how can women find their own value after devorced?
By yaotian228
@yaotian228 (6)
China
4 responses
@zed_k4 (17589)
• Singapore
23 Oct 09
Here is my suggestion: Find a hobby or something; revamp yourself, get a new image and start a new career. Get busy, hang out with friends and show to yourself that you can live without him. Give all the love that your son needs; and show him that you will always be there for him; even though you are no longer with his dad. Hope this helps...
@yaotian228 (6)
• China
24 Oct 09
Thank you my friend.Once I thought of leaving this city and taking a new job.But my parents didn't want me to do so.They love my son that much!And, I'm a teach, in our country,the job of teaching is a consoliditive job.
Thanks a lot.
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@manong05 (5027)
• Philippines
24 Oct 09
I can say that some women find their true life and value after having a divorce. It was their married life that made the hell of their existence. There are tons of things to do to make our life meaningful, it's us for the taking. We can always start with keeping ourselves busy doing things that we love doing. Online earning is a good thing to focus on, who knows we might discover something good. Career development is another, finding a good job and excel. Having a son in itself can make our life worth living.
cheers!
@yaotian228 (6)
• China
24 Oct 09
Thank you, my friend. I'm really very busy now.I bought a new house for my son and I,I must pay the debt,so I'm taking two jobs now.How I wish I can have more time to do something for my own.
Thans.
@nextellady (126)
• United States
24 Oct 09
I would say take your little boy and find a good church. Seek God and everything else shall come. Ive been in this situation before and I tell you if I didnt have the Lord I never would have made it.When I was 20 I had my daughter and her dad bailed out. I worked 2 jobs 40 hrs a week each to just get by at min wage 15 years ago! I prayed to god everyday and sure enough I stumbled in to a career and wasnt even looking. A customer who noticed me ask me to come work for him in the wireless industry. At that time I knew nothing about the business and it was not very popular. Little did I know I could make way more money with my brain than breaking my back! I more than doubled my income in 4 months working 1 job not 2. I started paying tythes to the church and I just kept prospering. I stayed with that company for 11 years as the GM, I could give you so many testimonies! I know have a great husband 2 kids and my own business. Did I mention I dropped out of school in 9th grade! God has been good to me. The most important thing is to stay positive even when it hurts lol! Stay strong, Love your baby - men can come and go but a son will always love his mommy!And most most most important just enjoy your life. Be happy. No matter how much you worry about something it will not change it and in the long run it works its self out! Just remember this to will pass and in a few years when you look back it will be like looking at someone else! God Bless
@yaotian228 (6)
• China
24 Oct 09
Thank you my dear.Thank you for exchanging so much with me.Your experiences are colorful and your life is beautiful.You have encouraged me a lot.I am 31 years old,there is a long~ future for me, and ,for my son.I'm sure I can manage.
Thans ,dear.
@Albert1989 (372)
• Malaysia
31 Jul 10
According to my teacher, divorced women can start dating after one full year after the divorce. This is probably good advice for many women. However, there is something unnerving about a rule with no exceptions. Single females should be encouraged to read whatever they can about dating, but ultimately, women need to find what works for their lives.
Besides that, it's wonderful for a divorced woman to have another adult to talk to, and it shouldn't be someone who's hitting on her. if a newly divorced girls can find a friend who's divorced as well, then they already have a lit in common. Also, it is difficult to go out into the world to look for love alone.