bit more which has meant a lot to me..it may seem silly but it is those little things that our children do that can take a weight off our shoulders...hugs LoLo

My only son still lives with me and my husband. But it is always a joy to be with him when he arrives home from work and the 3 of us eats our dinner together. Oh I just love to with my family and I do understand you my dear why a visit from your son really made your day! I hope he makes the visit more often!

Of course it will make my day, i think any mother would be so happy to have a visit from their son or daughter. Specially, when we are on a retirement center like you are now. I hope that you did enjoy your day with your son dear friend.Take care always!

[b]Hello my friend Since I am with my daughter I never had this happen, but its always wonderful to see our kids no matter how old they are, I know this made your day my friend, it makes me smile just knowing you had a great visit with your son, you talk about your son alot my friend, so we all know how much he means to you, I hope one day you can be together again my friend, that is something I look forward to reading from you as well I can't wait to read that discussion. Smoochessss my friend[/b]

Hi Hatley, Even when family and friends get separated by miles, a telephone call or an email can brighten the whole day. I refuse to believe we cannot spare a few minutes once in a while to contact a loved one. If the world ever gets that crazy, I hope it stops spinning long enough to let me off! I am happy for you that your son lives close enough to visit you. I too am overjoyed and "settled" after a visit like that. I don't care how old our kids get, or how busy their lives may be, I think it is vitally important for us to stay in contact with each other. I hope you are feeling better, and wish you many more happy visits with your son and your friend.