Venting
By CRIVAS
@CRIVAS (1815)
Canada
October 25, 2009 6:45pm CST
Do you feel like you can vent to your friends about anything? Or do you find that when you try to vent, your friends only see it as you complaining? Do you let your friends vent to you? Why or why not? What are some of the things that you vent about with friends? Why? Do you feel like venting to your friends makes things better? Have you ever decided to confide in a friend during your venting, only to have them use it against you? What did you do? Why? I know that I once had someone who I thought was my best friend, but turned out to be nothing more than a liar, and a user. You see this person used to vent to me all the time, and since I thought that we were really good friends, I trused them with some heavy venting. Turns out I shouldn't have cause while I thought that we were friends, she thought of me as a sorry friend who's only use was to give her and her friends a good laugh at my expense. What's worse is that the things that I had told her in confidence were aired out for everyone like today's clean laundry. It sucks but sometimes I wonder if venting is more trouble than it's worth. What do you think,?
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@blue65packer (11826)
• United States
26 Oct 09
This has happen to me too! I have been used by people I thought were my friends! Now a days I only vent to my friends I know I can trust and have been friends for along time! These friends know me and know most of it is venting! When I complain they will let me know and I will stop doing that! Most of my closest friends do vent on me and same with complaining! Venting is better but if we didn;t complain to someone then who can we complain to?
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@vikkiz (518)
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26 Oct 09
I vent to my best friend all the time!! We have our routine venting session everynight at about 10.00pm lol, Its normal for us and even if one of us thinks the other is complainin we tell each other then laugh it off, My best friend would never go round telling people things i had said.
Obviously like you say this girl wasnt your friend and it was better you found out sooner rather than later, forget about her and move on. shes oviously a very insecure person, and lets face it she may be jealous or why would she want to hurt you?
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@sweetgirl_k1 (3972)
• United States
26 Oct 09
I do feel like I can vent to my friends, my mom, and my husband. It just depends on what I need to vent about as to who I vent to. If I need to vent about my husband I will usually vent to my mom or my best friend. If I need to vent about my mom then usually I will vent to my husband. And if I need to vent about friends I usually vent to my husband or sometimes my mom. I trust all of these people with information when I vent and I know they would never say anything to anyone else about what I'm venting about.
@twoey68 (13627)
• United States
27 Mar 10
I have a venting network...my Mom vents to me, I vent to her, my friend vents to me, I vent to her, my cousin vents to me and I vent to her. It's a give and take thing. We all need someone to vent to and what better ppl then your family and select friends. It also helps b/c since we have specific ppl to vent to we don't feel the need to vent to everyone, if that makes sense.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
26 Oct 09
i FEEL AS IF MY FRIENDS & I CAN VENT TO EACH OTHER ANYTIME WE NEED TO. tHAT'S WAHT good friends do.
@nextellady (126)
• United States
26 Oct 09
I am a good listener not much of a talker, I keep everything in and thats not good all the time. I use to have a friend I did talk to but we no longer see each other with jobs life kids etc... I think you just have to have that one friend you can trust and they just dont come along very often!
@jeanena (2198)
• Bucklin, Kansas
26 Oct 09
I have a problem with venting to people , because like you said some people act like you are complaining. I know sometimes we all need to just get stuff out in the open. I am usually the sounding board for people , but have had a couple of people that told the world everything i had to say . Or heaven forbid you say the wrong thing they act like your talking about them ..lol
@Gesusdid (1676)
• United States
26 Oct 09
Well as for your past relationship with that so called friend , Hey look at it this way your privacy at the time was exposed , BUT you saw first hand how she really was without the mask on , So let her live her life a lie , cause thats what she is , a liar and a phony , Me friends come to me , often and tell me about their problems i have no issue with that , thats what real friends for each other so you in return i give em advice if i can , but usally they just want a ear of opinion , Now i would vent too but keep my issues to a minimum pretty much only cause ive been like that since day one , i just give em what i want i never go overboard or tell em anything they can use against me , then again when i think about out , i really dont care if its used against me , cause thats apart me , yeah that happend to so what ? im not going to hide from it , thats what they want if they use it against me ..
@MrKennedy (1978)
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26 Oct 09
From many past experiences, I've discovered that it's best for me to keep my mouth shut and often keep my "vents" unvented.
I definitely agree with you CRIVAS about friends using many things against you. This has happened to me more times than I care to count, and through loud-mouthed idiots who I thought I could trust and confide in, the process of venting my feelings has caused more problems than it solved, and certain comments that I felt I just had to get off of my chest have in actual fact come back to bite me...Hard!
And CRIVAS, sorry to hear that. It's always an agonizing experience whenever you realise somebody who pretended to be a friend actually has no interest in you whatsoever. The only thing you can do in this situation is try to bounce back and move on, even if it is much more difficult done than it is said.
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
26 Oct 09
Maybe I am just not tursting enough because I try not to vent my problems out. The big disadvantage is that I am most of the time wound up tight. Mylot has become an avenue for me to rant. Being a bit anonymous has helped a lot.
I try not to burden my friends with my problems, because I also don't want to hear any of theirs.
@sunnycool (12714)
• India
26 Oct 09
dis hpnd to me a couple of times when we treat them to be our friends nd share everything but they turned out to be user freindly ones.i hate those kind of ppl.yes i have been hurt bcoz of dis for the first time nd decided to stop caring abt it.but one thing to be remembered is gud ppl make gud friends .we may not have a gud one now but will get one for sure.have a nice day.
