would you accept help from your ex-boyfriend?

Hi cheriezhao In my opinion, if you have already really forget your feelings to him ("forget/lose your feelings", not "forget him" because the latter means you have amnesia or what) you will treat him like normal people, just like normal friends. I have on ex and now I look at him as normal friend (although we separate badly) So if he ask me for help, I will treat him just like he is my ordinary friend who ask my help. If I can help, I will help. If I can't, I won't help and apologize, that's all.. Don't mean to judge, but seems like you haven't weep away your feelings for him. If that's the situation, better to avoid him for a while

It all depends on what the help is exactly. I get help from both of my ex husbands at times and at times I give them help too. My ex not long ago, stopped by just to borrow my phone. He has called me when he has broken down and asked for a ride. Yesterday I borrowed a saw from him. Our situation is different than yours because we have kids together but still. I guess I would have to hear more of why he was offering help and why you were so insistent on refusing it to really answer your question accurately.

I can not find any reason not to accept ex-boyfriend help. Although you and him are not in love relationship, but you still are friends to each other. Every one need help from others. if you can get his help without any condition why you choose refuse it? my suggestion is take it easy and keep a good relaitonship with him if you don't feel any pressure. more frineds more worlds.

whatever help him, should you have seen and considered as an offer from a friend, not an offer from a former lover. Love it can be lost but the camaraderie and friendship do not you drop out. Remember, humans are social beings who always need help from other human

Meeting your ex-bf is not advisable this time especially that you are in the healing process stage. Seeing him will not help the process instead will trigger some more pains. If you are serious in moving on after your break up then refrain from receiving calls from him it will not really help. Once you're okay and have moved on go ahead dear anytime you can meet and see him. Wait... is he still winning you back? Try to discern and way the pros and cons the bottomline here is whatever you're comfortable with, whatever help that you need to speed up the healing process and what will really make you happy--it's your call dear!

Good afternoon cheriezhao ,I am sorry to hear that ,I have departed with my boyfriend for one year ,at the first ,I do the same with you ,but after a short time ,we met again and talked a lot about ourselves ,at the last we decided to become best friends all the life ,up to now we still get along well .We love one another before ,I believe two persons can be friends after beaking up .Trust me ,you can ,Enjoy your life !!

my ex? no way. the only way mine would be calling me is because he needs something. you're better off not accepting it,because then there may be some feelings of obligation.

It actually depends on the circumstances surrounding the break up. Some couples actually break up and remain friends. I broke up with a boyfriend of four years and while the break up had been difficult to deal with in the first place, we just felt that we had so much great times to choose not to be friends. So when I need something and he is free to help out, it's not a problem with us. Judging from the way you handled the call from your ex, I am guessing that you have not been in good terms at all. If it makes you feel any sort of obligation or discomfort, I guess it would be better to forego the help from your ex. Accepting help should make things easier, not make you feel any form of negative emotions. Good luck!

It depends what kind of help he offered to you and whehter you are really in need of this kind of help. Most of the people will choose the attitude that never see never mind when the relationship ends up. That is why a lot of girls like you removing all the items relating to him. Does it help? Articles can be removed easily, message can be deleted easily, but how about memory, which has been deeply installed in your mind already. Why not just accept the breaking up truth and be friends with him again? I supposed it would be hard for you. For me, I can make friends with ex on if he is willing to and I think the guy is worthy of making friends. Life is short and nothing is a bid deal for that. If you can not conquer yourself for the past memory, the hatred is always in your mind. I think the story will be definitely different when you can treat him as one of your common friends and gradually you will find that you don't love him any more. Happy mylotting.

I wouldn't accept his help because it really won't even help me at all. It would pull me down again when I'm really trying to get up and move on with my life. It would be best if you tell him honestly that you wouldn't want to talk to him anymore.

I have be-friended all my ex in the past. No bitterness from the past. Some of them really make a true family friends. My wife said, she had made it too. Nothings wrong with it, really. Its all in the past and we all should move on. What should not be broken is the friendship you share before the relationship. Your problem is the opposite, you don't make amends before split-up. And now ended-up as enemies. Surely, you wouldn't accept any help from him.

Depends on what he did.But,why not,especially if u need help,maybe u can use him?!Be carreful,not to regret later,for him not to hurt u.Or,who knows,maybe get back togheter,depends on what u want..

If you haven't forgotten him, then you made the right choice. Accepting his offer and meeting up with him will only make you go back to zero, and you're going to have to start all over again. Been there. Done that. The pain won't go away easily. And I understand if somehow, you felt cold. But don't entertain that feeling. It won't do any good to you. Just remain strong and all things will come in to place soon enough. Moving on is harder than breaking up and it's really hard to start all over again. But it's all worth it in the end. Good luck to you.

help from my ex no way i better ask help from my parents than to my ex because he is not part of my life i only ask for help to those who part of my life

cheeriezhao, Since the both of you could not be together in a relationship then you could choose to be friends. If you are already ready and able to accept the fact of this breakup then, I just do not see anything wrong accepting help (if it is needed) and there is a sincerity from the other party. Is there anything really wrong? I really admire your straightforward and decisive character here but I just cannot help feel a tinge of bitterness and some unwillingness in letting go. I hope that you are letting your personal feelings rule over your logic. Is there anything wrong accepting some help, when you really need it? I hope you will remember these words I have here as you move on from this relationship: You began with nothing. You cannot lose nothing, but you can win something. Take care and have a nice day.

Wow that seems like quite the situation i mean, if the reason both of you broke up wasn't too bad and if he is a good guy i would have accepted the help but id make sure to write up some kind of promise on how to pay back so they don't hold it over your head and make sure you have receipts or bank statements to show you paid back,what i mean is, make sure its either a loan or present, so that way you don't get messed up in more money problems.

Since you have decided to move on by moving to another city by accepting his help you are letting him into your life again if u want to move on you have to forget about him

nope,his my ex-bf i dont want him to contact me because i want something to help me out.i would call my friends rather him lol or my present boyfriend.it gives you connection again if to your ex-boyfriend and might he will court you back that seem so wrong since if you were have relationship recently i guess it is not right thing to do.but if no ones around or available then it is just fine in case of EMERGENCY.

yup, why not, but for only some information i need..

Hello friend... This is a very sensitive question and I don't think anyone could come up with a real answer to this as it is between you and your ex.And you will only know the real reasons behind this break up....if the case is very serious than you should avoid him and if it is not so serious than may be you can reconcile because it seems that you still want the guy.....This is a view OK...