Long-distance relationships

I had the same experience before. I and my boyfriend live hundred miles from each other. It was a challenge for our relationahip. But we only need 3 things to keep our realationship. TRUSt, LOYALTY and LOVE.. We hold on to these three things and we survived. We now live in one City so we can see each other any time of the day.

i have been involved with this kind of relationship before sad to say i have been working hard for the relationship for quite sometime but, sad to say it didnt work out..we could see each other 2 times a week since she is in another city and im working far from that city..and i did came to a point that she met another person, so it came to my mind that having long distance not only needs constant communication but also continuos touch..

Oh dear, everyone is being a bit negative...lol...but I think they are right in that it is very difficult to sustain a long distance relationship. I, however, will spread a little joy, if I may! I met someone several years ago in an online group we were both in. We chatted on the group for probably a year and a half, and then over Christmas, because we were both directing Christmas plays at our churches, we starting emailing privately about that. Eventually we started talking on messenger every day. In all this time, over about two years, I was in England and he was in New England, USA. Eventually, I went over for a holiday in America to meet him. My Dad came with me (he'd always wanted to see New England in the fall, and I would NEVER go and meet a man I met online alone, however well I thought I knew him) Eventually, on a later visit, he proposed while on a train to Boston! (I'd thought he was really moody that morning, but turned out he was nervous!) I had to go back to England for another year while we went through the process to get me a fiance visa. We now live in Massachusetts, and on the 25th September this year had our 5th wedding anniversary. So go for it if you want to. But know it is what you want, because for me it was worth it, but it was also the hardest thing I've ever done, in terms of homesickness, etc. But yes, it can work!

I dont like long distance relationsships i think they never work out because you never see them or do things together be better off as just friends

I've been in a Long Distance Relationship before and i'm glad to say that it work out well with us and now we're reaping the fruits of our labor. Since we got married we have to live apart like a thousand miles away...he was here in the US while i was in the Philippines with uor son. We've been living like this for almost 5 yrs we only got to see each other for a few months then back again. I would say that the most important ingredient for this are PRAYER, FAITH, TRUST & LOVE. and with the help of todays modern technology, nothing is impossible! Don't lost hope keep on fighting and at the end everything will be paid off... ;p

i know that long distance relationships are very difficult. i feel your pain but you know what even how far that person is away from you its doesn't really matter because as long as you still care for one another nothing can destroy what the both of you have. At times, it will really be difficult but always remember the consequences if you let go of your friend. Good communication and trust is the name of the game.

I pity you, I could empathize with you because i know just how you feel. I was nearly been in the same relationship and it is indeed difficult, especially if there is still no security in the relationship. What i mean is that commitment just hangs loose and both of the parties still don't know what to expect in he relationship. I am not sure how to get on with that kind of relationship but what i only know is that if both of you loved each other deeply and can commit to that kind of relationship, then just go for it.

A long-distance relationship is always difficult and requires commitment and sacrifice from both partners. In your case, I guess it must be doubly hard since, according to you, you are still just "friends." So I'm assuming that you aren't really that committed to each other yet. But I guess if you really have feelings for her, then your effort won't really be wasted. IMHO, in the end, even if the relationship doesn't work out, at least you have given it your best effort and so you'll not be left with "what ifs" and "should have beens". Just my two cents! ;)

Just like majority people here say that they dont work because of communication and love i agree , eventually you have to be together and cant be away from each forever , it hurts and sucks espically like when you have those moments within those bad days and that person isnt " THERE " with u , to like give u the simplest thing such as a hug or a pat on the back or sumthing , its rough but its beautiful when you first meet and stay together ...however dont be a dummy and be surprise if it doesnt work out, or if sum cheating or something to that level goes on in that relationship..dont blame that person but just keep in mind and to yourself.

If I were you, I couldn't give up this relationship for long-distance. In china old poem, there is one sentence about your status now, that is; if your friendship is ture, why not care about long-distance ? So long-distance oughtn't be obstruction for you and your friend. moreover,modern communication is so advanced that you have many ways to reach and contact with the other side. telephone, internet...are waiting for you to contact with her at any time.

My wife and i live in different city now.It is really hard for us not to live together.The first day after she leave I will miss her.She often complains about that situation.I always comfort her although I also feel bad.After less than 2 years,I will graduate and we will be together.It is hard to keep good relationship with your friends or partner.Well we could see and hear each other today on line,but it is not enough.If you love her and need her,you should try to stay in one city.

Your description fits mine. It is though, but always try to keep positive thinkings and keep in touch to each other.

Yes it is worth it. I meet my wife online and she lived halfway round the world. W only got to see each other maybe twice a year but chatted every day on the net. You just have to trust your own feeling and hers.

well...i had ever been in a long distance relationship and we broke up cause the passion fade away as time went by even we broke up i still treasure the time i spent with her it's the most valuable memorize for us

Online/long distance relationships are a joke! I know so many people who meet online, but they do not take the steps needed to meet each other in person. Then there are those that meet in person once, and never see each other again. To be with the person that you love, you have to take the steps necessary to get to that person.

For the long term solution, I strongly advise you guys to take your efforts to come to the same city toghter if you surely want to keep this relationship with her, and I don't think long-distance relationship will have a better result if they can't stay together always... For the short term solution, I think you can have a kindly communication with your lover and tell her all about your concern and let both of you make more confidence for your relations...so good luck and hope you can get your lover in the future...thanks

It is hard to be in a long distance relationship if you dont have trust to your partner especially when something happened to your past that you could not give another chance to be far apart. Like for me when the time my partner was away for more than a month, its hard for me to relax my self if what was he doing and whom with him for that day. The only thing i do is to make something else that i could divert myself in order not to give stress for my self.

It is a great challege for those who have long distance between. Somebody will think that it did work as it will increase the relationship after the departing time. But depends on how long you are distant and how long you are going to meet each other. In my disctionary, a week is long enough to see each other. We are human beings only rather than the saint, we get to maintain the relationship with each other by communication, not only through the phone, but from the little behaviour. I don't think that love can be tested by the long distance. I spend several years to keep the long-distance with my ex, and finally we moved together and realized that many problems existed nowadays. The several years is not a short time that we can escape. I think I just waste the time in those years and now need to start over again. But if you really love her, just stick to it and talk to her to find a better solution for solving the distance problem for the sake of future life. Effort is worth those times if you think it is worthy of it. Good luck to you.

You can work it out, if you remain in contact, at LEAST every other day or so. But you have to trust each other, make the best of the time you DO have together. The conversation is the important thing here. Quality, not quantity. Spend time talking about what's going on, but don't complain about anything the other COULD have done or be doing, when they are miles away, and can't. That induces guilt and frustration. They have to be enjoyable. Write emails and send pictures back and forth. The internet has made Long distance relationships a bit easier, but also a bit harder, as while you can see each other, if you really love each other, you want to hold them, but can't. Long Distance relationships CAN work. Only two times a year will be tough, but anything is doable, if both are willing to be without the other for so long.

I am not in a long distance relationship, but alot of them don't work out. Not saying yours won't, but you never know. If you really want more, then one of you has to be willing to "relocate" otherwise this will drag on for years and who knows, by then she might have found someone else and you can't go back and get all the time you lost.