Dominant or Submissive?

I am both. It actually varies, depending on the situation you are in. My husband and I have different roles in our relationship. I am the one responsible for maintaining and recording our finances while he is on the growth and wellness side of our relationship. For me, guys who are submissive did not lose their male ego. I, for one, admire guys who can let their wives lead the relationship but on a certain level only. Things change but I think it will always be for the best and not for the worst.

I think I am both.there are times when I was the dominant one in the relationship.there are also days when I let my bf (now ex) decide on what he wants to do for a date.I think it helps balancing things out.my ex didn't feel emasculated when I made the decision regarding our relationship.he wasn't a slacker either,because he has to call the shots sometimes.

Why should the man be dominant? for that matter why do EITHER have to be? a relationship generally should be EQUAL should it not? In my marriage in some situations (for example when it comes to the kids) I'M the one in charge and in other situations (for example when it comes to finaces etc) my husband is in charge BUT both of us include the other, go to each other for opinions and suggestions etc..its a two way street as it should be...

As a man, naturally I prefer to be dominant. But realizing the fact that in order for relationships to be balanced and well taken care of, its actually good for men to be sometimes submissive to their partners. This creates a feeling that women too can make decisions in the relationship - they feel a sense of belonging.

Deep down I belive the woman should be submissive. Not all the time of course but most of the time I feel men should be more dominent. Call me old fashioned but that is honestly how I feel. Plus in my relationship with my boyfriend, which in certain moments I do have a back bone and I do become dominent, I still feel the guy should be in charge. And that is probably because he always knows how ot calm sm down when I lose my mind.

I think in my case it's neutral. There's a certain balance. Sometimes I'm the dominant one and sometimes she is. We don't want to reach into a certain level wherein one of us will rule our relationship. We agreed to understand each other and that both of us should be the ruler of our relationship. King and Queen. :) shadow41

There is no dominant or submissive in my husband's and my marriage. Sometimes he takes the lead, sometimes I do, soometimes we walk side by side. it all depeds on what is going on, and what the situation is. We each have different strength, and leadership in various situations depends on those.

It depends on the character of the person. I prefer to be silent and have my ways followed, if you know what I mean ? I think about what I do so I don't promote foolishness. So I'd like it followed. Not as a dominance thing, rather, as a sensible thing.

Since I am a man it will be much safer to say that I am the dominant type. Men always got away with arguments and they always win most of the time. But it does not make me happy if I am always at the upper end because it's not right. I can't always be right and being dominant will only make me more abusive or a selfish person. So I rather to be in between so that I can balance the system. I want to be dominant if the situation called for it or like if I think I am right and that would be the time to insist my opinion. But if I think I am wrong then i don't mind being submissive from time to time.

Hello mchavez, I think I am partly dominant and partly submissive. It depends on the situation. If I feel that I have more knowledge in these things or that my opinion is better than my partner then he should follow me. But sometimes when He is on the right side then I would be submissive on him. Take care and happy mylotting red_amethyst

I truely feel females are the submissives and that is how its supposed to be but that is just how i see things. I do live the D/s lifestyle and have a Master that guides my life and I love every minute of it. I think it works much better if there is a strong bonded between the two people and they each know and agree to their roles. If theres conflicting oppinions between the D/s then it will never work and their will not be a total submission. Submitting unconditionaly is part of a submissives love toward her Master, that uncontrolable desire to please her Master.

i hope i'm not on that two.

Let me be more specific... In my married life i prefer to be submissive rather than to be dominant. Usually when u are the opposite it triggers clashes among couples that end up to a more miserable life (being married for almost 28 years) to be accurate. I have been dominant during our earlier years and it was hell .... so i wud like to advise everyone (in my opinion) to be submissive.

yeah,the truth is that sometimes the man in the dominant and the others would follow his,maybe the man seems more strong,but not at any time,if you want a harmonious relationship that sometimes you must become the submissive one and sometimes to the dominant one...

During the first 2 years or so of my present relationship, I used to be more dominant and assertive compared to my fiancee who is more submissive. However, later of our relationship, there are changes. I became submissive now. It doesn't worry me because I know the relationship now is for real. Besides, I found nothing wrong to be submissive to your partner sometimes. It gives rise the idea that the man has to be more superior.

Now, in the beginning, most people put a mask, especially guys. They'll play the submissive type to get the girl. By that, I mean, doing whatever you want them to do- where to meet, at what time, etc etc. If you know your personality type, don't hide it. Show your true colors, that way, you will attract your type of personality. I've dated were DOMINANT, just like me. In the beginning, most of them would put a mask- they'd do whatever I liked, call me when I liked, do whatever I'd want them to. However, after a couple of more dates, I'd notice how they'd try to control me and told me "This relationship is just for fun, don't take it too seriously otherwise, I'm out." By that, he was showing me his true colors- "It's either you play by MY rules or I'm gone." A SUBMISSIVE personality would tag along and say, "Sure, it is what you say it is." But to test him, you would say back, "Sure, we can have fun and take this lightly but we play when I want to." If he agrees, he might be submissive. It's a trap, a game, that people do to see if the other person is attracted to their type or not.